Estory : A Newly Wed's Sorrow...please Help Me

[ManaBadi]

[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Dear All,[/size][/font][/color]

[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I am a 29yr old newly wed brahmin lady(MBBS) married to a 32yr old brahmin engineer(BE) [/size][/font][/color] [font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][u]working[/u][/size][/font][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] in infy on feb 10th 2012.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I had dreamt of my marriage for years but it all is in such mess n am shattered.Putting out my bedroom details too so i get sincere suggestions n warmth.I have been brought up in a very conservative atmosphere n si i grew up to be very soft,obedient,truthful n god fearing girl.Friends it has been worst phase in my life,[/size][/font][u][font="Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif"][size=3]hell[/size][/font] [/u][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]i can say so far n for my parents too.Kindly do not consider anything offensive n guide me through..I am confused n going insane so much that i have doubt if my feelings were normal..They are a family of 3.Lost father when he was 9 yrs n has his mom n younger bro who is 8 yrs younger to him.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]MY STORY :[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]1.Before commiting i had clearly asked if he has any expectations,habits,whether he wants to settle in in US that i never wanted-he said no.I told him that i need a decent living n a loving n understanding husband.But after marriage he said he wants to setttle in US,i caught him smoking,drinking,[/size][/font][u][font="Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif"][size=3]watching[/size][/font] [/u][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] porn n masturbating[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]2.His mother was extremely possesssive of only elder son,eccentric in nature since start ,hated me n my family to the core,has insulted n snubbed us badly,looked upon me as a slave only to satiate their needs,would never tolerate me being with him.Just 2 days after i went to their house after marriage i was sent back to my mom 's [/size][/font]important][u][font="Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif"][size=3]home[/size][/font] [/u][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]n she said she would send a legal notice.He never bothered to call/apologise.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]3.He is supportive of his mom n they all suspect me to core,never discuss anything in front of me.My wishes n feelings were never respected,no concern/care.He blames me for separating him from his mom that i have never done.HIs mom also blames me for the same.I tried telling him before marriage to have talk with his mom as things will change after marriage .He promised he would but he never did.He even went ti hair cut with his mom before wedding.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]4.They want me to stay without talking to my mom,friends,neighbours about the pain they give.I have cried,cried n cried every single day n shed blood when my parents were insulted as the marriage was done beyond their expectations.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]5.He says he is sexually satisfied with me but still he masturbates n sees porn early mornings in my absence n i catch him right away.HE closes anything that he is seeing.I told him i dislike it n will enjoy n share whatevr he likes /does but still the same response.He tells me he cannot have intelligent conversations with me n if i had not married him we would never have been even good friends[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]6.He is not frank,clear in his interactions/feelings n lies at every oppurtunity.Puts up a different face with each one,infact the whole family does it.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]7.In US he n his mom thru phone threatened to harm me,house arrest,cut off internet n phone connections etc.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]8.He told me he was desparate to get married as he was being rejected most times.I had to literally beg him when i had an urge but have co-operated whenevr he wants[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]9.I have knowingly compromised on looks,lifestyle,[/size][/font]important [font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][u]financial [/u][/size][/font][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]status family background,tidyness,discipline etc n married him only coz he promised to be affectionate n understanding.[/size][/font]]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]10. They are [/size][/font][u][font="Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif"][size=3]money[/size][/font] [/u][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]minded,calculative n lack human values.He never has approached me in a warm n loving manner for sex.No excitement of a newly wed,no surprise meetings/gifts,no phone calls other than his time table told by his mom.There too its just mechanical n i have never said no from start when he was trying to get physical\[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]11.When i told my paents about all the problems they kept convincing me from start n i reluctantly have been agreeing hoping it would get better.[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]12.But the same saga continued n when he got to know i have told it all to my parents thru his mom n bro's cunning act he said he will [/size][/font]important][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][u]divorce[/u][/size][/font][[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]me.[/size][/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I came back from US then n its been 3 months now ,we have not heard from them.I still called him a couple of times he said to make a choice btw him n mom n cut the call. We too have not contacted them after that.He is enjoyingg there.I logged off FB.My friend stold he is very active on FB n his mom likes it all[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]13.I finally convinced my parents that i want a [/size][/font][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]divorce[/size][/font][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] then hey have agreed[/size][/font]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]14.I hate him n cannot[/size][/font] [font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][u]trust[/u][/size][/font][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] him again.I have lost the confidence in this relationship.[/size][/font]

