Estory - 1 : Fafa Ki Helf Seyyandi Vay

[Desamudhuru]

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chaduvu.,..... anthey
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sadavatam epudo iyipoyindi[img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated3/jp.alage.gif[/img]

[k2s]

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sadavatam epudo iyipoyindi[img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated3/jp.alage.gif[/img]
[/quote]good nee views cheffu iffudu

[Desamudhuru]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343759531' post='1302231947']
good nee views cheffu iffudu
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Nenu eco story chavukoni velipodam anukunte views chepamantunara [img]http://lh3.ggpht.com/-hWGSASGA2qc/TrIKlqm-A2I/AAAAAAAAFHI/LemXbCxuooE/s150/Mahi-16.gif[/img]

[Guest]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343758803' post='1302231833']
i.e, k2s

cinemalu soodakunda ne......reviews rayatlaaa ?
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cinema lu chudakunda reviews aa...anni cinemaalu balayya cinemalu kaavu chudakunda raayaniki..

[ChampakDas]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343758499' post='1302231794']
Hello Everybody,
I have been visiting this forum since few days and going through the posts here. It’s amazing to see people sharing their thoughts, problems and have support and solutions.
I need such advice and help too. I will try to keep my story as short as possible.
Firstly, thank you all for your time to read my story!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This post How Men & Women Explain about their Decision of Divorce!! is making me write this, just to make sure on my decision. I was once completely against divorce. My argument was that the bad spouse would definitely realize one day and there is no need for divorce. But I am going through a similar phase in my life now and I need your valuable advice.

I have been married for 8 years. When my Dad was looking for an alliance for me, I made it a point to him that I will not marry incase dowry was demanded. I live here [b]and [/b]US and my husband was in India. At the time of marriage my ILs and spouse did not demand any dowry, but was told that they have some debts. They said if my father could give them 6 lakhs and they have a land that they would sell and that would clear everything. My husband is highly educated and we were told that he does not have any regular bad habits (like alcoholic, smoking or womanizer). So taking these things into consideration, my Dad thought if the guy was good enough to take care of me and capable enough to make a living he should go ahead with the alliance. He gave them 6 lakhs at the time of marriage and checked with my father-in-law that the debts were cleared. After my marriage I stayed there for a while and came back to US. My husband was very good to [b](me missing)[/b] during my stay. After I came here, I received an email from him that one of my near and dear relatives hurt his mom and his mom is very upset. I told him if his mom doesn’t like them she can stay away from them and asked him to concentrate on his career. Then started all the trouble. He complains that I do not trust him and his mom……… and the regular saga……… I was told by my family that things will be alright when he comes to US to stay with me. Then he broke another news that his dad has about 40 lakhs of debts. My parents advised him to repay it when he starts earning. But I so blindly trusted him and as stupid as I am, he somehow got me convinced that he needs money ‘RIGHT NOW’. I convinced my parents to send them the money. They said everything was cleared. And meanwhile everyday there was [b]('a' missing)[/b] lot of emotional abuse. Then he came here and then started the physical abuse and controlling too………the same old saga that “My mom said you are like this………you are like that…….. You said this and [b]done(did) [/b]this ……………” Tried to have a conversation with him lot many times but all in vain. God knows how much I thrived for his love and attention. Then again he broke the news that his dad has few more debts. I took some training and then took up job. But again he wants money “RIGHT NOW”. So he wanted me to ask my dad for his property. Well, this I was not so stupid, so I said I will not do it but advised him that we can save money and clear the debts every month slowly. But it has to be “RIGHT NOW”. He approached my dad for the properties and my dad gave a firm no. Until them my parents were ‘THE GODS’ to him and they suddenly turned to “THE DEVILS”.

He was not ready to complete his licensing exams to take up a job. When I ask him the reason, he says, he hit his principal in his college and his principal is not ready to sign on the required documents. With this reason he spent 2 years. After that there was a new principal for his college and this time the reason he gave not to write exams were that his parents have to come here. With this reason he spent another 3 years. Meanwhile there was lot of emotional and physical abuse. Never behaved responsibly. I was so confused and frustrated. There was no one to talk to. I opted not to reveal this to my parents with the fear of their health. I just waited patiently that he will realize one day. I HAVE TO DO HIS WAY. If no he used to threaten me that there is a second marriage written in his horoscope and that he will divorce me.
I was in fear, confusion, frustrated and above all tired. I slowly started sensing the betrayal. It was the money he needed from me always. And his parents are here. As everybody’s life, my life has the same saga……………. Every morning I hear his mom’s complain, trying to control me. She re-arranged my kitchen according to her. But it did not bother me. Slowly she started emotionally abusing me targeting my parents. I took this to my husband’s notice but like always he supported his mom. And on the top of it now he reveals that his dad has about 1 crore debts and they have no [b]intension(intention)[/b] of paying back. The reason he gives is that his dad was cheated by everybody. Well, this time I was not so stupid, I did not believe him. One day my mom called me and was crying on phone and that’s when she revealed how my husband would use them to buy things for him, hang-up on their face, scream at them. They did not reveal this to me before because they thought it would hurt me. Surely, I had lot of communication gap with my parents and he succeeded in everything. Finally I thought enough is enough and walked out of my house owing I will return back only after his realization. I revealed everything to my parents about the physical abuse and financial abuse. That’s when the battle started (relatives pitched in and all the meetings were held……….).

