Estory - 2 : Over-Analysis

[k2s]

endi vay sastry......masthu emotional ayinav ? kool kool

[Sastrygaru]

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endi vay sastry......masthu emotional ayinav ? kool kool
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neenu emotional enti baa.. naa bondha.. [url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated6#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated6/bemmi1.gif[/img][/url].. naak ammailante ittam leedhu.. kaani ee case leechipooyee rakam kaadhemoo ani thinking.. anthe.. [url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated6#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated6/bemmi1.gif[/img][/url]

[Spartan]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345139714' post='1302320116']
same quote neeku bhi.. lonely ga feel ayyinanatra maatrana.. inkokadani suuskovadame naa.. tell me one line in that whole matter where she Might be looking for another guy.. direct gaa cheppakapooyina.. etta forecast chestaru.. she is trying to change things..

her main frablem is her MIL..


I have tried my best to adjust , but i can NEVER expect him to break off ties with his mother and when she is old he needs to take care of her. I cannot imagine myslef living under the same roof with her.
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y firing re....

[Spartan]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1345140278' post='1302320202']
endi vay sastry......masthu emotional ayinav ? kool kool
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agreed....Shastry rudravataram ettinatunndau ivala...

[k2s]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345140358' post='1302320216']

neenu emotional enti baa.. naa bondha.. [url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated6#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated6/bemmi1.gif[/img][/url].. naak ammailante ittam leedhu.. kaani ee case leechipooyee rakam kaadhemoo ani thinking.. anthe.. [url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated6#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated6/bemmi1.gif[/img][/url]
[/quote]emotional avvaledu ani.......seppanikey emotional ayithunav sastry.,

[Sastrygaru]

[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1345140394' post='1302320219']
y firing re....
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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1345140424' post='1302320224']


agreed....Shastry rudravataram ettinatunndau ivala...
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[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1345140514' post='1302320246']
emotional avvaledu ani.......seppanikey emotional ayithunav sastry.,
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. [img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated6/bemmi1.gif[/img]... i was over excited to prove mayya and chitti worng.. [img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated6/bemmi1.gif[/img]

thats not firing reyy..

[psycopk]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345139714' post='1302320116']

same quote neeku bhi.. lonely ga feel ayyinanatra maatrana.. inkokadani suuskovadame naa.. tell me one line in that whole matter where she Might be looking for another guy.. direct gaa cheppakapooyina.. etta forecast chestaru.. she is trying to change things..
[/quote] dani pattern chudu 1) socialize avadu naa mogudu antundi... 2)MIL meda tappulu chupistundi.. 3)vadu manchode kani antundi.. 4)break teeskoni em peekudi idi... dani mogudu elagu silent ga untadu tv chusukuntu.. deniki enti noppi... break tesskoni break dance vestunda.. she is sure looking forward for an affair..

[psycopk]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345139856' post='1302320140']
Last but not the least if you meet my husband you will find him to be an extremely polite, helpful, nice guy, and he IS one. He is highly qualified, was doing pretty well professionally (until recently when marital problems starting taking a toll ), and by nature is very unselfish and understanding.


antha maatrana.. temporary seperation ante emanna realize ayyitad anna feeling.. inkodini line lo pedthadi ani kaakapoovachu..

mee lateral thinking ki nippetta..
[/quote] maku telisinata varaki she is not happy with her sex life... anduke problems vetiki chupistundi china vishyalu kuda... she is looking for an affair.. kavali ante try chesi chudu...

[Sastrygaru]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1345141443' post='1302320417']
maku telisinata varaki she is not happy with her sex life... anduke problems vetiki chupistundi china vishyalu kuda... she is looking for an affair.. kavali ante try chesi chudu...
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i dont want second hand reyy..

[Sastrygaru]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1345141274' post='1302320388']
dani pattern chudu 1) socialize avadu naa mogudu antundi... 2)MIL meda tappulu chupistundi.. 3)vadu manchode kani antundi.. 4)break teeskoni em peekudi idi... dani mogudu elagu silent ga untadu tv chusukuntu.. deniki enti noppi... break tesskoni break dance vestunda.. she is sure looking forward for an affair..
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uhmmm.. kontha varakuu agree kaani. US lo anthaku minchi inka emuntundhi.. naaku telisi.. pelli ayyaka chala mandhi abbaila social life taggachu.. they will be confined.. faafa aa vishyama artham seskoovali..

