Spartan Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='CITI' timestamp='1332134764' post='1301531877'] for ur cousin situation......... Now a DAYS its soo common issue bhayya......india ki velthunnaru annavu kada akkada mee idhhari families tho issue ento clear ga thelsukomanu ahh ammayi ki ela vuntey ishtam ani theluskoni follow ayipovadamey konni days.....later usa lo edho oka job chesthu untey mind change avochhu hope for the best.......divorce antey ippudu pichhalite antunnaru bhayyaa endho ee yedhava jeevitham ila ayipothunnaru andharu [color=#ff0000][size=6]no moral values[/size][/color] [/quote] Define them.....
150bryant Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1332134985' post='1301531881'] Define them..... [/quote] moral science lo fail anta
Spartan Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='jamajacha' timestamp='1332135050' post='1301531887'] moral science lo fail anta [/quote] 35 kuda raale....
150bryant Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1332135082' post='1301531888'] 35 kuda raale.... [/quote]unit test lo 6/20
golmaal govindam Posted March 19, 2012 Author Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='POOLA RANGADU' timestamp='1332134743' post='1301531875'] what is the take of the girls parents on the issue? how ready are they to sit and resolve issues with the boy and his parents? what are the boys parents stand on this? The answer to your Question : what is the stage post- divorce : NIGHT MARE. ur COUSIN is headed for SELF DESTRUCTION. You can picturize him losing his job,money,reputation and mental balance. the feasible solution and QUICK advice i can suggest is that they both take MARRIAGE COUNSELING immediately. 2) ask both of them to go on a vacation ..a relaxed one. present them with a collage of photos pre and post marriage. 3) if you are so concerned about your cousin...invite their family for dinner...and tour them around ...show them how your family works...with an UNDERLYING message..dont be blatant about it. play some games tht develop intimacy between them. I can assure you one thing..It is SILLY/STUPID and WORSE to go for a divorce for no good reason. the results will be disastrous. it will be MUCH TOUGHER on the guys prt than it is on the girl . all she needs to say is her ex was a sadist. [/quote] Boys parents are just worried. They want both son and daughter in law to be happy. Traditional family kada, so divorce antey bhayapaduthunnaru. At the same time, son's life has become hell with the girl, so that is also worrying them. Girl's parents are basically good people, but are very prestige sensitive. Vallaka telusu valla ammayee chaala demanding ani. Only daughter, and heavily pampered. Andukey India ki kooda ravaddu antunnaru. So that there wont' be any drama there. Sometimes they push for having a baby, they say it will change the girl.
Spartan Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='jamajacha' timestamp='1332135148' post='1301531891'] unit test lo 6/20 [/quote] aite put CITI under Probation.....
pavan_613 Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1332134985' post='1301531881'] Define them..... [/quote] pelli sesukoni ila divorce chesukuntam antey ....inka ahh husband-wife relationship ki emm value isthunnar vayyyy pelli antey majaak ayipoyindhi
pavan_613 Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='jamajacha' timestamp='1332135050' post='1301531887'] moral science lo fail anta [/quote] [quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1332135082' post='1301531888'] 35 kuda raale.... [/quote] [quote name='jamajacha' timestamp='1332135148' post='1301531891'] unit test lo 6/20 [/quote] [quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1332135212' post='1301531894'] aite put CITI under Probation..... [/quote]
golmaal govindam Posted March 19, 2012 Author Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='ChandraBhai' timestamp='1332135107' post='1301531889'] Antega life borIng at home annapudu do find some job to say antaga divorce range lo alochistindi antey there is something fishy going On with her [/quote] Ledu baa.. lets not judge anybody's character here. Girl and family, everyone are good people. Just problem with anger management.
golmaal govindam Posted March 19, 2012 Author Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='CITI' timestamp='1332134927' post='1301531880'] job cheyyadam interest lenappudu usa lo day care center or inkedhayina open chesukoni pettukuni timepass cheyyali ila intlo kurchoni office nundi vachhey mee cousin ki torture choopiyadam antey koncham kashtamey bhayya [/quote] From last many months we have given many such suggestions, like daycare, working at restaurent, or any india store etc etc.. I also spoke with girl sometimes with those ideas, but nothing ever implemented. Enduku cheyaledu naaku telidu... I live far away from that family. Nenu PST, vallu EST.
