k2s Posted July 24, 2012 Report Posted July 24, 2012 My sad story..a vent..a long post.. Hi ... I am a daily visitor to this site.. Right now i am going through a rough period..infact things are pretty bad in my life...i am here to vent,cry,share..please bear with me and don't judge me on reading the post.. My ils came for a three month visit..they are leaving next month...last month I and mil had big fight.it started with small issue.but things went out of control.we shouted at each other..i was soo frustrated( it was one of my pms days along with high tyhroid n blood sugar levels..).. I would have hit her coz of sever anger had i been there..i wanted to go out of that place to prevent all that ..i just took my bag and left the home.i was scared i might do something wrong so i left..there is a religious place across the street.i directly went there..cried and cried and cried..cried the whole day..i came home the next morning..after coming..my parents called me and asked why did i do n what happened.they scolded me..they heard my version of story ..then they told mil's version which was soo wrong...i just couldn't control my anger inspite of taking so much time to cool down..they accused me of all false allegations..i din't expect that thing from dear husband also..as such he is v nice guy..we trust each other a lot..i din't know he also would speak like that..i felt so bad..i shouted on phone on my mother..i was in such rage..i din't know what i was saying..i said what i felt,what was going on in my mind..past,present issues..everything.. The fight was unnecessarily started by mother in law.she could have left it..i am a crazy girl atleast i could have left it..unnecessarily i back answered and facing the wrath now.. ( had i known IL website then i would have learnt a lot n avoided all these problems)) dear husband said something rude to me just like that without any valid reason behind it....i felt bad but din't say a word.i kept quiet n din't bother about him.i ignored and was doing my work...the day b4 i slept on floor and dear husband on bed asusual..i have severe backache and during P.M.S days i get even more pain...i was also having severe belly pain and bloating..i told dear husband that i'll sleep on floor today as i am not feeling well..he understood and we slept.don't know when mother in law noticed. Next day she asked infront of everybody why r u moody.i said nothing.still she insisted.she also started shouting why do we need two seperate bedding arrangements..i got pissed off that..how did she come to know..( we live in 1 bhk)... I told her i have back ache so i slept on floor..she din't listen.she sensed something is wrong and started shouting." what less did my son do to u.y are u torturing him like that..there is no s_ _ satisfaction only for him..this that..i got v v annoyed..already i was in bad mood coz of pms,anger on dear husband,((anger on mother in law never fades)) .. All in all i retorted..we both were shouting and dear husband was in a shock state.he was on the couch watching both of us..i pulled him to stop his mom...oh god..if i think back about that moment..i am myself shocked at why did i do like that..he tried to stop his mom and me..but both were not listening..i don't know why she neither stopped nor what was going in her head but i was like going mad... She was continuously blabbering and blaming me that i am not giving him food,i am torturing etc etc which are baseless..i do everything for him..i take care of the whole household chores..everything i do n never let him do coz i know i have to see this day..dh comes to help me sometimes but i avoid him..she accused me that i am not giving him proper food.i shud not give cereal,pancake,waffles or bread to him for bf.everyday i have to prepare roti,poori,idli,dosa or vada itseems..i told we got used it here like that..but still i'll prepare the material ready on weekend..gimme time.....she has concerns over everything.how to boil milk,eggs, everything...what if little water is more in the vessel when boiling eggs..for that she said..din't u see ur mother doing this or din't she teach you?. Who doesn't get annoyed with such statements.. I was soo enraged that i would have hit her had i been there during the fight..went into my room n tried to avoid her..i put on the headfones and started listening to songs with loud sound..she came inside and pulled them away..she started saying.." son leave her,she is devil,she will kill you.u don't have to put up with her ..this that.." i was still avoiding her..fil also joined...i was getting so irritated...just walked out of the house..to get some air..i needed some space and time ..to vent,cool,down and think.. Problem with mother in law is she is too intruding..everything shud be done her way..constantly nags nags nags and nags..her words are soo rude and harsh to provoke enough anger in anybody...she has problem with everything...i shouldnot use dishwasher,paper towel..this that..she puts forth somany restrictions that i am scared to do anything infront of her..i try to b v v v careful not to give her chance but she finds fault with everything...It's like i am walking on egg shells all the time in front of parents in law. One day i prepared rajma curry..it tasted good.mother in law & fil din't eat saying it is north indian type..we don't eat..(no offence to any rajma eating person or north indians)).. I prepared one more item after learning from internet..she said no need to learn..u do what i have taught..that's enough..one more day..i cooked something i have learnt from a friend..again same dialogue..huhhh...like this a dialogue is tagged for every work i do..imagine how to spend time with her n be with her..that's why i used to finish of all the work by 11am in the morning,put everything ready for them on the dining table and leave for library..i wanted to keep the interaction as less as possible..I used to return when dear husband returned from office in the evening..i din't know then they were not liking it..after all the fight they are saying it now... Also she has been pressuring us for kids since a long time...i was also in the process..and i was preparing for my USMLE exams...i failed in first exam..imtook the second and passed succesfully..now started preparing for the first again..so she was pressing me for both... That's it..there ends my life..it's been one month & nobody is talking to me because i shouted and humiliated them...i agree i was rude...what else to do...she was saying all nasty things..i couldn't control...i shouted what all i had in my head.i absolutely din't see it coming...oh god what have i done..for once i should have thought about the consequences.... Now their nagging increased even more because i am the accused person.." why do i need so many clothes,footwear.why do i have to decorate my home,why do i need so many soft toys etc etc....it's so humiliating that fil asked why i used ocpills for birth control.i was so shocked....i never did share that thing with my mother who is my best friend nor with my sisters..