Estory 3 : Financial Mom & Wife

[k2s]

Posting my problem very briefly:

Married for 4 years and have a 2 year old kid. Working and financially independent.

Had an arranged marriage. Husband was a silent guy, won't talk much to anyone, no physical abuse or anything of that sort. Problems I had with him:

1. He was indecisive. If some decisions needs to be taken and I ask him what needs to be done - His answer will be 'I don't know'. It's all upto you. Do as you wish. This was an easy way of escaping from blames in future.

2. Not interested in physical intimacy. He never used to behave like a normal guy -I was surprised since we both were staying alone in a foreign country and newly wedded, but he never used to be romantic nor initiate ***. If I initiate he will continue that's it. But he can go on months and years without this. Once I asked him about this - Answer I got - We should not be addicted to anything in life. Also should not be attached to anything or anyone.

He is the only son of his parents and his father also is like this. 3 of them are in their on world - and not attached to each other. I have not even seen 3 of them giving a loving touch or care to each other. All will be silent even while having food or watching TV.

Now coming to the problem - I had to resign my job when he came Onsite. After coming Onsite, he never used to help me to find a job here and I was frustrated with all these behaviours. So we had frequent quarrels. After one of our major quarrel,he told me to go back to India. But the very next day I got a good job offer in the nearby state. So he only took me out for shopping, drove me to the next state, took me a house and I started going for job. He went back home.

From then on, he was really disturbed . He reduced his daily calls to me and I was feeling very very upset. Next week we came to know I am carrying. As any ordinary wife, I thought he will hug me and be very happy. But his attitude was like - So what. We expected this. The whole pregnancy period was like hell for me- He will not on phone at all. If I call, he will ask me to put the phone down.Monthly he used to come to my house to help with with groceries. But never used to come for any hospital check-ups and not at all. During this period crap in-laws also started taking advantage. They started calling my uncles(not even parents) and used to tell that I fight with their son always and son is very upset. Husband had some ego problem that I got a very good job on my own and he was jealous.

Anyways my mother came to help me in US for my delivery. He came for the delivery taking just one week leave and used to behave with me very rudely. After delivery I begged him, I will resign or transfer my job to his city - But he never allowed. He told me to go back to India and only after discussion we can do something. Then I took and transfer to India and went with kid there. From that time, he never used to keep any contacts with me.

After one year he came to India, for a vacation and that time he called all his relatives and kept a discussion. In the discussion even his relatives told why you are creating issues for such a small problem . Every husband and wife has quarrels in their life and that is normal. So you better take her home. So for that 15 days me, him and kid were staying at in-laws house and we were happy. So I really thought all my prblems ended. But after he left to US, my MIL and his cousin sister were continuously poisoning his mind against me and again it started. He never used to keep contacts with me. I can't imagine how he can do this - Even if he had 1% love for me and my kid , he will call and check how baby is doing

Now it's been more than a year it happened. For past 3 years I am continuously under this mental torture. He doesn't call me/check on the baby/does not provide any financial assistance to the baby and just be like absconding.

Now very recently I got an Onsite assignment to US and I came with the baby here to a nearby state where he lives. I called and told him I am here and he cut the call. I emailed him asking his address to meet him - He won't reply. It's been more than 1.5 year since he have seen his kid nor talked. I can't believe how he can do this to his own blood.

Now I will be in US for a short while and will be going back to India soon. I didn't want to move legally since I thougt it will aggravate problems. I really thougt I can meet him in the US and show him the kid - but he is not even responding to give his address. Also kid's daycare expense everything I am only bearing. He haven't spend even a penny for the kid.

Friend, I need your advice - What should be done. Is it better for me to go back to India and file something legally. How should I go about. I really want reconciliation and not divorce. So not sure what steps I should take. Please advice.

Many Thanks

[ariel]

unna probs sariponattu e probs endi k2s uncle malli 1 2 3 anta [img]http://www.gifsoup.com/view4/1781808/run-o.gif[/img]

[k2s]

[quote name='ariel' timestamp='1356120846' post='1302996722']
unna probs sariponattu e probs endi malli 1 2 3 anta [img]http://www.gifsoup.com/view4/1781808/run-o.gif[/img]
[/quote]estory saduvu vay...

[ariel]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1356120878' post='1302996728']
estory saduvu vay...
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chaduvudam anukunna maha bharatam rasav summary cheppu vayya [img]http://i1093.photobucket.com/albums/i439/pillabachapk1/run-o.gif[/img]

[Anta Assamey]

Veedu inko danni ruchi marigadu ... Pakka doubt ee ledu... [img]http://www.desigifs.com/sites/default/files/bemmi.lol5_.gif?1290450399[/img]

[SudhirKumar]

wammo intha matter sadavalaa..[img]http://www.gifsoup.com/view4/1781808/run-o.gif[/img]

[k2s]

[quote name='ariel' timestamp='1356120966' post='1302996740']
chaduvudam anukunna maha bharatam rasav summary cheppu vayya [img]http://i1093.photobucket.com/albums/i439/pillabachapk1/run-o.gif[/img]
[/quote] aitey ur not fit for these estories reader.....

[tom bhayya]

[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif][img]http://www.desigifs.com/sites/default/files/CroppedBrahmishock_zps694518cc.gif?1350460826[/img] vaadu manishaa machine aa .. endhuku vay ilaanti vallu andharu pellillu chesukuni valla jeevithaalu nasanam chesthaaru [/font][/color]

[ariel]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1356121131' post='1302996763']
aitey ur not fit for these estories reader.....
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edo ne abhimanam uncle [img]http://i37.tinypic.com/1ze8l1t.gif[/img]

[Terminator II]

eliminate this indus ladies immediately..

[k2s]

[quote name='Alexander' timestamp='1356121153' post='1302996770']
[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif][img]http://www.desigifs.com/sites/default/files/CroppedBrahmishock_zps694518cc.gif?1350460826[/img] vaadu manishaa machine aa .. endhuku vay ilaanti vallu andharu pellillu chesukuni valla jeevithaalu nasanam chesthaaru [/font][/color]
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[k2s]

[quote name='kevkekaa' timestamp='1356121301' post='1302996793']
eliminate this indus ladies immediately..
[/quote][img]http://i42.tinypic.com/mk92cp.gif[/img]

[@Shadow@]

malli pelli chesukomanu..........

[ThaatiMatta]

ippudu memu solutions chepthe... nuvvu aameku post chesthaava?/

leka pothe.. nuvve aa husband character vaa??

[ariel]

get rid of him asap to live a better lif than this [img]http://lh3.ggpht.com/-7zMNJ3iq2Dw/TwKNLbmPLqI/AAAAAAAAF0A/mCF8ehVK3Dk/s150/Mahi-10.gif[/img]