kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 Hi to all I literally need an advice from brothers like you. Nenu india ki vachi 1 month avthundhiii Malli Jan 2012 lo USA ki return. Maa parents ante naaaku chaala Istam but nenu vaala happiness/ security/ self respect gurinchi emi cheppinaa naaaku pogaru , USA ki velli maaripoyaavu, intha money petti sadivinchisthe nuvvvu chesedhii idhaa ani thidtuntaaaru always.. Naa intention vaalani hurt cheyyadam kaadhu nenu lekapoyinaaa they will be happy and vaalaki emi risk undoddhuu ani alochisthaanu but naaku always adhi back fire avthundhii nannu misunderstanding chesukuntaaaru... Nenu ante vaalaki istame but endhuku nannu pattinchukoru and always thidthaaaru.. Amma start chesindhi ante nanna inka naa paina chaala kopam avthaaadu reason thelusukokunda... Inkokati enti ante nenu india ki raagane ila cheppaaanu naaku oka amaayee Istam thanane Pelli chesukuntaa ani , appudu they didn't react at all nee Istam maaaku emi problem ledhu annaru but maa pedhamma , mama vaala intiki velli bhaadha paddaru..ikkada bhaadha endhuko naaku thelidhuu.. Atleast maa vaadu ila Pelli ani chepppadu mamalni mosam cheyyaledu ani endhuku alochinchaaru.. Nenu india ki vachindhi andhuke to let them know Abt my marriage and to convince them.. So eee vishayam Maa parents manasulo pettukoni ila nannu antunnnaru ani naa feeling.. Yedhi emaina nenu anukunna vaalane Pelli chesukuntaanu.. Nenu last 7 years nunchii aaa ammmayee ni istapaddanu and thanu kuda but life lo koncham maturity age plus settlement ayyaka cheppudhaam ani wait chesi india ki dheenikosame vachii chepppaaaanu... So, nenu endhuku eee topic post chesaanu ante , my parents ki emaina LIC policy or alantidhi emaina unte cheppandiii... Nenu chanipoyinaa they have to get something for their rest of life.. Ala emaina they feel happy.. Any ideas unte cheppandii please...Pelli chesukunnam inka manekendhuku le parents gurinchii ani anukomu kadha, coz end of the day vaala vaalane manam ipppudu oopppiri theeesukuntunnam.. Or atleast they have to know my intention nenu elantivaadini ani...eppudo appudu thelusukovaalani aaa duvudini pray chesthaaanu...india vachinapppatti nunchiii bhaadha padthunnnanu... Nenu parents ante ila ala ani cheppatledhu Maa parents gurinchi chepthunnau vaaalu chaaala chaaala manchii vaaalu but sudden ga vaala behavior nannu chaaala bhaadha pedthundhii... I love my parents !!! Matter organize ga ledhu chaala bhaadha lo undi raaasthunnaa gurthu vachindhaala raasthunnnaa... Pls understand
Oklahoman Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 same problem mana generation lo chala mandiki undi ba . transition avtunna generation lo unnam manam deeniki answer mi family paristiti ni attitude nuvvu teeskune risk meeda untadi, kaani chachipodam okate maargam kaadu all the best
sri1 Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 badha padaku baa.....koni rojula tarvatha valle ardham chesukuntara.. naa varaku maa parents engg. vararu naku ani sugesstion iche vallu ..but nenu u.s vachaka.. vallaiki nenu siggestions istunnanu ..adi valliki koncham hurting ga undhi ..but nuvve kuda mellaga ....nidanaga cheppalli ..frustate avakudadhu and moreover baga patenice ga undhi chepppali...caring ga undali.. it takes time but will workout
kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Posted November 22, 2011 Thanks brother... Chanipoyee antha dhaiyyam ledhu andi naaku at the same time there are some people who loves me alot.. I can't dare death.. Suicide is worst part of death. Ilanti situations lo unnna Parents happy undaali ante emi cheyyali ani naa post
sri1 Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 parents marataru bhayya..chala easy ga..tondarga change avtaru....... vallaki mana meedha unna prema marustundhi ...u don't worry keep talking to ur parents daily in a friendly & caring manner
CHANAKYA Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 I 100% understood ur feelings and situation. Same problem chaala mandiki untundi ba... Emo edo chepali ani undi kaani, ela format cheyyalo teliyatam ledu.... But 1thing 4 sur eis, it is complete;y ur responsibility to handle ur parents...vallani e vidamga convince chestaavo nuvve alochinchuko... and FYI: I to got same problem 4 yrs b4. Now, everything was well-settled. I am very happy with gal and my parents were more happier than me. So, pichi pichi alochanalu pettukokunda, situations el ahandle cheyyagalavo alochinchu... Good luck brother..!!!
kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='sri1' timestamp='1321979738' post='3117222'] badha padaku baa.....koni rojula tarvatha valle ardham chesukuntara.. naa varaku maa parents engg. vararu naku ani sugesstion iche vallu ..but nenu u.s vachaka.. vallaiki nenu siggestions istunnanu ..adi valliki koncham hurting ga undhi ..but nuvve kuda mellaga ....nidanaga cheppalli ..frustate avakudadhu and moreover baga patenice ga undhi chepppali...caring ga undali.. it takes time but will workout [/quote] Ila two days ki okkasari thidthunnnaru and Malli normal Malli appudapppud antaaaru Malli 2 days lo normal.. Ila vachinappatti nunchiii anubhavisthunnnanu... Correct reason ledhu vaaala thittadam lo may b love marriage gurinchii ala antunnaru ani naa feeling.. Amma ki koncham katnam aasha ne but kodalni chaala bhaaga chooskuntaaadhiii... That's for sure..
kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='CHANAKYA' timestamp='1321980179' post='3117237'] I 100% understood ur feelings and situation. Same problem chaala mandiki untundi ba... Emo edo chepali ani undi kaani, ela format cheyyalo teliyatam ledu.... But 1thing 4 sur eis, it is complete;y ur responsibility to handle ur parents...vallani e vidamga convince chestaavo nuvve alochinchuko... and FYI: I to got same problem 4 yrs b4. Now, everything was well-settled. I am very happy with gal and my parents were more happier than me. So, pichi pichi alochanalu pettukokunda, situations el ahandle cheyyagalavo alochinchu... Good luck brother..!!! [/quote] Chaala handle cheyyataaaniki try chesthunnna but naaaku kopam tvaraga vasthundhii ememo kopam lo anesthaaanu later chaala bhaadha padthaanu... Control cheskolekpothunna.. Devudu aaa happy days naaaku eppudu isthaaado...
sri1 Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 ..parents ki koni expectation untaii bhayya mana meda andulo tappu ledu .... avi miss iyni nappudu koncham hurt avtaru that general kada ...kani nuvve koncham diff. ga expect chesi untavva ............mee parents will accept that and feel happy about it .....but ..ide matram temporary bhayya ....they will adjust for sure ..how soon will depend on ur nature and convincing.. okk chinna stry cheptta baa. maa frd dhi ...vadu love mrg chesukundahu while he doing his M.S valla parents ki istam lekuda after this valla parent vadi tho asalu matladha ledu .....but he got some finacial problem in u.s .. ade telisi vall father unnai house ammi money pampadu .... tht shows parent love towards their children....
CHANAKYA Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='kane99' timestamp='1321980860' post='3117251'] Chaala handle cheyyataaaniki try chesthunnna but naaaku kopam tvaraga vasthundhii ememo kopam lo anesthaaanu later chaala bhaadha padthaanu... Control cheskolekpothunna.. Devudu aaa happy days naaaku eppudu isthaaado... [/quote] I am also just like you Kane99. Kopam.. frustration....Money-problems...Ammayi-intlo-problems... Nenemo okkaddni..even, I dont have frnds/family support at that time.....worst ... not even AFDB. Its very easy to say...and difficult to follow. Think twice and thrice b4 u talk... talk with someone in ur friends/family-members/some-1-who can really guide u in a proper way....It myt help a lot. Always remember a great power comes with great responsibility and a great responsibility brings you a great power. So, amma nanna and aa ammyini handle cheyyatam ne responsibility. Do it on ur own. learn from ur mistakes. and Please stay focused. -
Sastrygaru Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='kane99' timestamp='1321980860' post='3117251'] Chaala handle cheyyataaaniki try chesthunnna but naaaku kopam tvaraga vasthundhii ememo kopam lo anesthaaanu later chaala bhaadha padthaanu... Control cheskolekpothunna.. Devudu aaa happy days naaaku eppudu isthaaado... [/quote] Naaku telisi vallu (mee parents) kopam gaa unna kaaranam might be the only decision that ur going to make.. I guess vallu tension padutunnaru nee future gurinchi.. but as you say 7 years ga parichyam undi.. that's all one can say.. youre good. kaani obviously its hard to convince your parents.. time is the best medicine.. konchem opigga undu.. and you have to be.. dont get frustrated and angry in this crunch situations. Inkoka vishayam.. nuvvu mee parents ni entha gauravisthaav annadi cehppakarleedu. after reading your phrases I understand.. its just a moment of anxiety... .. but remember short term anger will hurt a lot no matter who they are..mi parents aiyna sare..be cool..dont worry All the best..
kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='sri1' timestamp='1321980983' post='3117256'] ..parents ki koni expectation untaii bhayya mana meda andulo tappu ledu .... avi miss iyni nappudu koncham hurt avtaru that general kada ...kani nuvve koncham diff. ga expect chesi untavva ............mee parents will accept that and feel happy about it .....but ..ide matram temporary bhayya ....they will adjust for sure ..how soon will depend on ur nature and convincing.. okk chinna stry cheptta baa. maa frd dhi ...vadu love mrg chesukundahu while he doing his M.S valla parents ki istam lekuda after this valla parent vadi tho asalu matladha ledu .....but he got some finacial problem in u.s .. ade telisi vall father unnai house ammi money pampadu .... tht shows parent love towards their children.... [/quote] Parents are first GOD for us.. Meeru annnadhi 100% correct and true.. Vaala Expectations break chesanu... Adhi vaaalu ,aa bhaadha ni Naaa mundhuu choopiyakunda ila nannu scolding prathi chinnna vishayaaniki... Naa thappu kuda undhii ememo anesaa kopam lo like inka 2 months ga vellipothaa happy ga undandi ani but later bhaadha padthunnnanu endhuku ala annanu ani...
CHANAKYA Posted November 22, 2011 Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1321981667' post='3117296'] Naaku telisi vallu (mee parents) kopam gaa unna kaaranam might be the only decision that ur going to make.. I guess vallu tension padutunnaru nee future gurinchi.. but as you say 7 years ga parichyam undi.. that's all one can say.. youre good. kaani obviously its hard to convince your parents..[color=#ff0000][b] time is the best medicine.. konchem opigga undu.. and you have to be.. dont get frustrated [/b][/color]and angry in this crunch situations. Inkoka vishayam.. nuvvu mee parents ni entha gauravisthaav annadi cehppakarleedu. after reading your phrases I understand.. its just a moment of anxiety... .. but remember short term anger will hurt a lot no matter who they are..mi parents aiyna sare..be cool..dont worry All the best.. [/quote] Well-said sastry'ji... and kane99: I replied ur PM. Good luck bro
kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='CHANAKYA' timestamp='1321981282' post='3117270'] I am also just like you Kane99. Kopam.. frustration....Money-problems...Ammayi-intlo-problems... Nenemo okkaddni..even, I dont have frnds/family support at that time.....worst ... not even AFDB. Its very easy to say...and difficult to follow. Think twice and thrice b4 u talk... talk with someone in ur friends/family-members/some-1-who can really guide u in a proper way....It myt help a lot. Always remember a great power comes with great responsibility and a great responsibility brings you a great power. So, amma nanna and aa ammyini handle cheyyatam ne responsibility. Do it on ur own. learn from ur mistakes. and Please stay focused. - [/quote] Naaaku close frnds/family evvaru leru.. Naaaku sister undhiii but dhaani problems dhaanivi.. Endhuku idhantha Cheppi dhaanini bhaadha pettadam
kane99 Posted November 22, 2011 Author Report Posted November 22, 2011 [quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1321981667' post='3117296'] Naaku telisi vallu (mee parents) kopam gaa unna kaaranam might be the only decision that ur going to make.. I guess vallu tension padutunnaru nee future gurinchi.. but as you say 7 years ga parichyam undi.. that's all one can say.. youre good. kaani obviously its hard to convince your parents.. time is the best medicine.. konchem opigga undu.. and you have to be.. dont get frustrated and angry in this crunch situations. Inkoka vishayam.. nuvvu mee parents ni entha gauravisthaav annadi cehppakarleedu. after reading your phrases I understand.. its just a moment of anxiety... .. but remember short term anger will hurt a lot no matter who they are..mi parents aiyna sare..be cool..dont worry All the best.. [/quote] Konnni days silent ga undataaamu a best option ippudu naaku...11pm avthundhiiii I'm Still on my terrace kindhiki povaaali ante bhaadha bhayam ga undhiii... Door evvaru theesthaaro ani... Emi ardham kavatledhuuu...
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