(i have pcod so i did use them for a while)) it's so embarrassing that he asked.how did he even get that thought that he shud ask a dil that question..( oh i get it..it is all revenge for the shouting i did)i din't know where to hide my face... I donno what to do know..they are pestering me for divorce....i asked them for a sincere aplogy..i fell on their feet and assured that it won't be repeated..it was first time and it would be last..still they are not listening.. Dear husband was talking ok ok for few days..he even hugged me and asked me to cry my heartful..he said" i know u..u r a nice girl..u shouldn't have done like that..i feel for u..i pity u" he was all nice..again since 10 days he stopped talking to me...now he is not sleeping with me in the same room.. I am not able to understand what they want to convey in the first place ..one day mother in law told don't ever repeat this and plan for a baby in a yr..i said ok.. one day she tells u r taking lot of time here and not able to study anyhow..come to india with us..u be at ur mom's place and finish the exams..( i wanted my mom to come b4 inlaws coz i needed help and emotional support for my exams..i was v v depressed. I conveyed this thing to dear husband & mother in law but they said we will think) . One day she says...no need to stay with my son..u are anyhow not letting him live with peace of mind..apply for divorce.. One day she says..if u find a job in a different place go and do..it's better if u people live seperately.. One day dear husband says..i need time..u go to india,finish your exams,spend some time with ur parents and then come back..(i don't trust his parents with this thing coz once i leave it becomes easier for them) One day they say if u want to stay here stay but divorce is for sure in future..and we won't let u study..if u study you will dominate my son..so no studies.. One day she says..how will u even sleep beside my son after all this...how do u even want to live here with him or for that matter even live after what all u did.. Huh..oh god..i am going crazy. i spoke to my parents..they are also quite confused about what to say..i am putting everybody under lot of agony..i feel like killing myself.. I am confused.i like dear husband and want to stay..but will our relationship be the same..already we have compatibility issues and communication gap..we are in a bit of bonding phase and realised our love for each other v recently..and all the episode happended... I put in a lot of effort to build this relationship, now everything is in drain....with all these issues can we ever be the same.will that freedom,intimacy be there between both of us...fil is threatening me that neither me nor my parents should come to their home in india anytime in future.... Are they just scaring me or do they really want us to be separated...i am not ale to understand anything..
k2s Posted July 24, 2012 Author Report Posted July 24, 2012 [quote name='chittimallu4' timestamp='1343154567' post='1302193022'] Ushhhhh [/quote]aaaappudey sadivesava ?
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chittimallu4 Posted July 24, 2012 Report Posted July 24, 2012 [quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343154638' post='1302193029'] aaaappudey sadivesava ? [/quote]antha opika ledhu pedha bhayya naku. Nenu stories sadhavanu db lo
Spartan Posted July 24, 2012 Report Posted July 24, 2012 World is too bad lady. for such a pious person like u ..
k2s Posted July 24, 2012 Author Report Posted July 24, 2012 [quote name='chittimallu4' timestamp='1343154877' post='1302193055'] antha opika ledhu pedha bhayya naku. Nenu stories sadhavanu db lo [/quote]good boy........naa lagey annamata
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Spartan Posted July 24, 2012 Report Posted July 24, 2012 story sadavani vallaki brief output.. oka roju papa ...backpain ani kinda padukundi...valalyian bed meeda padukunnadu... MIL susindi...next day..ma vadiki nuvvu enduku tortur fedtunnav..enduku moody ga unanv...ani istart sesindi.. papa koncham crazy type...iscool ki potundi kada...so archesindi...nenu emi chesa ani....almost kotta boyindi..kaani illu vadilesi baita edchesi intiki vachindi.. inka routine...malli meriddaru divorce teskondi..or live seperately for few days..ani oka roju.. leda pillal kosam plan chyeandi ani oka roju MIL adigedi..papa ki mind diobbedi... Dear husband emo emi analkea..papani odarchevadu appudappudu..becoz always he is nice person andar papalaki.. LMAO.. so vadi behaviour to confused..ame behaviour to no controll..MIL confusion lo titting.. adi istory..
k2s Posted July 24, 2012 Author Report Posted July 24, 2012 [quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1343155219' post='1302193093'] story sadavani vallaki brief output.. oka roju papa ...backpain ani kinda padukundi...valalyian bed meeda padukunnadu... MIL susindi...next day..ma vadiki nuvvu enduku tortur fedtunnav..enduku moody ga unanv...ani istart sesindi.. papa koncham crazy type...iscool ki potundi kada...so archesindi...nenu emi chesa ani....almost kotta boyindi..kaani illu vadilesi baita edchesi intiki vachindi.. inka routine...malli meriddaru divorce teskondi..or live seperately for few days..ani oka roju.. leda pillal kosam plan chyeandi ani oka roju MIL adigedi..papa ki mind diobbedi... Dear husband emo emi analkea..papani odarchevadu appudappudu..becoz always he is nice person andar papalaki.. LMAO.. so vadi behaviour to confused..ame behaviour to no controll..MIL confusion lo titting.. adi istory.. [/quote]MIL is villian annamta
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