40+ year old NRI Depressions

[JANASENA]

1 hour ago, Roger_that said:

how much savings you have total... calculate your net worth... including all your assets, savings, retirement funds, real estate and take off your liabilities.

then calculate your monthly expenses wherever you want to stay next 20-30 years.

expeses*25 chei.. aa money nee networth lo unte... retire aipo. (ready to sell most of them to generate fixed monthly passive income..this is crucial step)

just play a sport, work out, read a book, take a car roam around, eat healthy. meet people

die.

US lo unna properties rent ki isthe monthly maintenance India lo hayiga sagipothundi ga. 

[Galactus]

4 hours ago, kompalokumpati said:

Asking for a friend as we were discussing the same topic. Memu idaram, 40+ year old man child(s), us ki vachi 20 years aindhi. Iddarki ani unnai life lo, pellam, iddaru pillalu, carlu, illu, job, exotic vacations, india trips etc.

Kani sukham ledu. Large portions of my day seem to be lost in thinking about aging parents in India, what life was like when my father was my age, what happened 100 years ago when my grandpa was my age, etc. Devudu, spirituality light ga help chesina more home sick chestha untai, giving / charity lanti pedha panlaki budget ledu.  

Inthe na inga jivitham? i've seen my elderly cousins get older, lose parents, then children get older, graduate from college and move out and get married. Then these folks become empty nesters, spend time here and there and wait for retirement,  

What are uncles and aunties doing here? Andarki ee feelings normal ee na? me gyanam konchem emana share cheskuntara plz?

to be harsh, If you want to go no one will stop you from being with your parents, all this is just cope in your mind to withstand the guilt of leaving them

 

[SRH]

6 hours ago, kompalokumpati said:

Asking for a friend as we were discussing the same topic. Memu idaram, 40+ year old man child(s), us ki vachi 20 years aindhi. Iddarki ani unnai life lo, pellam, iddaru pillalu, carlu, illu, job, exotic vacations, india trips etc.

Kani sukham ledu. Large portions of my day seem to be lost in thinking about aging parents in India, what life was like when my father was my age, what happened 100 years ago when my grandpa was my age, etc. Devudu, spirituality light ga help chesina more home sick chestha untai, giving / charity lanti pedha panlaki budget ledu.  

Inthe na inga jivitham? i've seen my elderly cousins get older, lose parents, then children get older, graduate from college and move out and get married. Then these folks become empty nesters, spend time here and there and wait for retirement,  

What are uncles and aunties doing here? Andarki ee feelings normal ee na? me gyanam konchem emana share cheskuntara plz?

Meeru ange paisal unnollu bro. Depression ki kuda karchu pedtaru. 
 

 

[Barney_Stinson]

endo na laddu lodi 

okkosari manaki em kavalo chala yearsdaka telledu edo race lo kottukoni potam , alla oche side effects konni ivi

[Dhed]

Hmm , I am 42 , have a 2 year old and have a 12 year old , so life is busy for us until 60 

my main goal is to be healthy for younger one 

[kompalokumpati]

5 hours ago, Galactus said:

to be harsh, If you want to go no one will stop you from being with your parents, all this is just cope in your mind to withstand the guilt of leaving them

 

Ledu bhaya guilt kana oka lanti strange feeling and thoughts, I know I'm not the minority doing this, majority of our Telugu population have left their families for greener shores. idhi normal ee na or am I losing it ani doubt vastha untadhi, anduke aduguthuna... May be some blessed souls have figured out a way to balance life better in both worlds? 

[Barney_Stinson]

lofe lo edina eppudu aapeyalo telledam kooda important like eppudu begin cheali ani tega plan chestam but stopping is imp too

[elev]

19 hours ago, JANASENA said:

US lo unna properties rent ki isthe monthly maintenance India lo hayiga sagipothundi ga. 

No so easy brother

[elev]

Ekkada 20 years undi nenu back india ki vastha anthe imagine how your siblings will react andukante Arey veedu asthi kosam india ki vachadu antaru. Inni rojulu parents nee patichukoledu but eepudu asthi kosam last moment loo vachadu antaru. 
 

for 40+ returns main challenge how do you handle your relatives .

[JANASENA]

23 hours ago, elev said:

No so easy brother

why?

[nokia123]

23 hours ago, elev said:

Ekkada 20 years undi nenu back india ki vastha anthe imagine how your siblings will react andukante Arey veedu asthi kosam india ki vachadu antaru. Inni rojulu parents nee patichukoledu but eepudu asthi kosam last moment loo vachadu antaru. 
 

for 40+ returns main challenge how do you handle your relatives .

Intha bathuku bathike sivarakariki ittanti matalu padalu siblings tho 

[Gorantlamdhav]

On 2/24/2025 at 12:21 PM, kompalokumpati said:

Asking for a friend as we were discussing the same topic. Memu idaram, 40+ year old man child(s), us ki vachi 20 years aindhi. Iddarki ani unnai life lo, pellam, iddaru pillalu, carlu, illu, job, exotic vacations, india trips etc.

Kani sukham ledu. Large portions of my day seem to be lost in thinking about aging parents in India, what life was like when my father was my age, what happened 100 years ago when my grandpa was my age, etc. Devudu, spirituality light ga help chesina more home sick chestha untai, giving / charity lanti pedha panlaki budget ledu.  

Inthe na inga jivitham? i've seen my elderly cousins get older, lose parents, then children get older, graduate from college and move out and get married. Then these folks become empty nesters, spend time here and there and wait for retirement,  

What are uncles and aunties doing here? Andarki ee feelings normal ee na? me gyanam konchem emana share cheskuntara plz?

life lo idi oka ghattam

moksha margam avalambinchu

india move avvu

purse hobbies instead of chasing money or career 

[Gorantlamdhav]

On 2/24/2025 at 10:19 PM, kompalokumpati said:

Ledu bhaya guilt kana oka lanti strange feeling and thoughts, I know I'm not the minority doing this, majority of our Telugu population have left their families for greener shores. idhi normal ee na or am I losing it ani doubt vastha untadhi, anduke aduguthuna... May be some blessed souls have figured out a way to balance life better in both worlds? 

andaru same stage lo vuntaru . Why you are the only one? Family support vunte chalta 

annalu akkalu mamalu peddammalu…

[enigmatic]

On 2/24/2025 at 12:21 PM, kompalokumpati said:

Iddarki ani unnai life lo, pellam, iddaru pillalu, carlu, illu, job, exotic vacations, india trips etc

if you have gc close to citizenship and are closer to fire/fatfire goals - have younger kids who have time to adjust i think you can try moving to india. in the event you cannot adjust you can always come back