How Losing in Trading Made Me Lose My Family Guys... I saw it in lots of posts here... Since prop f

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How Losing in Trading Made Me Lose My Family

Guys... I saw it in lots of posts here... Since prop firms get hyped everywhere and Influencers post their 10k per day trades, more and more people need to be aware of the darkside of this.

Here is mine:

My dream ? Same as yours - freedom for my family... Having more time for my daughter.

I thought the hardest part about trading would be losing money. Blowing accounts, failing prop firm evals, watching stop after stop get hunted. I thought that was the pain.

But the truth? The biggest loss wasn’t financial. It was personal.

# The Spiral:

I started with passion. Charts day and night. Killzones in London, then New York. Alerts buzzing. Indicators stacked. I convinced myself it was “grind.” In reality, it was obsession. I did a course for 8K with Kouroush AK , Inevitrade etc. I had build a good puffer since I was lucky with crypto since 2017.

* **Time:** I sat in front of screens while my daughter grew up in the next room.
* **Presence:** Even when I was there, I wasn’t really *there*. My mind was always on the last trade, or the next setup.
* **Emotions:** A red day followed me everywhere. At the dinner table. Into arguments. Into bed at night.
* **Isolation:** Instead of opening up, I pulled away. “I’ll fix it tomorrow.” “Next week I’ll make it back.” Lies I told to myself — and to her.

The account went red. My energy went red. And the relationship followed.

# The Breaking Point:

The day we separated, it wasn’t about money. It was about me not being present. Me not listening. Me being there physically but gone mentally.

She didn’t leave because I lost a trade. She left because I lost myself in trading.

And now I live with the hardest truth: I don’t get to see my daughter every day. She’s 4. Every missed bedtime, every morning without her smile, cuts deeper than any drawdown I ever took. This hurt more than the money I made with crypto (and lost it all of course)

# What I Learned (The Hard Way)

1. **Trading is not just trading.** It’s psychology, health, relationships. Ignore those, and your trading — and life — will collapse.
2. **You can rebuild an account.** But you can’t rewind missed years with your kid.
3. **Your edge is worthless if it costs you everything else.** It’s not “grind” if you’re grinding down your family.
4. **Pain multiplies.** A $500 loss becomes $2,000 when it follows you into your marriage.
5. **Honesty is risk management.** Be as honest with your loved ones as you are with your trades. Hide nothing

# The Rules I Live By Now

* Screen time = killzones only. Rest of the day belongs to life.
* 3 losses in a row = stop trading, stop thinking about trading.
* Never trade tired, sad, or angry.
* Family > Trading. Always.
* Journal not just trades, but emotions. That’s how I keep the poison out of my home.

Final Thought

I lost more than accounts. I lost the daily life with the people I love.

If you’re a trader reading this:  
👉 Protect your family with the same risk management you protect your account.  
👉 Don’t let trading steal the hours you can never get back.  
👉 Remember: no green day, no 10R trade, no $11K session will ever replace the look in your kid’s eyes when you’re fully present.

I learned it too late. Don’t make the same mistake like me!

Lets adress this, please !! You are not alone!


Seeing the comments of me being a bot is just ridicoulus - I am german - very bad in english. But since I wanted to raise awareness and especially intend to have man open up and self reflect before their loosing their loved ones, I decided to let my text be structured in an easy way by using chatgpt. I ask you kindly to focus on this important topic. 

 

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