Anyone like me here?

[miserable]

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

[Spartan]

condolences to you anna..

dont loose hope...now you are the head of the family..and you need to take care of kids and wife..a point lo alochinchu..

US lo undi inka orphan la feel avvadam endi...done and dusted..

move on....

hope God gives you enough strength in these tough times..

[miserable]

Just now, Spartan said:

condolences to you anna..

dont loose hope...now you are the head of the family..and you need to take care of kids and wife..a point lo alochinchu..

US lo undi inka orphan la feel avvadam endi...done and dusted..

move on....

hope God gives you enough strength in these tough times..

This is even making me more guilty as I couldn’t spend time with my parent. I know it was my decision to come to US but when they are alive I didn’t think it will be this painful to live after they are gone

[Spartan]

Just now, miserable said:

This is even making me more guilty as I couldn’t spend time with my parent. I know it was my decision to come to US but when they are alive I didn’t think it will be this painful to live after they are gone

its over...past aipoindi anna....

dont feel...regret avvadam valla ...parents return raaru kada.. 

[Shameless]

6 minutes ago, miserable said:

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

Your kids are your direct descendants...you are not alone...now you are the head of the family...share your childhood memories with your kids...try to take your wife and kids to your hometown whenever you can so that you won't feel like you cut off yourself from your hometown or your relatives.  This feeling is not permanent but you will eventually live with it.  You are your own strength.  Cry how much you can so that the emotional pain will fade away slowly and you will overcome what you are going through now.

[Pahelwan2]

17 minutes ago, miserable said:

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

Very  for your loss. Every one who live away from parents have to go through this sooner or later. Be strong. 

[Android_Halwa]

19 minutes ago, miserable said:

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

It’s a phase bro…!! You will find your way back, you have a family of your own and more responsibilities. 

[Kootami]

19 minutes ago, miserable said:

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

Been there , if you have good relations with  cousins . Maintain that relations  and spend time with your kids and wife. US lo friends unna family and friends are different. As we age there will be fewer and fewer friends in life. Get a hobby and this not permanent. Intha kantey cheppalenu 

[halwafan]

22 minutes ago, miserable said:

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

Stay strong bro, 38 ante it’s bit early to lose parents and I can understand why you are feeling that way.. kids kosam move on avvadame.. 

[DalchanChekka]

Hope you find strength and solace to move on. 

Sharing if this can help your feelings out

[Kootami]

24 minutes ago, Spartan said:

condolences to you anna..

dont loose hope...now you are the head of the family..and you need to take care of kids and wife..a point lo alochinchu..

US lo undi inka orphan la feel avvadam endi...done and dusted..

move on....

hope God gives you enough strength in these tough times..

You feel more lonely in US in these situations.

[miserable]

3 minutes ago, Kootami said:

Been there , if you have good relations with  cousins . Maintain that relations  and spend time with your kids and wife. US lo friends unna family and friends are different. As we age there will be fewer and fewer friends in life. Get a hobby and this not permanent. Intha kantey cheppalenu 

No good relations with both sides of parents. Mother passed away 6 years back and my mom side cut relations with us after mother’s demise. Dad side very bad because of property disputes. Thanks for the kind words. I have no one to share my feelings so venting out here. 

[Spartan]

3 minutes ago, Kootami said:

You feel more lonely in US in these situations.

unfortunately yes anna 

 

[Variety_Pullayya]

kids need you and look up to you. be an ideal father and teach them value of relationships.

visit other distant relatives and family members. 

[yemdoing]

24 minutes ago, miserable said:

I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE 

You are not alone.... I was in early thirties when it happened to me. First year was pretty hard for me, I was even scared to even look at my parents photos. Felt like they were judging me through the pics for not spending time with them enough. But you know what humans have this great defect of forgetting and moving on. For some it takes months and for some it takes few years .

Just hang in there , and share your pain with friends when you are too sad. Stay away from negative people, cry when you are too sad to function. Take PTOs if you cant handle stress. Try to not spread sadness with your own family ( kids feel our emotions a lot) 

After my parents passing I was extremely scared to go india, finally was forced to go. My trip was extremely awkward , never felt so sad going to my parent home , i felt like a uninvited guest . 

time will heal anthey .