[psycopk]

[quote name='Sastrygaru' timestamp='1345141724' post='1302320467']

uhmmm.. kontha varakuu agree kaani. US lo anthaku minchi inka emuntundhi.. naaku telisi.. pelli ayyaka chala mandhi abbaila social life taggachu.. they will be confined.. faafa aa vishyama artham seskoovali..
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nuvvu kontha varaku opukunte ade chalu... daniki telusu.. intaku mundu kuda edo job edchanu antundi kada... ikkada main matter adi kadu le these are all dummy reasons

[Terminator II]

reply is good

[Sastrygaru]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1345141858' post='1302320487']
nuvvu kontha varaku opukunte ade chalu... daniki telusu.. intaku mundu kuda edo job edchanu antundi kada... ikkada main matter adi kadu le these are all dummy reasons
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trying to cinvince yaaa.. suuudaam.. uncle inko post estaad emo same faafa dhi..

[k2s]

aa fafa reply to fafa 1:

I sincerely thank you for your response and your valuable insights. You are SO right, I am a bit self centered...other ppl have also said so. Posting to this forum been quite an eye opener for me since I have got so many different perspectives from so many members.

I just want to know one thing...is there nothing called 'chemistry' between husband and wife...??? Is having a caring husband enough?? If it is then I should shut up and not complain. I have been in a relationship before and I do know what 'chemistry' is.
'Canwait'....most nights I am lying in bed longing for a touch and my husband is fast asleep. I was tremendously frustrated for the 1st 1 yr, kept on nagging my husband to visit a therapist for both of us, but now I have given up. I feel I am more lonely in this relationship than I was before marriage. Is it totally my fault??

Yes I probably need to take initiative in planning get togethers and all...and the initiative 100% has to come from me... should probably not expect even 1% inputs/help from my husband.

Everyone on this planet is not so big hearted as you Srividya, that you commend those DILs who have put bedpans for their MILs. Most people would feel pity for the DIL and wish they were never in her place. And if there is one thing i cannot bear ..that is PITY. Sumtimes I feel like a stranger in my own house (if I can call it my own) when my MIL is visiting, she doesnt even like my touching the food she has prepared for her son. She is not very hygeinic herself yet she keeps on nagging and critisizing me thinking I will 'contaminate' stuff. Another reason is she keeps comparing me to her daughter (SIL) , since she is has a very successful, social and happening life. SHe might be visiting us for few months every yr, but she has to know every single detail of her son's life on phone and she gives the impression she is controlling everything in her son's life including 'wanting to buy a house for him in the US'...( and she is totally financially dependent on her son!! ) as if I am not part of his life at all and I will not be living in the house. Dont you think a husband and wife mutually take the decisions regarding buying a house?? If I do not have even that much right , then why am I clinging on to this marriage? To be a cook cum dishwasher??? As a well educated and completely financially independent woman in India before marriage, I feel I got a very raw deal in this marriage.

I am probably not able to find a job because the market is down. But as I said ALL of my friends from my field who have quit their jobs in India and moved to the US after marriage are employed by now. I am the only one left and sumtimes I feel that moving to the US was the biggest mistake I ahve made.

[k2s]

fafa 1 reply to this fafa :

Girl

How long was your courtship before marriage? I guess you both have to go to a counsellor or therapist to figure out those issues...of chemistry and what you want/expect in marriage.

Understood...you expect your husband to take initiative, and he is not doing that..so tell me, can we give that as a reason for wanting to separate??? these are things we have to find out ways to work on to fix...might be ask him what are his interests and come up with some chores like he has to invite your neighbours and you would make arrangements etc ...if your husband had been spoon fed on what to buy, how to eat all this while, might be he would need more time to get into that LEAD role...might be you can pick it up from there and start giving him hints on what needs to be done and slowly he would take initiative? (or did you already try this and it didnt work out???)

Expecting a person to change in couple of yrs is too much to expect ..we cant change a persons nature and mentality over night...things happen slowly....(JMO)

I would say the same thing about JOB....you are not getting a job...you cannot blame it on marriage/coming to US . As you said..if all your friends were able to get jobs , and not you...then might be you have to work on your resume and your own skill set to be able to get ajob..(cant blame husband/marriage/you coming to US isnt it??? so lets keep that point aside for a while)


Over all I see only one major issue i.e the chemistry / intimacy party..yes its the biggest one...so would you like to let us know whether you took any initiative to talk to him about this? what was his response??