He promised he would mend his ways and I was sent back to my home. There was new way of abuse……… with silence. They would eat, cook, talk, watch tv and go out together. I was completely left out. Being rejected and the feeling of betrayal was more painful than the physical abuse. And one fine day his parents left to a friend’s home and then after few days he left too blaming I kicked them out. Every time he abused me I used to go back to him because I never had the [b]intension(intention)[/b]of breaking the relationship. Maybe he left that would happen and with his male egos as is, I did not go back to him. I came to know through his relatives that he is planning[b] to(for a) [/b]divorce [b]me(chal)[/b] and going for second marriage. I then approached [b]law(brahmi gif) [/b]and got a restraining order against him. Here somewhere in my heart I was still hoping that he will realize and reconcile with me.


His typical Indian thinking that “my wife is now 30 year old and it will be difficult for her to get married again, so she will come back to me” did not work. And I took some time to go back to memories and think clearly that happened to me and came to a decision that I am no longer going to continue my relationship with this man. So my parents tried to settle this amicably to save me the pain of court process. He demands $40,000.00. That broke the last trust and respect for this man that I might have in some corner of my heart. I gave him home, stood by him through his lows of life and this is what I get in return. I do not blame him. It’s me who trusted him completely and blindly. It’s me who did not act wisely rather than acting emotionally. [b]It(I)[/b] learnt my very expensive lesson. I decided for sure now that I am going for divorce. [b]It’s feel(It feels)[/b] like a widow than a person getting divorced.
When he verbally abused me, I also screamed and yelled at him, not to hurt him but to make my point and to defend myself. Then with the advice from my dad I tried staying silent when he was very angry. But it did not help. Then I tried talking to him and tried to explain how it hurts me. I would apologize when he points out my mistakes. I did not expect apology from him but at least I thought he would realize. Forget about realizing, it has become severe. It’s like I never experienced husband’s love.
Now that you know my story, can you give me your advice? Is my decision wrong? Is it ok to live with your spouse when you lost complete trust and respect, forget about love…………………
Thank You once again for your time and for not making it a short story (I tried believe me)……….
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[k2s]

[quote name='Desamudhuru' timestamp='1343759678' post='1302231970']
Nenu eco story chavukoni velipodam anukunte views chepamantunara [img]http://lh3.ggpht.com/-hWGSASGA2qc/TrIKlqm-A2I/AAAAAAAAFHI/LemXbCxuooE/s150/Mahi-16.gif[/img]
[/quote]saduvuthuntey emi anipiyaleda neeku ? ayyoo, papam , chi, yak, ila kuda untara janalu, entha mosam, baga ayindi etc ani ?

[k2s]

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cinema lu chudakunda reviews aa...anni cinemaalu balayya cinemalu kaavu chudakunda raayaniki..
[/quote]balayya ni emanna antey orukoru ikkada....

[Desamudhuru]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343759773' post='1302231990']
saduvuthuntey emi anipiyaleda neeku ? ayyoo, papam , chi, yak, ila kuda untara janalu, entha mosam, baga ayindi etc ani ?
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Clarity ledu bhayya story lo. "Money Money Money" akadakada "feelings" so fake ani ardham iyipoyindi.
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[k2s]

[quote name='Desamudhuru' timestamp='1343759931' post='1302232017']
Clarity ledu bhayya story lo. "Money Money Money" akadakada "feelings" so fake ani ardham iyipoyindi.
N most important money ki naku chala durum $1 evanu $1 evarini adaganu. Money matter voste nenu [img]http://lh6.ggpht.com/_KVkPY2XIbRQ/Taogp3vQf7I/AAAAAAAACGM/H8zlPC1ONdg/Bemmi-3.gif[/img]
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estory fake kadu....real estory......

[Desamudhuru]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343760007' post='1302232032']
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estory fake kadu....real estory......
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[Guest]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1343759822' post='1302232001']
balayya ni emanna antey orukoru ikkada....
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you balaya pan..

[madathakaaja]

papam

[Desamudhuru]

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you balaya pan..
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Guest vi guest laga vundu balayya fans tho petukunavu anuko...[img]http://lh4.ggpht.com/_9JDo24Z5ZMw/TVPyOwf1nHI/AAAAAAAAA6A/SxSBJNWJ3aQ/s400/keka%20puttinchav%20ga.png[/img]

[ChampakDas]

motham clear undhi kada...correct decision..
[i]Is it ok to live with your spouse when you lost complete trust and respect,?[/i] picha lyt chal phut next item...

[psycopk]

sariga enquiry cheyakunda ada pilla pelli cheste ilanti problems ee vastai..