Estory - 1 : Dilema

[k2s]

Hi Dearies,

A few hours back I posted about my past in the thread [url="http://www.indusladies.com/forums/life-without-spouse/103575-sharing-those-who-same-boat.html"]Sharing with those who are in the same boat - Not a Sob Story[/url]

I am overwhelmed by your supported responses there.

But the thing is, though I want to push the past to the past, it keeps on coming in the front
Today I got a call when at Office. It was from a girl, a doctor she said herself, who claimed to be in negotiation for marriage with the guy you know well by now. She says, she knows that he is divorced and knows the reasons for his divorce from him. However, for deciding for her life, she wants to hear the facts from me (and the phone number was given to her by that guy only !!!). She says, though she met him, he doesnot know much about him and wants to know about his character and nature from me!!

What a real heck!!!

Now I am in a great dilemma. These are the things running in my mind.

1. Whether she is a real person who is thinking of getting married to him, or another way of that guy to trouble me (I can not rule this out, as after separation and divorce also he continued msging and harassing me)

2. From a purely selfish point of view, I think I had enough and do not really want to discuss over these matters to someone - for my own sake, as it is tiring. I just want to shut my past behind...

3. The other side of me says, it is another woman's life, and that too she is a doc. If she knows the facts, may be she'll take a wise decision and that way I might be helping someone. But also, I fear that I would spoil [i]yet another budding relationship!![/i]

4. The last thought, which did not come to me, but was brought to me by someone else. If this girl decided to reject him, and he comes to know (for sure he will, as he only [i]generously [/i]has given my number), whether he will be vindictive towards me!!

He God, what a situation!!! What are your suggestions, Dear Friends?

Regards to you all

[Spartan]

apt title..

[psycopk]

you and doc stay together... in that way you both teach him a lesson... uncle baga chepana

[k2s]

fafa 1 reply:

HI,

Your doubts are all really valid...hatsoff to you for analyzing the issue from all angles..However just give benefit of doubt to this lady who may endup being married to this guy if you dont let her know your opinion about him.

Also if she happens to reject him, and if youthink he gets vindictive, remember that he is just a stranger now, report to the police stating he is harrassing you incase if he troubles you. Now is the time you have to be strong and face him as there is no emotional or mental bonding with him (even if you feel somethingfor him inside, keep it to yourself and show him that enough is enough...and let him also see the other side of you)

Yes tell that lady that you can refer her to the counsellor to whom you went and she can take opinion of that counsellor/therapist also . Do not explain in detail about everything but just say couple of things about how he calculates money for all the mistakes or your shortcomings, and how he is physically and verbally abusive. That should be enough.

First thing is its just fresh in your mind, and if someone asks you, you may end up pouring in all the details, and it might look to the other girl as if you are trying to damage his image..so do not give in too many details except for the highlights..and leave it to her and wish her good luck..now you cant control her destiny right?

Having known your husbands behaviour, who knows if he might give some cock n bull stories to that doctor and say , you are theculprit and see how even after divorce you bad mouth him so much so dont trust my EX etc..etc..as such he is very good at drama in public. So this doctor might end up beleiving your husband also. So you cant change her destiny. All you can do is warn her and let her decide.

Some how another bad thing here is ...if he keeps referring all his future prospective brides to you..its nasty...because its like he showing off to you that how he is still a MOST WANTED Batchelor. I know its kind of cheesy. But might be temporarily change your contact#s and address etc until you can handle such things more comfortably without being emotional wreck. You need sometime to recoup from all the bad past so that anyone who stands infront of you and talks about him..shouldnt hurt you or shouldnt makeyou feel upset or shouldnt remind you of your past. Past shouldnt matter to you anymore..until that time be far far away from him and be unreachable to him or to his future brides.

[Sastrygaru]

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[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1345138211' post='1302319918']
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[k2s]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345138284' post='1302319931']
ikkada okkati maatram jaruguddhi.. aa ammai matter cheppindante.. aa Doctor ki doubt aachi inko post paduddhi.. IL lo.. cheppakapooyina.. endhuku cheppaleedhu.. anna anummanam tho inko thread padidddhi Indus lo.. [url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated3#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated3/bemmi.plz.gif[/img][/url]
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[Sastrygaru]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1345138388' post='1302319947']
[img]http://i1249.photobucket.com/albums/hh517/twinklebt/Brahmis/33.gif[/img] vallaki leni poni ideas isthunnav kada sastry
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[k2s]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345138604' post='1302319975']
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