Asal Denni G Balupu Ni Emanali.....

[ganesh]

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[/quote]neee valla ivanni sadavalsi vastundi

[k2s]

[quote name='ganesh' timestamp='1328213473' post='1301371043']
neee valla ivanni sadavalsi vastundi
[/quote]idi mari bavundi........ala antey......writters anni booklu rasthunnaru......anni saduvuthara...... sadivi.... writers ni antara.....mee valla maaku aa paristhithi vachindi ani.....

[ganesh]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1328213684' post='1301371054']
idi mari bavundi........ala antey......writters anni booklu rasthunnaru......anni saduvuthara...... sadivi.... writers ni antara.....mee valla maaku aa paristhithi vachindi ani.....
[/quote]gussa kyu hore miyaa...bus u hee chidaaraha tha

[k2s]

[quote name='ganesh' timestamp='1328213746' post='1301371056']
gussa kyu hore miyaa...bus u hee chidaaraha tha
[/quote]hum gussa nai gussa nai..... example diya diya

[POOLA RANGADU]

[quote name='computaboi' timestamp='1328212281' post='1301370996']
she should learn to respect people irrespective of their language , [color=#ff0000][size=5]living conditions etc.[/size][/color]
should not think too much abt it and start to MoveON with her life.

So you can eliminate living conditions issues
Now coming to people, no matter who they are I have impressions that she probably won't like them just because they are not same as her.

Bottom line there is no need to show pity on the girl, if she really loves him I am sure she can make a small sacrifice to ADJUST for 25 days in 365 days , the situation is not as bad as what she thinks.
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I dont see any new dimension or value add in your reply. I have already quoted the SOLUTIONS. in a DB, all discos are made on ASSUMPTIONS regarding this kind of issues. Nobody is going to become a JAMES BOND 007 to personally go and investigate . I made assumptions based on the exposure i have. U can take ur stand based on ur understanding. How can u say my assumptions are wrong without even knowing the facts yourself?

Living conditions ante...pan,gutka, matka, vagaira naa? inka aa ammayi cheppanivi enni unnayo...road side peeing etc kudaa undi untaayi...avanni KIDS ki ekkada alavatu avtuaayo ani aame bhayam.

yearly 30 days/20 days alaanti trip vesinaa...adi chaalu YOUNG KIDS spoil avvataaniki. BAD MANNERS and BAD HABITS nerchukuntaaniki.

How can you say...there is no NEED to show PITY? mayb u dont feel the need. I DO and i WILL. and one more thing...the GIRL is not the ONLY PERSON who has to prove her LOVE or who needs to make the sacrifice...she already did by staying in the marriage and keeping up with her in laws stupidity during their visit. Why cant the guy , take care of his shiz? why cant he go and live with the girls parents , keeping in mind their KIDS ?

[tom brady]

[quote name='POOLA RANGADU' timestamp='1328160306' post='1301369549']
aa abbayi place lo nenu untee...ane supposition ki nenu jsutification ivvalekapovachu..cos...maadi marii alaanti ..killi..pan paraag backdrop kaadu kaabatti.

ee case lo andaru aa ammayi ni tittina tittu tittakunda tittaaru. But i want to point out a few things :

1) aa ammayi...abbayi dabbu ni choosi oo..aasthi ni choosi oo...chesukoledu. MANISHI ni MANISHI gaa choosi..aa ammayi sthaayi kakapoinaa...PELLI ki siddha padi...PARENTS vaddu ani cheppinaa..vinakunda..tana manasu cheppina maata vindi.

2) Even after getting a RUDE CULTURAL shock , she didnt disrespect them nor did she openly convey her hatred towards their habits like pan,gutka etc which are an INCONVENIENCE to any HIGENIC person. She has lived with MNERAL WATER DRINKING and if she goes there..she might be scared of DIARRHOEA or CHOLERA for that matter. the food, comforts, house, privacy, ambience, EVERYTHING is a TOTAL RUDE SHOCK to her.

YET..she was just wondering ..how to SURVIVE rather than thinking of letting the guy go. The poor girl, didnt even tell her parents her suffering inspite of the mental agony.She is SILENTLY suffering the pain.

She has clearly stated, she doesnt want her kids to get the foolish thoughts/knaive thoughts of her in-laws , their language and their unhygenic habits.

I SUPPORT THE GIRL 100% .

If i had a sister, i wouldn't want to send her to such a backdrop and if i did, i would feel bad for her .

That's why i think in this case, the guy covered up his backdrop and silently got married without exposing his family an saying that the girl doesn't need to worry about his family or stay with them after marriage.


