Did anybody try therapy?

[Thokkalee]

21 hours ago, vorey_peteruuu said:

Almonds, Pumpkin seeds, Walnuts, Blueberries, avacados, fatty fish

@Iriswest adding to this..  

1) dry fruits, seeds and nuts - night water lo vesi, morning smoothy cheskuni thaagu. 

2) Have your me time: Work with your husband and take time out for each other. He needs breaks too. For eg: join a gym or go on walks for an hour every day. My wife’s friend suggested her to take long baths when she was stressed out with my kids. My wife also sometimes takes a day off when kids have school and go to lunch or movie or shopping. 
3) Vacations don’t have to be expensive. We usually go to state parks and do camping. Kids love it and we get to relax too. Don’t plan any activities as the goal is to just sit and relax. 
4) Reduce your screen time. Stay away from the phone for at least 2 hrs before sleep. This made a lot of difference to me. 

Good nutrition, enough rest, me time, time off from routine stressful activities… if these things don’t work, then may be you can try a therapist.. 

[lollilolli2020]

11 hours ago, Thokkalee said:

@Iriswest adding to this..  

1) dry fruits, seeds and nuts - night water lo vesi, morning smoothy cheskuni thaagu. 

2) Have your me time: Work with your husband and take time out for each other. He needs breaks too. For eg: join a gym or go on walks for an hour every day. My wife’s friend suggested her to take long baths when she was stressed out with my kids. My wife also sometimes takes a day off when kids have school and go to lunch or movie or shopping. 
3) Vacations don’t have to be expensive. We usually go to state parks and do camping. Kids love it and we get to relax too. Don’t plan any activities as the goal is to just sit and relax. 
4) Reduce your screen time. Stay away from the phone for at least 2 hrs before sleep. This made a lot of difference to me. 

Good nutrition, enough rest, me time, time off from routine stressful activities… if these things don’t work, then may be you can try a therapist.. 

+1

minimum 8hrs sleep kosam target cheyali; 
I always thought these watches are waste of money but when you start using them for your sleep tracking, it definitely makes a difference in tracking your health metrics. 

also, dinner kuda atleast 2hrs mundu, early dinner ki target cheyali it makes a lot of difference too. 

[lollilolli2020]

13 hours ago, aratipandu said:

oka 1-2 months summer untadhi emo le papam allaki kuda..

[Iriswest]

23 hours ago, CanadianMalodu said:

Women are NOT meant take the same level of stress as a man. It's detrimental for their well being. Cortisol levels spikes women ni different ga affect chesthayi. Anxiety, thyroid problems, irregular mensuration ilantivi. Vallaki weight gain, Juttu nerisipovadam, nidrapattakapovadam chala easy ga vachesthayi. 

 

Ee type places kavali? 

Not supposed to ante, that stress will be carried over to spouse. Financially and emotionally. The moment I think of throwing a wet towel at it, I get reminded by everyone that you are not trying hard enough. I know this is not good in the long run but if not now then when ane concept lo nadustundi bandi.

[pakeer_saab]

On 4/15/2025 at 10:08 PM, Iriswest said:

I am battling anxiety and want to give therapy a try. But am very conscious and won’t spill anything willingly. What questions can we expect from therapist?

you are suppose to talk everything without filters, that is when a therapist can help

if you filter out too many details, it will only mislead the therapist and eventually waste your time with misdiagnosis.

there is absolute confidentiality in the conversation you have with therapist, so speak what is causing anxiety and how it originates or originated.

[pakeer_saab]

On 4/15/2025 at 10:21 PM, Iriswest said:

Enti anxiety ni nutrition tho link vesara? It’s my inability to let the future be future. I can’t control my thoughts and constantly thinking about future.

there is absolute link between nutritional deficiencies and anxiety/depression

 

go and check your vit d levels, they will be below 20 my best guess

[CanadianMalodu]

18 minutes ago, Iriswest said:

Not supposed to ante, that stress will be carried over to spouse. Financially and emotionally. The moment I think of throwing a wet towel at it, I get reminded by everyone that you are not trying hard enough. I know this is not good in the long run but if not now then when ane concept lo nadustundi bandi.

I understand the compulsion part. But you should make others around you understand that health+ wellbeing>> Money. What good is money if your health keeps failing? Who will take care of your kids,if your health fails? 

When body gives you a distress call, you need to listen to it. It's OK to step back for some time. 

[lollilolli2020]

5 minutes ago, CanadianMalodu said:

I understand the compulsion part. But you should make others around you understand that health+ wellbeing>> Money. What good is money if you health keeps failing? Who will take care of your kids,if your health fails? 

When body gives you a distress call, you need to listen to it. It's OK to step back for some time. 

Bold-- words of wisdom

but visa and jobs ane padmavyuham lo irukkupoina bathukulu uncle maavi. 

