Asal Denni G Balupu Ni Emanali.....

[I hate caste......]

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[indent]Hi all, I have recently joined this forum. Hope to have a nice time here [img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif[/img]

I am recently married 4 mnths back. I was not interested in marriage and was always concerned about my career which I am now also. My marriage just happened when I fell in love with a person. It was like decided by heavens. I met him in my office and we started liking each other. I never felt mature enough to handle marriage when it happened (I am 25 [img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]) but his parents were in a hurry. Their [color=#009900 !important][u]family[/u][/color] belong to rural area and you know people there mostly are in hurry for marriage of their kids. I was not ready but he was behind me [color=#009900 !important][u]to marry[/u][/color]. I talked about this to my parents, they were reluctant for this marriage as they knew that since we belong to city having [color=#009900 !important][u]urban lifestyle[/u][/color]and his family with rural lifestyle, this was not a good [color=#009900 !important][u]match[/u][/color] for me. I just didnt listen to them and forced them for marriage. Now after [color=#009900 !important][u]getting married[/u][/color] when reality struck me and I met his family I repent my decision. Its not that he or his family are doing anything bad to me but I just don't like their rural ways of living, their rural language and thinking. I feel like an odd one out there. They all are like living in backward ways but we in [color=#009900 !important][u]cities[/u][/color] live in standardized way. There they consume things like pan, tambaku, gutaka etc which I was just not aware before. Even though I and my husband live in Mumbai, that's fine but I just dont feel like going to his home, I like living a city lifestyle in modern society. I feel very bad now, I feel that I am hurting him & his family since I dont want to be like them and dont feel like being with them. I am always thinking whether I took a wrong decision, I will never want my children to learn their language or behaviour. I am feeling very depressed nowadays since I am not able to come out with any solution, I just cannot be like them, they live backwardly and I just dont feel attached to them. Recently my inlaws came to our home and obviously they didnt like city style. My mother-in-law will say things and I know thats because of different lifestyles so I really dont mind much about this.

My husband is a nice person but I feel angry on him since he didnt tell me his families reality and didnt think for a moment that how his culture is and by bringing a girl from modern society what will be consequences? how can he expect me to live with his villager type people. I dont know what to do? This thing has really taken away my peace and now we are planning to go to his home in few months and my nights sleep has gone away[img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_spin.gif[/img] I just dnt want to go there, I simply hate there culture and feel like I am drowning [img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/drowning.gif[/img] Please advice me.... I dont want to tell anything to my parents, they will worry.[/indent][/size][/font][/color]




pelli chesukune mundu thelida.........athanu endi......valla bg endi anede...........thu mareee OA thenguthundi ide

[psycopk]

when a girl thinks she is superior to the man this is what happens.. this bitch will never learn.... she always thinks she could endup better which will never happen..

[POOLA RANGADU]

indulo ammayyi tappu takkuva...poor girl ..she just didnt have the EXPERIENCE to envision the FUTURE.. She imagined marriage with that person is ok..as he is a good guy and they are compatible.

But yeah...if family backdrops do not match..IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO ADJUST. I can empathize with the girls feelings here. Hmmm..Tood bad she got struck. She should have listened to her parents advice....That is where EXPERIENCE comes to play.

I have nothing to say...it is upto the girl to take a decision..whether to adjust...( IMPOSSIBLE ) ...or just...live with her parents...and ask her husband to leave behind the baggage ..and come live with her family...(..BOY might not agree). Divorce? ( kids...) ..huh,,,,,too painful...this is ONE HECK OF A COMPLICATED COBWEB. hang in there gal!

[Sastrygaru]

pelli cheskunnapudu kallu 10gaaya candidate ki..cheskookunda undaalsindi.. aina village lone untaayi inka nijamaina preemalu.. diiinini.. [img]http://www.desigifs.com/sites/default/files/kota-comedy1-o.gif?1290163557[/img]

[I hate caste......]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1328134399' post='1301368282']
when a girl thinks she is superior to the man this is what happens.. this bitch will never learn.... she always thinks she could endup better which will never happen..
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True.......

[k2s]

deeniki okka sari pregnant ayithey telisi ostadi........aaadadaniki kavalinsdi...... urban standardized life style kadu..... prema... anuboothi.... from parents & MILs ani........
papam...... aa ammai ki gyanam ivvu gaaka..........aaamen

[CORLEONE]

[tom bhayya]

calling mods please move all these IL threads to separate section and make suryananda mod for that section.... friends aa section ki manchi name suggest cheyandi...

[Jatka Bandi]

the only thing she is doing wrong is growing hatred against them.... i agree she doesn't like their habits but she shouldn't be talking like this with hatred about them.... adjust avvali.... musukuni kurchovali..... it should be an understanding between her and her husband... mundem chesindi telusukokunda? marriage anedi 2 people ki sambandhinchindi kadu 2 families ki sambandhinchindi ante love marriages ke against vundali.... arranged marriages win then.....

[Spartan]

[quote name='Alexander' timestamp='1328134745' post='1301368298']
calling mods please move all these IL threads to separate section and make suryananda mod for that section.... friends aa section ki manchi name suggest cheyandi...
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agreed.....title... LBW...LAW

[k2s]

[quote name='Alexander' timestamp='1328134745' post='1301368298']
calling mods please move all these IL threads to separate section and make suryananda mod for that section.... friends aa section ki manchi name suggest cheyandi...
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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1328134897' post='1301368306']


agreed.....title... LBW...LAW
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[katharnak]

balupu or nalupu

[Spartan]

[quote name='katharnak' timestamp='1328134942' post='1301368310']
balupu or nalupu
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obviously Nalupu....

[tom bhayya]

[quote name='katharnak' timestamp='1328134942' post='1301368310']
balupu or nalupu
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balupu tho nalupu kanipistha ledhu

[tom bhayya]

[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1328134897' post='1301368306']


agreed.....title... LBW...LAW
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bavundhi...