Can't Get Over Over My Wife's Physical Affair With Somebody Else In Th

[NaaRaja]

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[indent]I come form a highly conservative family. I never knew a girl before. Never had any kind of affairs, no [color=#009900 !important][u][background=transparent !important]girlfriend[/background][/u][/color]either and never dated any woman all through my life. Ours is an arranged marriage, now into two years.
But very recently I came to know about my wife's past affair with her classmate during her engineering days. She was involved with him and had an affair for nearly seven years. After questioning repeatedly, she finally agreed and says their affair was limited to kisses and hugs only most of the time and had sex very few times. Saying this, she cried.

It's nearly two weeks now and my wife talks and behaves normally. I think I am slowly feeling the punch and this is beginning to hurt a lot. Feeling very sad depressed and even at time SCARED .
Yes, feeling SCARED (about what - I don't know). Scared of everything.. scared of heights, scared of water, scared of traffic... scared of every thing.
Unable to concentrate on work.

When ever I look at her, I am over whelmed by the feeling of "Everything I did to her, is already done by somebody else in the past" and this is now frequently causing so much [color=#009900 !important][u][background=transparent !important]pain[/background][/u][/color] in the chest....can [color=#009900 !important][u][background=transparent !important]hear[/background][/u][/color] my own [color=#009900 !important][u][background=transparent !important]heart[/background][/u][/color] beating.
I don't know what's happening to me. I feel completely lost.....Losing interest on everything... hating myself.

Want to hurt myself badly...

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[dotnetrockz]

When ever I look at her, I am over whelmed by the feeling of "Everything I did to her, is already done by somebody else in the past"

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[psycopk]

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[Spartan]

repost apicer...

[Spartan]

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When ever I look at her, I am over whelmed by the feeling of "Everything I did to her, is already done by somebody else in the past"

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[kakatiya]

Second hand car vadtuntene chala feel avutam .. Kotta car ayite bagundu ani...

I am for him... Just divorce her and forget her... She did everything with consious mind..... I dont see anykind of seek for forgiveness ...

[badboy7]

hamaya mali repost kota....satisfied

[lolliilollii2012]

dont worry man..you also just book a girl and fcuk..thats it...

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dont worry man..you also just book a girl and fcuk..thats it...
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[Nellore Pedda reddy]

Repost

[chakerakeli]

Enko kompaa koleru anthe... yemi cheyalemu edhi tappa

[narcotic]

stay with her and have a second family

[bio]

hey bro,

Im so for you, If I were you I would think this way, I would go and ask her, if she is happy with me and if she is gonna mess up with the previous guy at all in the future, and will also ask her to answer me honestly. If she says yes from the bottom of her heart (you can feel it), then there are no issues I would forgive her for what she did in her past, forgiving her would definitely have her a great respect towards you which at all times in the future is very important for a wife and husband relationship.. If you think crazy and go mad about her, there is nothing you can achieve in your life, your life is screwed.. Divorce...forget it, there is no way that you will know whether the future partner is 100% genuine or not...believe me or not if you let this into the public(your parents or her parents or your friends) the girls life is a disaster and your life is also a disaster which you dont want, and am pretty sure you cant b happy even if you get married to the other girl, even though she is 100% genuine...Its pretty hard for you as of now and nobody can understand it better than me (went through similar situtation) but now am a happy person..and so will be you... try to digest and forget the fact, u will soon b a happy person, gud luk bro..