24F, in love with a 28M colleague who says he won’t marry me

[kevinUsa]

This is the story about me and my colleague. I met him last year who was super chill and popular, and he’s a senior to me, so he’d often assign me tasks, and we’d end up on frequent calls. At first, I didn’t know much about him. I'm naturally introverted, so I kept to myself and didn't talk to anyone. I also had a boyfriend back then, and I avoided talking to other guys out of respect for him. But my colleague’s easy-going nature gradually made me comfortable, and I started trusting him.

Things got messy when one of my friends proposed to me. I told my boyfriend, but instead of trusting me, he accused me of cheating. It was exhausting, and the constant arguments made me cry almost every day. I eventually shared my feelings with my colleague, who really helped me through it and changed my perspective on things. Over time, I ended up distancing myself from my boyfriend and found myself happier spending time with this colleague.

We started meeting more, going out around the city, and he became someone I truly felt safe with. From the beginning, though, he was clear—he doesn’t believe in love or marriage for himself unless it’s arranged by his parents. Despite knowing this, we got close, shared moments together, and I found myself falling for him. I know he cares about me, but he’s always been firm about his boundaries.

Now, I’m struggling. I’ve fallen in love with him, and I want us to be together. He’s become my priority, and I wish I were his too. But he keeps reminding me that he’s not open to a love marriage. He’s even said that if I were from his caste, things might have been different, but he still doesn’t let himself entertain the idea of us being together in that way. He cares about me but insists he can’t love or marry me.

I don’t know what to do. Should I keep trying and hope he changes his mind? Or should I step back, knowing he may never see me as more than someone he cares about but won’t marry? It’s really tough for me

 

[kevinUsa]

What part of 'he won't marry you' you won't understand?

He's clear with his boundaries and he neither loved you nor wanna marry you. If you still carry any hopes about him it'll lead to your heartbreak.

It's better you move on

[karuvu]

7 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

This is the story about me and my colleague. I met him last year who was super chill and popular, and he’s a senior to me, so he’d often assign me tasks, and we’d end up on frequent calls. At first, I didn’t know much about him. I'm naturally introverted, so I kept to myself and didn't talk to anyone. I also had a boyfriend back then, and I avoided talking to other guys out of respect for him. But my colleague’s easy-going nature gradually made me comfortable, and I started trusting him.

Things got messy when one of my friends proposed to me. I told my boyfriend, but instead of trusting me, he accused me of cheating. It was exhausting, and the constant arguments made me cry almost every day. I eventually shared my feelings with my colleague, who really helped me through it and changed my perspective on things. Over time, I ended up distancing myself from my boyfriend and found myself happier spending time with this colleague.

We started meeting more, going out around the city, and he became someone I truly felt safe with. From the beginning, though, he was clear—he doesn’t believe in love or marriage for himself unless it’s arranged by his parents. Despite knowing this, we got close, shared moments together, and I found myself falling for him. I know he cares about me, but he’s always been firm about his boundaries.

Now, I’m struggling. I’ve fallen in love with him, and I want us to be together. He’s become my priority, and I wish I were his too. But he keeps reminding me that he’s not open to a love marriage. He’s even said that if I were from his caste, things might have been different, but he still doesn’t let himself entertain the idea of us being together in that way. He cares about me but insists he can’t love or marry me.

I don’t know what to do. Should I keep trying and hope he changes his mind? Or should I step back, knowing he may never see me as more than someone he cares about but won’t marry? It’s really tough for me

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[nuvvu_naakina_paalem]

9 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

This is the story about me and my colleague. I met him last year who was super chill and popular, and he’s a senior to me, so he’d often assign me tasks, and we’d end up on frequent calls. At first, I didn’t know much about him. I'm naturally introverted, so I kept to myself and didn't talk to anyone. I also had a boyfriend back then, and I avoided talking to other guys out of respect for him. But my colleague’s easy-going nature gradually made me comfortable, and I started trusting him.

Things got messy when one of my friends proposed to me. I told my boyfriend, but instead of trusting me, he accused me of cheating. It was exhausting, and the constant arguments made me cry almost every day. I eventually shared my feelings with my colleague, who really helped me through it and changed my perspective on things. Over time, I ended up distancing myself from my boyfriend and found myself happier spending time with this colleague.

We started meeting more, going out around the city, and he became someone I truly felt safe with. From the beginning, though, he was clear—he doesn’t believe in love or marriage for himself unless it’s arranged by his parents. Despite knowing this, we got close, shared moments together, and I found myself falling for him. I know he cares about me, but he’s always been firm about his boundaries.

Now, I’m struggling. I’ve fallen in love with him, and I want us to be together. He’s become my priority, and I wish I were his too. But he keeps reminding me that he’s not open to a love marriage. He’s even said that if I were from his caste, things might have been different, but he still doesn’t let himself entertain the idea of us being together in that way. He cares about me but insists he can’t love or marry me.

I don’t know what to do. Should I keep trying and hope he changes his mind? Or should I step back, knowing he may never see me as more than someone he cares about but won’t marry? It’s really tough for me

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yaada dorikindhi ra ee santha?

[AverageDesiGuy]

6 minutes ago, nuvvu_naakina_paalem said:

yaada dorikindhi ra ee santha?

Reddit!

[Android_Halwa]

True love vayya….beyond boundaries..!

[Moon_Walker]

1 hour ago, kevinUsa said:

This is the story about me and my colleague. I met him last year who was super chill and popular, and he’s a senior to me, so he’d often assign me tasks, and we’d end up on frequent calls. At first, I didn’t know much about him. I'm naturally introverted, so I kept to myself and didn't talk to anyone. I also had a boyfriend back then, and I avoided talking to other guys out of respect for him. But my colleague’s easy-going nature gradually made me comfortable, and I started trusting him.

Things got messy when one of my friends proposed to me. I told my boyfriend, but instead of trusting me, he accused me of cheating. It was exhausting, and the constant arguments made me cry almost every day. I eventually shared my feelings with my colleague, who really helped me through it and changed my perspective on things. Over time, I ended up distancing myself from my boyfriend and found myself happier spending time with this colleague.

We started meeting more, going out around the city, and he became someone I truly felt safe with. From the beginning, though, he was clear—he doesn’t believe in love or marriage for himself unless it’s arranged by his parents. Despite knowing this, we got close, shared moments together, and I found myself falling for him. I know he cares about me, but he’s always been firm about his boundaries.

Now, I’m struggling. I’ve fallen in love with him, and I want us to be together. He’s become my priority, and I wish I were his too. But he keeps reminding me that he’s not open to a love marriage. He’s even said that if I were from his caste, things might have been different, but he still doesn’t let himself entertain the idea of us being together in that way. He cares about me but insists he can’t love or marry me.

I don’t know what to do. Should I keep trying and hope he changes his mind? Or should I step back, knowing he may never see me as more than someone he cares about but won’t marry? It’s really tough for me

 

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