Estory - Whitewashed Indian Pori

[Myaav]

My parents are first generation immigrants. I have a younger brother and younger sister. In my family I was always the rebellious one; I would often challenge my parents. My family was very strict, when it came to dating and my siblings usually fell in line. However, I would challenge that norm.

 

My brother and sister were very repressed with their sexualities as a result, while I lost my virginity at 17 to my then boyfriend. While my brother and followed the traditional Indian path. My brother ended up not having any sexual contact with a girl until he got married at 25 (arranged marriage) and now they have a child together. My sister (too never kissed a boy) has recently gotten married too at 24 with an Indian boy she met at our Temple (both parents approved).

 

I live in LA, a city where both men and woman tend to marry a bit later in life, and yet I still spent the last years of my 20‘s feeling that somehow, I’d messed up. I had followed the wrong trail and thus, my “important-life-moments” timeline was off. Even with my more progressive friends it began slowly at first, when I was 27 ... an engagement post on Facebook, an invite to a wedding—it was happening. People I knew were beginning the next stage of life and saying “I do.”

 

Throughout my whole life I never really dated any Indian guys; I exclusively dated white guys. However now I realize more than ever that the guys I dated never really took me seriously. They never really viewed me as someone they would eventually marry. I was always just some exotic fun. This part was definitely a realization that has hurt me to the core. I didn't actually do it to spite Indian men or anything like that. I did what a lot of my white female friends did; I thought I was the same as them, but that could be farther from the truth. Most white guys I ran into wanted white wives.

 

I am now 32, and seems like everyone in my family has lapped me. I too want a family a marriage. However, now my chance of finding someone is gone. At my age getting an arranged marriage or finding another Indian man to marry me is out of the question. Majority of Indian guys usually get married pretty early. Often either to another Indian girl they meet here, or they go back to India for an arranged marriage. My parents have tried signing me up for a matrimony site, but of the guys I’d meet they would be turned off by my history (drink/eat meat/not a virgin).

 

I don’t know what to do, every family function we have I feel like I am an outcast. Everyone is completely happy with their family. Being a single woman in her 30’s I am always met with suspicion. My brother and sister are also happy with their families and children and look down on me. Although, my parents have been supportive of me, it feels like they look at my brother and sister and are like, "this is what happens when you become whitewashed (embracing Western Culture) alone and unhappy."

 

I don’t know what to do, it seems like the dating pool dries up rather quickly. No guys really see me as anyone they want a future with. The few progressive Indian guys I met that I really felt like I had a future with ended up leaving me for a younger virgin bride from India. One of my exboyfriends (Indian) told me "You are great and all, but I can get a much better looking girl if I go to India, and one that will also cook for me."

 

If any of you guys. have any advice for me please share with me. I feel so alone right now. My friends are all married, my family looks at me as an outcast. I don't have any culture because I am not "actually white" and I am not Indian because I am "white washed."

 

I just wanted to make things clear I didn't "sleep around." Most of my relationships have been long term I have only been with 18 guys and I have been sexually active since I was 17 years old. When it comes to having a relationship I would like to marry an Indian guy, mainly because there are a lot of parts to my culture that I hold dear and don't want to give up. I love Indian food, love the prayers the ceremonies, the weddings, the closeness of family. But I don't think that's feasible.

[Nene_Thopu]

Only 18 ee naa

[saradagakasepu]

 pathivrata siromani

[mustang302]

[Moon_Walker]

Started at age 17 and ended at count 18.
Runrate more than 100%

[Nellore_peddareddi]

[Nene_Thopu]

Started at age 17 and ended at count 18.
Runrate more than 100%

Baaga catch chessaav

[Puri]

yeah lets date...if things work... we can marry

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Yup, when you are fucking random guys and riding the cock carousel your sister and brother found their partners. You should have listens to them.

Now you hit the wall and nobody wants you period. Even if you find one they will marry you for some benefits like citizenship or something.

Stop complaining about guy or indian guys in particular no one is going to come forward to marry a washed up whore.