][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]15.Only on the first night after commitment did he talk to me late night lovingly.After that he had a time table for calls n absolutely no night calls.Even if i used to call he used to yell at me for calling repeatedly n used to switch off phone.No gifts except for a jeans n tee when we went out for the first time,saturday he used to be with his mom n meet me only on sunday evenings n then too he just used to get physical.[/size][/font][/color]

[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Friends please telll me am i normal? any drawbacks/mistakes from me?[/size][/font]
[font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Have i thought right n proceeding right?[/size][/font]

[Simple123]

denikee Divorce isata . Vadu late ga marriage chesukunadu so aappti daka Porn chusi mastrubate chesukoni edigadu , all of sudden ga habbit podu . inka mother -son relation antava , 31 yrs vunna relation adi .you need to adjust with it .Don't feel insecure of it .

I think you don't have any work now so that is why you are thinking too much . Grow up baby

[tom bhayya]

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[cherlapalli_jailer]

emo not completely convincing?

Being MBBS she must be in a better position to tell abt her hubby's (especially pron stuff) behaviour

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

[quote name='Simple123' timestamp='1348592582' post='1302537458']
denikee Divorce isata . Vadu late ga marriage chesukunadu so aappti daka Porn chusi mastrubate chesukoni edigadu , all of sudden ga habbit podu . inka mother -son relation antava , 31 yrs vunna relation adi .you need to adjust with it .Don't feel insecure of it .

I think you don't have any work now so that is why you are thinking too much . Grow up baby
[/quote] asalu motham chadivaavaa??

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

1,5 ok.....migathavi uncle Valle

[Simple123]

[quote name='Nellore Pedda reddy' timestamp='1348592936' post='1302537493']
asalu motham chadivaavaa??
[/quote]

chadivina NPR mama . Late age marriage chesukunte eve problems vastayi . appti daka individual ga undi kalisi undali ante small things kuda microscope lo chusinattu ga big avutayi .

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

[quote name='Simple123' timestamp='1348593131' post='1302537519']


chadivina NPR mama . Late age marriage chesukunte eve problems vastayi . appti daka individual ga undi kalisi undali ante small things kuda microscope lo chusinattu ga big avutayi .
[/quote] but uncle& family maree worst la undi

[Simple123]

[quote name='Nellore Pedda reddy' timestamp='1348593257' post='1302537533']
but uncle& family maree worst la undi
[/quote]

Vadu US lo unnadu kada , inka family ekkada untadi .

[k2s]

this is what happens if u & ur parents are keen about same caste marriage.....
katnam entha ichindoo ?

[psycopk]

ento ee gola...

[littlemoon]

endo a IL stories chusi naku apudu apudu tension avthundi

[psycopk]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1348593411' post='1302537549']
this is what happens if u & ur parents are keen about same caste marriage.....
katnam entha ichindoo ?
[/quote]
bongu emana kadu... adi ila chesindi ani andaru ila ani anukunte ela uncle..

[psycopk]

[quote name='littlemoon' timestamp='1348593692' post='1302537576']
endo a IL stories chusi naku apudu apudu tension avthundi
[/quote] nuvvu IL lo veyaku afdb lo veyi,..

[littlemoon]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1348593733' post='1302537581']
nuvvu IL lo veyaku afdb lo veyi,..
[/quote]

DB lo vesthe inka anthe
aina asalu ala veyalsi ravalsina life naku vaddu!!