[Iriswest]

12 hours ago, Thokkalee said:

@Iriswest adding to this..  

1) dry fruits, seeds and nuts - night water lo vesi, morning smoothy cheskuni thaagu. 

2) Have your me time: Work with your husband and take time out for each other. He needs breaks too. For eg: join a gym or go on walks for an hour every day. My wife’s friend suggested her to take long baths when she was stressed out with my kids. My wife also sometimes takes a day off when kids have school and go to lunch or movie or shopping. 
3) Vacations don’t have to be expensive. We usually go to state parks and do camping. Kids love it and we get to relax too. Don’t plan any activities as the goal is to just sit and relax. 
4) Reduce your screen time. Stay away from the phone for at least 2 hrs before sleep. This made a lot of difference to me. 

Good nutrition, enough rest, me time, time off from routine stressful activities… if these things don’t work, then may be you can try a therapist.. 

with weather getting better, I will try your suggestions. 

[Iriswest]

24 minutes ago, lollilolli2020 said:

Bold-- words of wisdom

but visa and jobs ane padmavyuham lo irukkupoina bathukulu uncle maavi. 

 

Ee daridramaina PIP culture+rampant layoffs compunded by visa status tied to job, inability to relocate, societal pressures ekkada step back avvanistunnai? 
 

one more thing I observed is tellas have family support. In case anything goes wrong we don’t have a fallback option. Kids ki grandparents ki ever increasing language barrier. Particularly for women, if she wants to be fully focused on career, parents are fully supportive and do take care of grandkids like taking them to outings or attending every small occasion at school, extracurricular classes. This is completely self inflicted I know but once in a while it feels that first gen will never have that privilege.

[lollilolli2020]

3 minutes ago, Iriswest said:

 

Ee daridramaina PIP culture+rampant layoffs compunded by visa status tied to job, inability to relocate, societal pressures ekkada step back avvanistunnai? 
 

one more thing I observed is tellas have family support. In case anything goes wrong we don’t have a fallback option. Kids ki grandparents ki ever increasing language barrier. Particularly for women, if she wants to be fully focused on career, parents are fully supportive and do take care of grandkids like taking them to outings or attending every small occasion at school, extracurricular classes. This is completely self inflicted I know but once in a while it feels that first gen will never have that privilege.

hustle your way up ani eppudu feeding ichcharu manaki. 
its okay to step back and relax; its not end of the world if you fail atleast you tried ani okka mata maa parents cheppinte my life would have been better ani appudappudu anipistundii. 

antha enduku, one of my family frnd citizen laid off, asalu its no big deal for them they can do anything if only money matters but edo oka social construct lo irukkupoyi struggling ani anipinchindii. 

fallback option ante -- we have our country to go back and whatever we saved here will be substantial for us. on the other hand ikkadollaki option ledu ga. 

yes they do have family support, if we are in India we will have all the support we need. 
mana mindset is different than these ppl, their responsibility towards children end when they graduate high school; that's the reason why they are okay to have 3kids and beyond. 

[Iriswest]

1 minute ago, lollilolli2020 said:

hustle your way up ani eppudu feeding ichcharu manaki. 
its okay to step back and relax; its not end of the world if you fail atleast you tried ani okka mata maa parents cheppinte my life would have been better ani appudappudu anipistundii. 

antha enduku, one of my family frnd citizen laid off, asalu its no big deal for them they can do anything if only money matters but edo oka social construct lo irukkupoyi struggling ani anipinchindii. 

fallback option ante -- we have our country to go back and whatever we saved here will be substantial for us. on the other hand ikkadollaki option ledu ga. 

yes they do have family support, if we are in India we will have all the support we need. 
mana mindset is different than these ppl, their responsibility towards children end when they graduate high school; that's the reason why they are okay to have 3kids and beyond. 

Grow avvamannaru but entha varaku ani evaru clatity ivvaledu.  Asalu toxicity ni ela break cheyyalo nerpinchaledu. Generational trauma ante idenemo. There was no pep talk only guilt tripping if we fail. 

[Thokkalee]

1 hour ago, Iriswest said:

with weather getting better, I will try your suggestions. 

Also, go for a full body checkup.. may be there are some vitamin deficiencies too.. 

When the kids are young, we are overwhelmed with raising kids and doing regular job and we ignore taking care of ourselves.. odd eating and sleeping patterns becomes a norm.. 

I am hearing lot of ppl are suffering with severe vitamin deficiencies… after Covid.. 

[VictorLawrence]

I’ve been dealing with stress and overthinking for a while and therapy did help, but what really made a difference was adding anxiety cannabis treatment from Releaf. It helped me sleep better and feel more relaxed during the day. I still do regular sessions with my therapist too, but the combo’s been working better for me than just one thing alone.