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[chantiabbai]

Anta reaseach chesinappudu naaku naaku okati ardam ayyindi...
point1: i wasnt ready for marriage ....i had to keep age in mind ( i was 26)
point2: i wasnt ready for any responsibilty .....(intlo vallani gurtu unchukovali)
point 3: Chinnappudni nunchi struggles ke saripoyindi US vachakaa ka kooda hotelllu, motellu,food courts, cleaninglu ki saripoyindi eppudu enjoy chayyaledu ippudu pelli aite kastame (Na gurinchi neenu alochinchaali)


elopu neenu reluctanct ga unna ani ma father ardam ayyindi anukunta calls chayyalekapoyesariki.....so he started his own research naaku US lo evaranna ammai ante istama ani...US Lo ma annai (cousin) who supported my parents for this allaince stared calling me close ga maaataldam modal pettadu.. naaku ardam ayyindi indirect atanu yeera chanti neeku avaranna ammai ante istama ani adugudam anukunnadu adi ma father adiginannduku chestunnadu ani kooda ardam ayyindi neenu chappindi ala ma father ki oooodesevaadu

[kakatiya]

ok next ?

[chantiabbai]

Neenu inko 2 months lo India trip ki tickets teeskunna...Ammai to maatladam ante phone number ivvaledu you can talk to her in person when you come to India annaru....Inko 2 months lo engagement ki setting avtundi intalo na OPT extn ki RFE padindi So i India trip cancel cheskovalsochindi adi ma father ki call chesi chapte.... haaaannnnnnn veedu garantee US lo edo chestunnadu evaro ammai ni line lo pettadu ani confirm ayyipoyaaru....neenu nizamga na immigration issues valla raalekapotunna anna kooda nammale...but i was in a way ready to get married..ila discusiions jarugutunnai anta lo naaku oka unkown vyakthi nunchi email vachindi... It was something like this (In short):

Sir naaku meeu evaro telidu US lo edo pedda positionlo unnaru ani telusu e email enduku raaasanu ante naaaku Vaishanavi ante istam and tanaki kooda neenu ante chaal istam....aa ammai ki mi sambhamvachindi ani telisindi valla parents US pampincheddam ani anukuntunnaru ... so can you help us out in some way ani. Also please i beg ila email raasi nattu vaishnavi valla parents ki teliyakunda chudandi we will be deeply indebted to you for life time ani.... ante naaku inko pedda shot tagilindi at the same time koddiga sadistiic happiness unde edo moolano. ippudu dhairyam ga ma vallaki chappi ammai ni reject chayyachu ani

[kakatiya]

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Neenu inko 2 months lo India trip ki tickets teeskunna...Ammai to maatladam ante phone number ivvaledu you can talk to her in person when you come to India annaru....Inko 2 months lo engagement ki setting avtundi intalo na OPT extn ki RFE padindi So i India trip cancel cheskovalsochindi adi ma father ki call chesi chapte.... haaaannnnnnn veedu garantee US lo edo chestunnadu evaro ammai ni line lo pettadu ani confirm ayyipoyaaru....neenu nizamga na immigration issues valla raalekapotunna anna kooda nammale...but i was in a way ready to get married..ila discusiions jarugutunnai anta lo naaku oka unkown vyakthi nunchi email vachindi... It was something like this (In short):

[color=#ff0000]Sir naaku meeu evaro telidu US lo edo pedda positionlo unnaru ani telusu e email enduku raaasanu ante naaaku Vaishanavi ante istam and tanaki kooda neenu ante chaal istam....aa ammai ki mi sambhamvachindi ani telisindi valla parents US pampincheddam ani anukuntunnaru ... so can you help us out in some way ani. Also please i beg ila email raasi nattu vaishnavi valla parents ki teliyakunda chudandi we will be deeply indebted to you for life time ani.... ante naaku inko pedda shot tagilindi at the same time koddiga sadistiic happiness unde edo moolano. ippudu dhairyam ga ma vallaki chappi ammai ni reject chayyachu ani[/color]
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[chantiabbai]

aaa abbai email tho na paristiti penam ( hot pan)nunchi teesi poyye (Stove) meeda padesinattu ayyindi em chayyalo ardam kaale... ammai meeda toosesi neenu safe ayyipoona leka intlo valladeggira vilan ni avvana ani alochincha... aapudu naaaku unna oke okaa satisfaction na Job adi kooda ma manager gaadu pichi chanti enti you have not been so efficient these days, i see you in beard and not at all active is something wrong ,, is there anything which we could help you out.. end of the day as a manager i dont want our work being effected due to your personal problems ani chappadu neenu i am ani baitaki vachasa ellaki mana desi kastaalu etla telustai ani.Sayantram intiki vachi ...Ooopiri peelchukooni phone teesi ma father ki call chesa amma ni pilichi speaker on chayyamani chappa...nannagaru naaaku aa ammai ante istam ledu andaru dabbu priority antunnaru kaani thismoment i dont feel like that ......naaku konta time kaavali settle avvadaniki, enjoy chayyadaniki, prasantanga undadaniki.... Neenu India raakapodaniki karanam e pelli chupulu and all kaadu naaku nizamga imigrationproblem undi even though you feel full timers wouldn't have any immigration issues ani ..i know you are concered about marriage but give me some more time e saari india vachinappudu i will come only to seee you and spend time with you pelli chupulu ivanni pettukokandi ani chappa alage aa ammai valla father ki naaku US lo evaro ammai istam ani chappayandi chappesanyandi blame it on me ani clear ga chappesi pettesa ( i promise neenu ikada ye ammai ni line lo pettale ani kooda chappa ). debbaki ma amma nanna nidra mattu motttam vadili untadi thats is it parents kada as usual konnali kopaginchukunna aa taraavta i took them into confidence but i never told them about the email thing. ammai happy neenu kooda happy [img]http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-1Gku3fCJsmM/T3rlYDDQOgI/AAAAAAAAC0Q/ElfRnVy8Iec/s1600/brahmi-GIf+s.gif[/img]