MATTER OF FACT....I AM RATHER SHOCKED THE WAY THE GUYS HAVE REACTED TO HER FEELINGS. Except for NPR, no one was thinking on the same lines i quoted. Am not asking for agreement, but shouldn't there be a common ground?
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[k2s]

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[bonguking]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1328216705' post='1301371203']
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[computaboi]

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[color=#ff8c00]I dont see any new dimension or value add in your reply[/color]. I have already quoted the SOLUTIONS. in a DB, all discos are made on ASSUMPTIONS regarding this kind of issues. Nobody is going to become a JAMES BOND 007 to personally go and investigate . [color=#ffd700] I made assumptions based on the exposure i have[/color]. U can take ur stand based on ur understanding. How can u say my assumptions are wrong without even knowing the facts yourself?

[color=#ff8c00]Living conditions ante...pan,gutka, matka, vagaira naa? inka aa ammayi cheppanivi enni unnayo...road side peeing etc kudaa undi untaayi...avanni KIDS ki ekkada alavatu avtuaayo ani aame bhayam. [/color]

How can you say...there is no NEED to show PITY? mayb u dont feel the need. I DO and i WILL. and one more thing...the GIRL is not the ONLY PERSON who has to prove her LOVE or who needs to make the sacrifice...[color=#ff8c00]she already did by staying in the marriage and keeping up with her in laws stupidity during their visit. Why cant the guy , take care of his shiz? why cant he go and live with the girls parents , keeping in mind their KIDS ?[/color]
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Lol above makes me giggle, please read my previous reply once again!
The fact is not that "you don't" just YOU CAN'T
I want to re-iterate what she already said, NOT living with her husband's family.
If I were you I probably would re-think of the exposure what I have , don't have to be James bond, lol, There is one thing called "Common sense" assess the situation with more common sense rather than analytical mind and keep it close to realitty.
So according to you for someone to marry, both the families shouldn't not have any unhygenic habbits, did I get that right ?
Oh , didn't know that she was planning to keep her children 365*7 with her (infront of her), Not allowing them to see real world or communicate with any1 who has "bad habbits" ?
It is easy to get carried away in 1-direction , No I am not saying evrything you said is wrong but I want to only highlight that NOT all your opions are necessarily correct
Finally, reason why I quoted urs was you have clearly blamed the guy assuming that he actually hidden the fact that he was from village and wanted to marry her because she is from "city"
If you've read her version carefully, she did know that they were from village and her parents warned her aswell. Yes I agree she may not have been aware of some of the "bad habbits"
Niku valla intlo andaru pan parag tisukuntunnara leka okkallu tisukuntunnara ee ammayiki adi okatena problem, vallatho matladi chusinda asalu pan parag alantivi tanaki nachadu ani so ame akkada unna 2 days may be inti bayata bedi and pan parag tisukuni loniki vachetappudu face wash chesukuni rammani chepinda ? evanna discussions ayyaya , you don't know! you could probably advice that to her But your solutions will NOT make ANY GOOD AT ALL to improve the situation.
Infact I wouldn't consider them as solutions in the first place as they are completely irrelevant to the original post
everything has +ve's and -ve's , I strongly believe at this time of her life she definitely didn't deserve a reply which makes her feel more worse than she actually was.
Physologically she needs something which can calm her and make her to re-think and feel everything is ok.
Marriage ante ilantivi chala vastai but one need to differentiate between real crisis and the ones which are not
What are you on about I don't really get it ?

[computaboi]

[quote name='POOLA RANGADU' timestamp='1328134456' post='1301368284']
indulo ammayyi tappu takkuva...poor girl ..she just didnt have the EXPERIENCE to envision the FUTURE.. She imagined marriage with that person is ok..as he is a good guy and they are compatible.

But yeah...if family backdrops do not match..IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO ADJUST. I can empathize with the girls feelings here. Hmmm..Tood bad she got struck. She should have listened to her parents advice....That is where EXPERIENCE comes to play.

[color=#a52a2a]I have nothing to say...it is upto the girl to take a decision..whether to adjust...( IMPOSSIBLE ) ...or just...live with her parents...and ask her husband to leave behind the baggage ..and come live with her family...(..BOY might not agree). Divorce? ( kids...) ..huh,,,,,too painful...this is ONE HECK OF A COMPLICATED COBWEB. hang in there gal!
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May be you need to read the girls issue again, how come moving with her family is the resolution to problem ? [color=#A52A2A] [/color]thinking,,,,,,,,,
she did even mention that her husband is ok to live with and you suggesting one possible solution as divorce ? hmm certainly is a new dimesion sir!

[rapchik]

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[k2s]

[quote name='ReddyGaru' timestamp='1328378302' post='1301377384']
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[/quote] no ltt

[rapchik]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1328378433' post='1301377398']
no ltt
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babu nuvva...ee topics anitiki last sthabam nuve kadha

[k2s]

[quote name='ReddyGaru' timestamp='1328378502' post='1301377409']
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babu nuvva...ee topics anitiki last sthabam nuve kadha
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[Myaav]