Estory - 2 : Fafa Lolli

[k2s]

Life after marraige seems to be changed completely. Priority of people, things to do, problems.. everything changes. I had been going through the inlaws-drama episode since i got married. Initially I felt that they are his parents and DH not living with us (initially for few months), they miss him alott. I tried to pamper inlaws by ways 'n means, but they were / are tough nuts! Ultimately, everything..relation, love, respect was destroyed by their nonsense and stupid act of sending me obscene emails. Since then I am not at all talking to them, but inlaws are constantly getting in touch with DH, so that ONLY HE (my DH) starts interacting with them as before. They dont need me at anytime, anywhere & anymore! In-a-way, it better, becasue I would have to again prove myself to egoist humans, who dont want to change a bit even. But inlaws calling DH constantly is making him more depressed. He is not liking their calls, but he cannot avoid for a reason if incase either of them might be some problem and he should not repent later. DH has few extremely good friends, since his childhood to whom he vented out everything about the problems going since we got married till the recent one. He is more attached to his friends than his parents, because all of them helped him in his bad times, and always stood by him, no matter whatever happened.

The problem here is, DH doesnt give me time. As in, he will work entire week like anything. But on weekends right from Friday to Sunday, he will give max time to his friends. Like on Friday, he will take me out for dinner, drop me back home by 10.30-11 PM and then go with his friends and comes back ONLY by 3.30-4AM! Initially I thought he is depressed and he needs sometime alone for himself or maybe with his friends, so I didnot bother much. But now its like almost 3 months he is doin this same thing! He wakes up by 11 on saturday's / sunday's, stays at home for say 3-4 hrs, puts his movies on the player (whether I like to watch them or no, doesnt matter), gets ready and gone! He goes out with them. Only if I fight / argue of not giving me time, he will again do same thing, take me out for some hrs, drop me back home and then goes wid his friends and comes late. This is like a fixed pattern that he is follwing, where the amount of time he is at home, he doesnt talk much, but he is completely in his movie. He will direct me to clean the house, or cook xyz for him. Beyond that, he will talk only about HIS official issues, nothing more than that. I tried to catchup with one of my friend, from old organisation, but he didnot like and created a big scene the other day. I met one of my sister's friend, for some work, he dint like that either, and dint talk to me for 3-4 hrs (where I dint bother to ask him the reason becasue I knew why he was upset). I dont have friends at all in this city. My office doesnt have much staff (barely100-150 ppl) with whom I can be friends, as there are too many elderly men in my organisation. Also, myself & DH working in the same organisation, its a little difficult also, to gel alongwith ppl around. All my college friends are based in other cities, so I am kindda left lonely. I know I should socialise with neighbours and others, but there is no one the floor that we live . I told him all these things a no. of times, but he doesnt change at all, doesnt even think once that I might be getting bored. He simply sees his enjoyment, and relaxation on weekends.

I suppressed my depression, thinking that its HIS parents who have done this shameful thing and he needs a shoulder to cry. But inturn, he is not even bothered to talk normally to me, forget about problems or his feelings. I tired ignoring this, thinking he might be feeling ashamed of his parents while talking to me much, but he all normal and good to his friends and others whom HE meets. He doesnt come with to meet my aunt (mom's sis), nor to attend any of they functions, but he would want me to invite his friends for lunch / dinner at our home. Where his friend's wife's have never ever invited us for the same. If say NO, he will b upset. He would want me to go to some crap functions, of a person who he just has an aquaintance! But never wants to come to my relatives place. He expected me to serve him and his friends when they come home to drink on weekends. Though I have not accepted this idea ever, but he still keeps asking me (doesnt use his BRAINS or rather thinks only about himself and his friends!)

He pushes me to have a baby, where I fear if get pregnant, he will leave like this at home alone, all the time and freak out with his friends. Even after we have a baby, he will do the same, as I will have to stay back at home for the baby, and I will be the ONLY parent to take care of OUR child. He thinks when I will conceive, he will ask my parents to come and stay with me all the while, so that I will not nag / throw tantrums and he can merrily enoy with his friends. I wasnt keeping well last month, and was on treatment / tests for 15dys. I got severe stomach ache, which was unbearable. I called him and asked him to come home if he can, as I wasnot able to sit as well. It was 11.00PM, but my DH came home only at 4.00AM!! I cried cried and cried and went to sleep with that pain. Did bring this incidence to his notice, but no changes /use!. He wants me to ask my parents to come and stay with me, so that on weekends i cannot complain of me getting bored. My parents did come for almost 15dys (for some work and to attend a wedding). But DH again did the same thing, and came back home at 4 AM, and my dad was furious on this but dint say anything to DH.

