Sizzler Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 Sorry about your loss bro. Cherish the good memories with your parents. Share their memories with your kids. I can imagine what you are going through. The guilt of leaving single parents alone in India just tough to overcome. Take care bro. You can always make the choice to go back and relive the life there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gaali_Gottam_Govinda Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 29 minutes ago, miserable said: This is even making me more guilty as I couldn’t spend time with my parent. I know it was my decision to come to US but when they are alive I didn’t think it will be this painful to live after they are gone Stay strong bro....... Nothing is permanent everything is temporary including the universe we live in........ See your parents in your kids and live with their memories. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yemdoing Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 46 minutes ago, miserable said: I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE Dm me anytime to share or just vent 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peddayana Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 you can't change the past, just have to live with it Its ok to feel bad, take your time and process your emotions time heals everything so this too will pass try and see if relationship can be repaired with sibling/brother-in-law, seek support from siblings man, talk to your sister, might be tough but worth a try make peace with them instead of having another regret 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konebhar6 Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 2 hours ago, miserable said: I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE Sorry for your loss. My condolences. You are feeling guilty right now. It shows your love for your parents/family. You have guilt that you could not take care of them. Think ahead and about your family and responsibilities ahead. If possible make an effort to reach out to your sisters family and work on differences. Most of the times its just mis understandings. If you do not like something in them, accept them as they are (Family !!) and keep in touch. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yemdoing Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 10 hours ago, Konebhar6 said: Sorry for your loss. My condolences. You are feeling guilty right now. It shows your love for your parents/family. You have guilt that you could not take care of them. Think ahead and about your family and responsibilities ahead. If possible make an effort to reach out to your sisters family and work on differences. Most of the times its just mis understandings. If you do not like something in them, accept them as they are (Family !!) and keep in touch. this is important but very risky as well so be smart and humble Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndhraPickles Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 Ye paasamaina...edo oka time lo tegipovalasinade.... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andhra_jp Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 12 hours ago, miserable said: I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE I also lost my father in 2018 when i was 38yrs old and my mother vacated our vijayawada own home to stay with my brother in hyderabad. Whenever i go to vijaywada and visit our home it gives very strange feeling to see its empty and all the childhood memories haunting me ... But its a cycle brother as today we are parents to next generation kids and manaki responsibility vundi to take care of them and one day we will be gone and our kids also will go through this never ending cycle.. Andaru cheppinattu its a temporary phase and life will move on.. inka manushulaki cheppukovadaniki language and socety vundi think about other animals ... they just move on silently Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konebhar6 Posted February 28 Report Share Posted February 28 6 hours ago, yemdoing said: this is important but very risky as well so be smart and humble With age comes maturity. We cannot put a value on family. All fingers are not same. Likewise family also we have crooked people. We need to manage them. Keep the relationship but do not let them take advantage of us. Set the expectations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gilakkai Posted February 29 Report Share Posted February 29 22 hours ago, miserable said: I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE I'm in the same situation bro...last year i lost both parents and sold all the properties in India because of debts and literally don't have anything in India. I feel like orphan too and sometimes i want to cry out loud as well. There are times i had suicidal thoughts but due to wife and kids i'm staying myself strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pakeer_saab Posted February 29 Report Share Posted February 29 On 2/27/2024 at 9:17 PM, miserable said: I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE this is the cycle of life, you are just experiencing it for your loss, but you will start seeing life differently from now on you are in early stages of grief, what follows is acknowledgement of reality of life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nag Posted February 29 Report Share Posted February 29 On 2/27/2024 at 10:17 PM, miserable said: I’m 38 years old recently lost my surviving single parent. India lo karmakanda jaripinchadaniki vachanu. Now I’m feeling like I have no one though I’m married and have kids. I have a sibling sister but not in good terms with bro in law. I’m feeling miserable terrible and suddenly I became orphan with literally no one for me. I want to cry very badly but with all the responsibilities they are pressing my grief and I’m feeling like I can’t take it anymore. It’s tough for me to lose them both at this age. I became like a tourist in my hometown no identity for myself and I know slowly I will fade out in the family. I HATE MY LIFE for your loss. Everyone goes through it. It takes months or a couple of years to come out of this depressive phase. Keep yourself a goal and be involved more in kids/family activities. Don't use this "miserable" ID account also.. stay away from negative... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miserable Posted February 29 Author Report Share Posted February 29 Thank you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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