Estory - 4 : Maaya Kosam Inko Estory : Friday Sfecial

[k2s]

Hi,

Here is a gist of what happened in my life in the past 8 years...
I am 28 yrs old now... pregnant with my first kid... may deliver anytime...
Mine is a love cum arranged marriage... I fell in love with my college senior when i was 20. he is 3 years elder to me. He was so caring, Jovial and loving during the initial 2-3 years of our love life. Since he was abroad n i was busy with my studies, we won't meet or call often...
With both side consent, wedding was arranged. His parents so nice to me before wedding... they told i can even give my salary to my parents after wedding...
But problems started sprouting up even before the wedding cud happen. Since it was a love marriage n my parents accepted without making any problem, i went into the wedlock... I didn't want to hurt them.
After wedding my in-laws created so many problems that they wud have got a better DIL with 100 soverigns of gold n other dowry like car.
Though its only 5 mins travel from their house n my house, they always insisted that i should not go to my mom's house n i should forget them all.
My husband always listened to them n danced to their tunes.
Due to work location me n my DH lived in a different city. Even before we started our family, my FIL demanded that we must give money to him every month (FIL n SIL are working). In my DH family, they had the practice of buying all property in my MIL's name. What ever my Dh earned before wedding, they bought property in my MIL's name n it will be common.
Every weekend, they will create one or other problem n will ask for all my jewels to sell to buy property in her name. So my husband will fight with me every weekend.
This continued for almost a year n out of rage i resigned my job.

Then they started with another problem that i did not have a kid. After 3 years i became pregnant but it ended up in a miscarriage. For that also they created and spread so many rumours that i wantedly aborted my baby. My husband didnt even care for me n i was so much hurt by his behaviour. He never helped me n didnt talk to me for a month after my miscarriage.It was my friends who called me, consoled me...

Later, again he went abroad n i also accompanied him. I had problems conceiving n took some treatments to conceive. Our relationship was dwindling in the meantime. Many a times, whenever we have an argument he used to thraeten me that he will divorce me for i don have kids.
Finally i got pregnant n the first sentence he told me after confirming my pregnancy was " I will divorce u if something happens to this baby". We didnt talk with each other for next 3 months. I was almost suffering a lot without proper food n care as i had severe morning sickness. I then planned to movve to India. Just 15 days before my departure, he acted normal, bought me everything i asked n took care of me...

After i came here, things started to worsen. Even i felt the love for him dwindling cos of his attitude. his parents never visited me or called me.. all problems started again. They will abuse me but in front of his son act so nicely. My husband will believe them n will tell that i only create all problems n they r always nice; because of me only he is separated from his family. They have a nice family time n avoid me

I feel so rejected. I loved him so much that i lost everything now. i lost my career. Now, my DH is telling that he will be like that only, he cant change himself or others. He has so much attitude n male chauvinistic person that he is the head of the family n he will only decide everything. He is the only person authorised to take decision reg anything n should only obey him n take care of my kid n do all house-hold work.
He never give me the respect he gives for money. He says "we cant love eachother. I can only look after money making n u have to take care of kid" i hear this constantly whenever i confront him for his attitude towards family life.
If i talk more, he will only say that if I want i can continue else get out of his life.

I am person who like to enjoy each n every second of life. I cant live a liife taking it to be just fate. I dont wanna join him n suffer again unless his attitude towards family n me changes. I want to have a career for myself as I cant trust him anymore. I am having few lakhs money n my jewels.
I have a confused career (thanks to my husband). I diid my pg pg in biotech, worked in IT for a year, doing my CA but yet to clear inter.
Which one should I take so that i don depend on anyone to bring up my kid?
i am also worried about my sis that my divorce will affect her wedding.
My parents are also aged n I need to take care of them as we don have anyone else.

Please advice what am i supposed to do.
I could not even enjoy the motherhood n im under so much trauma.....


FeelingLonely

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ishhh sadists la unaru edhakadi gola

[k2s]

[quote name='siri_vennela' timestamp='1342215192' post='1302129873']
ishhh sadists la unaru edhakadi gola
[/quote] ishhhhhhi ........ ammaikulani pattukoni sadists antara

[siri_vennela]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1342215253' post='1302129881']
ishhhhhhi ........ ammaikulani pattukoni sadists antara
[/quote]

evaru amayakulu akkada

[k2s]

[quote name='siri_vennela' timestamp='1342215338' post='1302129897']
evaru amayakulu akkada
[/quote]akkada abbai .. ikkada ammai

[psycopk]

he is under the impression that you are the root cause for the first miscarry... that's the root cause of your problems.. create trust and you will see better results

[psycopk]

[quote name='siri_vennela' timestamp='1342215192' post='1302129873']
ishhh sadists la unaru edhakadi gola
[/quote] idi lawyer la anni deni side ee chepindi... valla side kuda vinu appudu facts bayata padatai..

[k2s]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1342215627' post='1302129944']
he is under the impression that you are the root cause for the first miscarry... that's the root cause of your problems.. create trust and you will see better results
[/quote]oka kilo trust paaaaaarcel

[Spartan]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1342215627' post='1302129944']
he is under the impression that you are the root cause for the first miscarry... that's the root cause of your problems.. create trust and you will see better results
[/quote]


8yrs lo arhdam kaani relation lo iffudu brining up that spark is difficult ya..

iddaru are ina phase where they are trying to think about setteling in life..e pahse lo ilantivi vaste mind dobbestadi..emi alochinchakunda...Talaaak...ane mood lo ne untaru..

cant help..

[Spartan]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1342215687' post='1302129957']
i[size=6]di lawyer la anni deni side ee chepindi[/size]... valla side kuda vinu appudu facts bayata padatai..
[/quote]
talli Bidda Nyayam..Andam ChANDAM....ANTAVA..

[k2s]

[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1342215713' post='1302129965']


8yrs lo arhdam kaani relation lo iffudu brining up that spark is difficult ya..

iddaru are ina phase where they are trying to think about setteling in life..e pahse lo ilantivi vaste mind dobbestadi..emi alochinchakunda...Talaaak...ane mood lo ne untaru..

cant help..
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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1342215891' post='1302129994']

adi enduku esinattu ippudu..
[/quote]to remind that
ur misogynist
&
u respect girls ?

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to remind that
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