We both earn, he earns 50% more than what i get. We pay the house rent / grocery / lite bills etc 50-50, beyond that if i am left with no money he doesnt give me money to spend for the rest of the month. Despite of reminding him, that my money is over, and I need money as I cant keep asking him every now and then, because he stays busy most of the time in weekdays, he doesnt give me money. At times I dint have money to have my lunch, and had to eat only sandwiches by paying in chillar. Still he doesnt give me money. He counts on the no. of times he takes me out for dinner or movies. Even if he stays at home and does things for HIS own entertainment, he will count on them and tell me that he was at home for me for this much time.

I am kinda frustrated with this timetable relationship, where my set of feelings are being ignored, no time given to me but expect everything from me. He loves me, but doesnt want to spend time with me as a husband. He feels we are still GF/BF, that spending limited time is fine. His friends are also the same, and havent changed at all post having kids as well. Few of them, dedicate time to their family/ functions and socialism, but my DH does NOTHING! Things were little fine until we were away from this abc city, where his parents & friends live. But since we are back to his hometown, I am left alone at home to do nothing but to cook clean and sit at home on weekends.

Please help / suggest / advice what should I do in this situation? I am very much frustrated in things going on like this.

[kidmakers]

pichcha naayalu.. pellaani ilaage inkonni rojulu vadilesthe.. adhi evadi tho no jump jilaani antundhi..

[ganesh]

solution simple...office maru......intlonu apees lo nu ninne sutte inka migatavari sangati emiti?

[Business_man2]

enta nenu chadva lenu baa ...


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[k2s]

[quote name='Business_man2' timestamp='1330544171' post='1301464521']
enta nenu chadva lenu baa ...


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[/quote]hehe lite theesukoo

[Anta Assamey]

Veediki bad time daggara padindi... Aaa Pilla jump ayye time daggara padindi....Veedu oka pedda waste fellow laga vunnadu... [img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated3/bemmi.lol5.gif[/img]

[M KCR]

Urgent..Urgent..need Accommodation near their apartment...Thanks in advance

[irritation]

anduke antaaru.....
GF\Bf ga unnappudu love okkati chaalu...
kaani....
marriage ki love okkati unte chaaladuu ani.....

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[irritation]

[quote name='M KCR' timestamp='1330547288' post='1301464782']
Urgent..Urgent..need Accommodation near their apartment...Thanks in advance
[/quote]

valluu unde floor motham khaaali anta....
velli vethukkoo.... fakka dorukuthadi....
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[M KCR]

[quote name='irritation' timestamp='1330548090' post='1301464835']
valluu unde floor motham khaaali anta....
velli vethukkoo.... fakka dorukuthadi....
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[Simple123]

naku eppudu arddam ayyindi . India lo divorce rate enduku perugutundo and illegal relationships enduku maintain chestaro .

deenikanna pelli chesukoka povatame better. Nenu ammayilaki ade chepta ,

[dreamgirl]

[quote name='irritation' timestamp='1330547992' post='1301464824']
anduke antaaru.....
GF\Bf ga unnappudu love okkati chaalu...
kaani....
marriage ki love okkati unte chaaladuu ani.....

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[/quote]

avunu dabbu kuuda kaavaali

dg..

[Simple123]

[quote name='dreamgirl' timestamp='1330548445' post='1301464859']

avunu dabbu kuuda kaavaali

dg..
[/quote]


Last night nenu ,oka ammayi divorce gurinche oka 2hrs discuss chesam. aa ammayi friends 3 members divorce tesukunnaru , naku telisina vallu emo oka 10 mandi vunnaru .


So conclusion enti ante Money and Se* , indivduality (character) are the reasons for getting divorced

[dreamgirl]

[quote name='Simple123' timestamp='1330548696' post='1301464881']


Last night nenu ,oka ammayi divorce gurinche oka 2hrs discuss chesam. aa ammayi friends 3 members divorce tesukunnaru , naku telisina vallu emo oka 10 mandi vunnaru .


So conclusion enti ante Money and Se* , indivduality (character) are the reasons for getting divorced
[/quote]

life is never perfect..!!

dg..

[irritation]

[quote name='M KCR' timestamp='1330548271' post='1301464849']
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[/quote]

aa website ki velli.....
faafa ni adugu...... chepthadi....

K2S ni link fee em seyyamani seppu....
sesthaadu.....

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