pavan_613 Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='golmaal govindam' timestamp='1332135345' post='1301531903'] Ledu baa.. lets not judge anybody's character here. Girl and family, everyone are good people. Just problem with anger management. [/quote] adhey kada intlo kurchuntey ilanti ideas eyy vasthayi bhayya....... so thanu timepass cheyyadaniki edho oka work chesthu undali evarayina........ so meeru ala plan chesukondi better to solve this issue ASAP........
pavan_613 Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='golmaal govindam' timestamp='1332135488' post='1301531908'] From last many months we have given many such suggestions, like daycare, working at restaurent, or any india store etc etc.. I also spoke with girl sometimes with those ideas, but nothing ever implemented. Enduku cheyaledu naaku telidu... I live far away from that family. Nenu PST, vallu EST. [/quote] inka thanu meeru em cheppina viney position lo ledhantey manam emi cheyyalemu bhayya thanu emanna mee ideas accept chestheyney kada issue solve ayyedhi otherwise counselling cheppivadam better
PMREDDY19 Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='golmaal govindam' timestamp='1332135206' post='1301531893'] Boys parents are just worried. They want both son and daughter in law to be happy. Traditional family kada, so divorce antey bhayapaduthunnaru. At the same time, son's life has become hell with the girl, so that is also worrying them. Girl's parents are basically good people, but are very prestige sensitive. Vallaka telusu valla ammayee chaala demanding ani. Only daughter, and heavily pampered. [color=#008000][u][b]Andukey India ki kooda ravaddu antunnaru. So that there wont' be any drama there. Sometimes they push for having a baby, they say it will change the girl.[/b][/u][/color] [/quote] happy to hear this part. then mee vaadu careful gaa plan sesukoni fix chesukovali ikkadey oka week leave petti edina trip ki velli ayina...
golmaal govindam Posted March 19, 2012 Author Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='PMR aka OM' timestamp='1332135634' post='1301531918'] happy to hear this part. then mee vaadu careful gaa plan sesukoni fix chesukovali ikkadey oka week leave petti edina trip ki velli ayina... [/quote] Ledu baa, that part is the most scary part. My cousin says, the wife can't take care of herself, forget about baby. Girl parents tho anger problems discuss chesdam anukuntey, the parents try to push away the problem and postpone everything. This is where it gets more fishy. For the sake of their prestige they won't even confront the problem.
POOLA RANGADU Posted March 19, 2012 Report Posted March 19, 2012 [quote name='golmaal govindam' timestamp='1332135206' post='1301531893'] Boys parents are just worried. They want both son and daughter in law to be happy. Traditional family kada, so divorce antey bhayapaduthunnaru. At the same time, son's life has become hell with the girl, so that is also worrying them. Girl's parents are basically good people, but are very prestige sensitive. Vallaka telusu valla ammayee chaala demanding ani. Only daughter, and heavily pampered. Andukey India ki kooda ravaddu antunnaru. So that there wont' be any drama there. Sometimes they push for having a baby, they say it will change the girl. [/quote] the girl has the courage to go for divorce looking at her parents support...since u r saying that the parents are traditional value oriented people...and they care for prestige,,why not ask her parents to call their daughter and counsel her saying they wont support her if she comes back for divorce and that she is on her own.... in this case...the girls parents have to CONVEY A MESSAGE TO THE GIRL ..that her husband is her ONLY FUTURE and not them....only then the girl will start thinking in the other direction..else..she wud always think she has a luxury of walking out of marriage with minimal bruises . if there are any of the girls friends....try to talk to them and ask their help in convincing the girl into an amicable fashion..explain to her the NIGHT MARES of divorce and that she would be branded as an outcast etc. find out who is the person she listens to ..or likes the most and convey the message through them...looks like the girl is head strong...and will not tolerate FORCED messages. So better give it to her slowly and gently rather than trying to PUSH IT HARD.
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