Long Distance Between Husband And Wife Kill Marriage?

[NaaRaja]

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I have been following this forum for some time and really like this. Im a working girl in mid-twenties and would like to bring to your notice an incident which has happened in Hyderabad and which has also created lot of sensation in Andhra Pradesh. Perhaps this could be an eye opener to somebody who are confused between real love, infatuation and value of the marriage.
Last week a girl has committed suicide in Infosys campus in Hyderabad. Lot of things are discussed and as usual, media has hyped it like anything. Since the lady is no more, I would not be using any names but alphabets
X, the lady working in Infosys was found dead on 31 july under suspicious circumstances. Initially it was thought to be suicide, but the family has declared that their daughter is very brave and no reason to commit suicide. Instantly it was hyped and all over the news channels. She is an S/W engineer and has been married to Y for last three years. However, since last one and half years, she was not leaving with her husband as she was onsite in USA and only returned in third week of july this after long gap. In between, after she joined company and before marriage, there was a guy Z in infy who later moved to CTS. Some people say that X and Z are known to each other long time and some say they only met each other after she joined infy. Needless to say the fate turned so bad for her.
In July 2011, she had been to US onsite from Infy and, Z already there in the same city working for other company CTS. Somehow it is believed that they got together again. However, Z is also in India (police found that they both landed in India same day) only but to get engaged to other girl. In fact, police investigation revealed that X was talking to Z and even mailed him till some minutes before her death. Today morning news channel showed her last mail to Z in which she said, she missed him and want to be with him at least in next life. She also mailed to her husband Y that their paths are different and can’t be happy with him. Such a thoughtful girl X is, that in her last email to husband Y, she even advised him to marry other girl and move on in life. Not just that, X has even indicated how her property like gold, insurance and other things be distributed among Y and X family members.
I just want to share with everyone how attraction outside can be so lethal not to just one person, but to everyone involved.
For X, what to say, people are commenting for newspaper articles that she cheated her husband etc…poor soul not even in rest after her death
For Y, the husband could be a shattered man. Obviously, in the first day media has started targeting that guy that there was some marital discord and that could be the reason for her suicide. It eventually reduced once it came to light that X and Y together were planning move to USA later this month and even booked the tickets
For Z, obviously the third person, was traced to be in coastal city in AP for his engagement, but im sure with all this, I doubt if his future to be wife will still be ready to marry him
For parents of X, obviously they lost their child, but it is also believed that the decision to make the patch between X and Y and their travel to US together was planned, indeed forced by them. The funny part is, once the emails of X to Z were out, the family members of X who initially criticized police for their inaction, has requested police to stop further investigation and agreed for the case to be closed as suicide only.

for the long post but I did this so that this could be an eye opener for those who take marriage relationship as granted and once they realize that they are deep up to their neck emotionally, how bad things could turn out. Really feeling sad for the incident and may her soul rest in peace. I would be grateful if you can also share your views on this...[/indent][/size][/font][/color]

[abhilash4u]

X Y Z tho confuse chesina matter matram clear ga chepav bhaii...Evarina nammalo kuda telvani sitation mainly girls..Hope in our generation people must be brave enogh to say wat happnd in the past.Na suggestion entante..If u start new life again with Boy/girl ,tell evrthg to the new partner and never ever think of Old..This is the only way we can avoid such Worst things !!!

[gundugadu]

sry maku enka pelli kalaaa appudu vachi cheptha opnion

[manavade1]

The change in society...westernization....women empowerment...no respect to human values...careless upbrining...everything is comeing together to spoil the youth..

Brahma garu chepparanta.. history repeats ani..... we will incline western life style/cycle across globe chnges from time to time..... One of my aunt who is 60 yrs old advised me to watch NTR's Sri madvirat veera brahmaendra swari movie if get a chance..

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The change in society...westernization....women empowerment...no respect to human values...careless upbrining...everything is comeing together to spoil the youth..

Brahma garu chepparanta.. history repeats ani..... we will incline western life style/cycle across globe chnges from time to time..... One of my aunt who is 60 yrs old advised me to watch NTR's Sri madvirat veera brahmaendra swari movie if get a chance..
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r u gal ?

[kakka mukka]

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[maverickpuli]

lolli lolli whr is u re?