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[ManOnFire]

Comments section is too funny

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Hey, Asian woman here, Pakistani family, also raised very strictly and sexually repressed. I can relate to your rebelliousness; I too was (am) rebellious and always challenged my parents, and I too have had to pay the price.

I can hear the loneliness in your post, but one thing that screams at me is that you don't seem to respect yourself, and I want to say that you are a wonderful person that deserves respect, love, and kindness. You deserve to be valued by the people you've dated, and it seems like maybe you've put yourself in positions where you were probably taken advantage of (emotionally speaking). Perhaps you are too quick to fall into love in hopes of getting someone's affection, and they don't return the feelings? Perhaps you are so desperate for love, affection, belonging, etc, that you cling to anyone who gives you the time of day? I understand--I too went through the same thing, dating anyone who would pay me a compliment, ready to do anything for them at the drop of a hat, at any tiny sign that they approved or valued me. Unsurprisingly, this was shallow. These people that I responded too actually took advantage of my desperation; they did not value me or the relationship. Eventually, they left, after mistreating me, and threw me aside like I was a piece of garbage.

I don’t know what to do, every family function we have I feel like I am an outcast.

I don't have any culture because I am not "actually white" and I am not Indian because I am "white washed."

OH man, I can relate to these feelings 110%. Please, please don't sell yourself short. I have been there with these feelings of shame and its tempting to believe everyone around you when they seem to say "You are not like us, and therefore, not good enough." It's simply not true.

You are special and you chose to live life on your own terms. That is a wonderful gift, not something that everyone gets to do. You might be punishing yourself for not getting the love and respect that you so desperately want from your parents and family, but I'm here to tell you that however you live your life is acceptable and wonderful because you are living it on your own terms. You can and will have a family, and you have every right to enjoy it, regardless of whether anyone approves or not.

My advice for you is to start valuing yourself and be proud of who you are. Treat yourself with respect so that any potential love interest will do the same, and you too can have that lasting intimacy that comes from a mutually loving relationship. Jumping into a family superficially will not solve your problems with feeling alone and unhappy; in fact, they might actually exacerbate them. I've had to slowly learn to do this myself, and am in a happy relationship (with a white guy, I might add, that my parents do not approve of, but they've had to accept). We just got engaged. We plan on having a family, kids, white-picket fence, the whole nine yards.

I have more to say, but i have to run. Feel free to PM me if you'd like.

 

 

 

 

 

The whole page is a comments made by bunch of whiteknights and mangina pussies supporting her whore behaviour

To the Fellas who want to marry an women above 30, this is what you will get

 

 

link to the reditt page

wwwdotreddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/1syavc/i_am_a_single_indian32f_woman_and_i_feel_like_i/

[crazyhorse]

Arya is ready to give a break to u @3$%

[girishv]

Throughout my whole life I never really dated any Indian guys; I exclusively dated white guys..

 

I don’t know what to do, it seems like the dating pool dries up rather quickly. No guys really see me as anyone they want a future with. The few progressive Indian guys I met that I really felt like I had a future with ended up leaving me for a younger virgin bride from India. One of my exboyfriends (Indian) told me "You are great and all, but I can get a much better looking girl if I go to India, and one that will also cook for me."

 

Ekkado theda koduthundi...oka sari emo I never dated Indian guys antundi, inko sari emo one of my exboyfriend (Indian) antundi....

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Throughout my whole life I never really dated any Indian guys; I exclusively dated white guys..

 

I don’t know what to do, it seems like the dating pool dries up rather quickly. No guys really see me as anyone they want a future with. The few progressive Indian guys I met that I really felt like I had a future with ended up leaving me for a younger virgin bride from India. One of my exboyfriends (Indian) told me "You are great and all, but I can get a much better looking girl if I go to India, and one that will also cook for me."

 

Ekkado theda koduthundi...oka sari emo I never dated Indian guys antundi, inko sari emo one of my exboyfriend (Indian) antundi....

 

as she got old, she was not getting guys to fock around

she started looking into india guys as they look for girls  to settle around 30

even indian guys rejected her as she dried up. slowly girls look for other races when they age ( this mostly happens in western countries)