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Do All Indian Men Hit And Verbally Abuse Their Wives?


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Hi,

i am posting on this forum because i desperately need answers. I am of indian background but not born in India. I met an Indian guy and we had plans to get married. However he has a strong personality and so do i. We had numerous fights in the past, he told me he cant deal with emotional pain. Being in pain myself i could not stop letting out my feelings and kept dragging on things. After two years, it has now reached a stage where he will slap me, hit me, throw things at me, spit on me (rarely), choke me. I told him many times that i cannot live like this. I was not raised in this kind of violence. In the begining i would go back to the relationship because i felt it was not life threatening. Two months ago it became worst and worst. I would struggle to breathe when he would choke me, he would pull my hair. He would slap me. One day he asked me why i am quiet, why i seemed changed. I only told him quietly, 'the way you treat me when you are angry, do you think i can be happy'..

he started abusing me with all kind of words, (i forgot to say that he also abuse me a lot verbally). i kept quiet for this time (usually i dont). I went to sit on the side as my tears started to fall, suddenly he started throwing things at me. I was SHOCKED, because his temper would escalate in a fight, but here, there was no fight, it was just a conversation; what did i do? I only answered his question! I got angry and threw things back at him. Finally he got up from the bed in rage. I knew i had to get out as i knew he was going to attack me again. I locked myself in the bathroom. I was too scared. I actually feared for my life. I could not believe that the person who loved me so much and whom i loved so much actually made me scared to death. He tore all my clothes with a knife in the room. I never contacted the police before, I did tell him before that if he continues i will have to call the police. He used to say to me, call the police so that we can end this relationship. I called the police that day. He was shocked. He said in his culture, no woman calls the police to put their husband out. I did not press charges, even though the police kept asking me if i wish to do so.

I said i dont want to press charges, i just want to be safe. My friends told me that he would be happy with a submissive woman. Please help me understand. Do all women in india have to be submissive and accept anything and everything? He said in his culture noone calls police to throw husband out. Did he expect me to wait till he kills me and still not do anything for my safety? If i could defend myself i would not have called the police. But i am not strong as a man. Why does not he understand that? Doesnt he feel bad to attack someone who cant defend back? Does not he realise how much i suffer from his attacks? Because apart from his anger, he is the most caring and loving man that i ever met.
Thank you.

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common ga prathi intlo jarigedhey kada..

 

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common ga prathi intlo jarigedhey kada..

 

kotaka pothe mogudu kadu kotinchuko ka pothey pellam kadu... 

 

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common ga prathi intlo jarigedhey kada..

 

kotaka pothe mogudu kadu kotinchuko ka pothey pellam kadu... 

nee yavva....lol....keep the flow flowing....

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