[kakatiya]

sCo_^Ywhat happened from girls parents side... vallu shuntings cheyaledha ?[quote name='chantiabbai' timestamp='1338995250' post='1301921275']
aaa abbai email tho na paristiti penam ( hot pan)nunchi teesi poyye (Stove) meeda padesinattu ayyindi em chayyalo ardam kaale... ammai meeda toosesi neenu safe ayyipoona leka intlo valladeggira vilan ni avvana ani alochincha... aapudu naaaku unna oke okaa satisfaction na Job adi kooda ma manager gaadu pichi chanti enti you have not been so efficient these days, i see you in beard and not at all active is something wrong ,, is there anything which we could help you out.. end of the day as a manager i dont want our work being effected due to your personal problems ani chappadu neenu i am ani baitaki vachasa ellaki mana desi kastaalu etla telustai ani.Sayantram intiki vachi ...Ooopiri peelchukooni phone teesi ma father ki call chesa amma ni pilichi speaker on chayyamani chappa...nannagaru naaaku aa ammai ante istam ledu andaru dabbu priority antunnaru kaani thismoment i dont feel like that ......naaku konta time kaavali settle avvadaniki, enjoy chayyadaniki, prasantanga undadaniki.... Neenu India raakapodaniki karanam e pelli chupulu and all kaadu naaku nizamga imigrationproblem undi even though you feel full timers wouldn't have any immigration issues ani ..i know you are concered about marriage but give me some more time e saari india vachinappudu i will come only to seee you and spend time with you pelli chupulu ivanni pettukokandi ani chappa alage aa ammai valla father ki naaku US lo evaro ammai istam ani chappayandi chappesanyandi blame it on me ani clear ga chappesi pettesa ( i promise neenu ikada ye ammai ni line lo pettale ani kooda chappa ). debbaki ma amma nanna nidra mattu motttam vadili untadi thats is it parents kada as usual konnali kopaginchukunna aa taraavta i took them into confidence but i never told them about the email thing. ammai happy neenu kooda happy [img]http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-1Gku3fCJsmM/T3rlYDDQOgI/AAAAAAAAC0Q/ElfRnVy8Iec/s1600/brahmi-GIf+s.gif[/img]
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[chantiabbai]

Lessons learnt:

1. Neenento asalu Naakem kaavalo telusukunna
2. In India, Arriaged marriages are tough these days (Unavailability of girls and all the priority and check list we have)
3.Ammai tho maatadkunda ye decision teeskovaddu, ammai parents would try to hide her or manupulate you and your family (Bavagaru ani varasalu kalipi butta lo veesetaaru, naaku inni kotlu unnai ani buscuitlu veestaaru)
4. meeku prority ento telusukondi ( Money or manishi)
5. Family , relatives or frnds pressure to decision teeskovaddu
6. Witnin 2 - 3months lo engagment, pelli elantivi pettukovaddu, india vellama pillani chuskunnama cheskunnama annattu kaakunda give some time to under stand the situations. aa abbai naaku dhiaryam chesi aa email raayakaapote pelli cheseskune vadnemo aa tarvata paristi meeku telusu anukunta
7. Arranged marriages cheskunte chaaala compromise avvali
8. Final, point pelli vishayaniki vachesariki mana parents chaala maaripotaaru you will see a different angle in them

Rest i wish you enjoy it . Starting lo humoruos ga unna madyalo kodiga senti ayyinanduku every body have a very happy pelli chupulu [img]http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-32x5dliudwk/T1jmfyZ2fnI/AAAAAAAAB-E/hYvQqghGX5k/s320/bbaa.gif[/img]

[chantiabbai]

Comments and concerns are appreciated [img]http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-taZr4RHNh2c/T2Gh5cAWqXI/AAAAAAAACM8/sJHwmro7Xwo/s1600/brahmanandam+randi+bau+randi.gif[/img]

[Idly Vishwanatham]

Good post chanti mama.. Good narration too..

[kakatiya]

[quote name='chantiabbai' timestamp='1338996028' post='1301921359']
Comments and concerns are appreciated [img]http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-taZr4RHNh2c/T2Gh5cAWqXI/AAAAAAAACM8/sJHwmro7Xwo/s1600/brahmanandam+randi+bau+randi.gif[/img]
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i asked what is the reaction from girls side.. as u dropped the deal ???

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GP...

[professor]

Happy ending for you

and also learnt a good lession

Kudos

[chicago]

[quote name='chantiabbai' timestamp='1338996028' post='1301921359']
Comments and concerns are appreciated [img]http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-taZr4RHNh2c/T2Gh5cAWqXI/AAAAAAAACM8/sJHwmro7Xwo/s1600/brahmanandam+randi+bau+randi.gif[/img]
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1) ah pilla ki pelli aindha athani tho
2) mana parents lo different angle antay sardukupovatama
3) eppudu pelli cheskuntavu
4)lover dorakatamu kastamu......

[chicago]

[quote name='Idly Vishwanatham' timestamp='1338996298' post='1301921388']
Good post chanti mama.. Good narration too..
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agreed..

[Idly Vishwanatham]

[quote name='dirty kid' timestamp='1338996416' post='1301921400']
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1) ah pilla ki pelli aindha athani tho
2) mana parents lo different angle antay sardukupovatama
3) eppudu pelli cheskuntavu
4)lover dorakatamu kastamu......
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Inni years manaki nachinde cheyyamane parents first time compromise avvu ani force chestharu.. Ade anukunta he meant