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hi,

gud to know that there are atleast some sensible girls like you in india. x gets married to y, leaves to US and then gets attached to z, is an extra marital relationship, which no body are going to encourage, at least in the society... x is doing a s/w job (means financial freedom) x leaves to US (financial+personnel freedom), no body will ever know what people do after they show up to the US, believe me or not 100% of the boys and girls misuse their freedom they will get in the US for sure... If she is so sensitive to give up her life, she should not have committed such a simple mistake...on the whole commit mistakes only if you can live with that...there is no other way around as per my experience tells me...its so nice of you to take such an initiative to post it here, I signed up for the forum just to give a repl,y coz i was so moved with ur concern..

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[indent=1]Dear Friends
I have been following this forum for some time and really like this. Im a working girl in mid-twenties and would like to bring to your notice an incident which has happened in Hyderabad and which has also created lot of sensation in Andhra Pradesh. Perhaps this could be an eye opener to somebody who are confused between real love, infatuation and value of the marriage.
Last week a girl has committed suicide in Infosys campus in Hyderabad. Lot of things are discussed and as usual, media has hyped it like anything. Since the lady is no more, I would not be using any names but alphabets
X, the lady working in Infosys was found dead on 31 july under suspicious circumstances. Initially it was thought to be suicide, but the family has declared that their daughter is very brave and no reason to commit suicide. Instantly it was hyped and all over the news channels. She is an S/W engineer and has been married to Y for last three years. However, since last one and half years, she was not leaving with her husband as she was onsite in USA and only returned in third week of july this after long gap. In between, after she joined company and before marriage, there was a guy Z in infy who later moved to CTS. Some people say that X and Z are known to each other long time and some say they only met each other after she joined infy. Needless to say the fate turned so bad for her.
In July 2011, she had been to US onsite from Infy and, Z already there in the same city working for other company CTS. Somehow it is believed that they got together again. However, Z is also in India (police found that they both landed in India same day) only but to get engaged to other girl. In fact, police investigation revealed that X was talking to Z and even mailed him till some minutes before her death. Today morning news channel showed her last mail to Z in which she said, she missed him and want to be with him at least in next life. She also mailed to her husband Y that their paths are different and can’t be happy with him. Such a thoughtful girl X is, that in her last email to husband Y, she even advised him to marry other girl and move on in life. Not just that, X has even indicated how her property like gold, insurance and other things be distributed among Y and X family members.
I just want to share with everyone how attraction outside can be so lethal not to just one person, but to everyone involved.
For X, what to say, people are commenting for newspaper articles that she cheated her husband etc…poor soul not even in rest after her death
For Y, the husband could be a shattered man. Obviously, in the first day media has started targeting that guy that there was some marital discord and that could be the reason for her suicide. It eventually reduced once it came to light that X and Y together were planning move to USA later this month and even booked the tickets
For Z, obviously the third person, was traced to be in coastal city in AP for his engagement, but im sure with all this, I doubt if his future to be wife will still be ready to marry him
For parents of X, obviously they lost their child, but it is also believed that the decision to make the patch between X and Y and their travel to US together was planned, indeed forced by them. The funny part is, once the emails of X to Z were out, the family members of X who initially criticized police for their inaction, has requested police to stop further investigation and agreed for the case to be closed as suicide only.

for the long post but I did this so that this could be an eye opener for those who take marriage relationship as granted and once they realize that they are deep up to their neck emotionally, how bad things could turn out. Really feeling sad for the incident and may her soul rest in peace. I would be grateful if you can also share your views on this...[/indent]
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I appreciate your post. Not all people are strong thinking about ethical values to live in relationships where there is no love and understanding. Any relationship before or after marriage cannot be taken for granted. Loving a person is an on going process and you cannot just not respect, love and share emotions only for a certain period of time. When one among the two stops putting those efforts and take the other person for granted and doesn't change inspite of their efforts to change the situation it's human tendency to expect or search for that kind of relationship out side in both married and love relationship which leads to extra marital affairs..If both understands that it is a on-going process to put efforts to understand each other and share emotions these kind of situations doesn't arise. i personally feel our parents generation are very good at this and they turned their lifes from wrong direction to the right just with more love and more patience than thinking about going to the next and searching for love outside relationship. Our generation has less moral values, ethics and patience which is a fact and that's the reason why we are seeing these kinds of news very often.