Estory 2 : For Piscop Maaya

[prayaanam]

eyyi maayyya...nenu sadavaledu...

[littlemoon]

endo e pichi

[mustang302]

[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img][img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img][img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img]ee FB undaeeee....!!!

[k2s]

[quote name='galigannarao' timestamp='1357158551' post='1303044595']
ayte esey suseddam
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[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1357158556' post='1303044597']
interest unna leka poina motham veseyi..
[/quote]malli konni vinta brustaa manavulu vachi.....intha sadavala ani antaru ani....

[k2s]

[quote name='littlemoon' timestamp='1357158597' post='1303044602']
endo e pichi
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[psycopk]

he was crying, I started crying, then he told his mom what had happened, and she also started crying. He wasn't too bothered when I started crying... but when he saw his mom crying, then he got very sad and started crying more--- facebook profile valla inta mandi crying aaa..

[Spartan]

[mustang302]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1357158609' post='1303044605']
malli konni vinta brustaa manavulu vachi.....intha sadavala ani antaru ani....
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[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img][img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img]nuvvu aesai baa...!!!

[k2s]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1357158633' post='1303044608']
he was crying, I started crying, then he told his mom what had happened, and she also started crying. He wasn't too bothered when I started crying... but when he saw his mom crying, then he got very sad and started crying more--- facebook profile valla inta mandi crying aaa..
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nenu cryinaaa

[mustang302]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1357158633' post='1303044608']
he was crying, I started crying, then he told his mom what had happened, and she also started crying. He wasn't too bothered when I started crying... but when he saw his mom crying, then he got very sad and started crying more--- facebook profile valla inta mandi crying aaa..
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[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img][img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img]ee crying aentoooo...!!!

[k2s]

Part 3:


For all those of you who are confused about why anyone would delay coming to US for GC, there is a BIG issue, which my husband already knows about. If he delays long enough... he will arrive in the US with an unconditional 10 year GC, as opposed to a 2 year conditional GC if he comes earlier. (The 10 year GC also allows one to apply for US citizenship during this period, which also allows him to get GC for his parents as well.) So actually there is benefit to delaying arrival if someone wants GC only. My husband insists he is not coming for visa, but my parents have doubts.

Petition is approved. However, there are still more steps to be taken before his case moves to the Indian consulate and before his interview. Unless he gets me his documents, the case cannot move further.

I just gave him a quick call to say good morning (in India). He was friendly enough, though mentioned about how bad it was that I had spoiled his image in front of my family. I realized that he hasn't at all internalized his share of the problem, despite apologizing to me earlier. He cannot empathize with how stressed out I became when I randomly found my husband's profile online (wasn't even looking), only to see his pictures only, no mention of our marriage, and his interest in 'women'. I am stuck being the bad guy again.

I know many of you have told me to wake up. In light of the new info, I cannot be so upset with him now, as I rushed into judgment and misjudged him... but I will still think about what you have written.

[Spartan]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1357158708' post='1303044617']
Part 3:


For all those of you who are confused about why anyone would delay coming to US for GC, there is a BIG issue, which my husband already knows about. If he delays long enough... he will arrive in the US with an unconditional 10 year GC, as opposed to a 2 year conditional GC if he comes earlier. (The 10 year GC also allows one to apply for US citizenship during this period, which also allows him to get GC for his parents as well.) So actually there is benefit to delaying arrival if someone wants GC only. My husband insists he is not coming for visa, but my parents have doubts.

Petition is approved. However, there are still more steps to be taken before his case moves to the Indian consulate and before his interview. Unless he gets me his documents, the case cannot move further.

I just gave him a quick call to say good morning (in India). He was friendly enough, though mentioned about how bad it was that I had spoiled his image in front of my family. I realized that he hasn't at all [b]internalized[/b] his share of the problem, despite [b]apologizing[/b] to me earlier. He cannot empathize with how stressed out I became when I [b]randomly[/b] found my husband's profile online (wasn't even looking), only to see his pictures only, no mention of our marriage, and his interest in 'women'. [b]I am stuck being the bad guy again.[/b]

I know many of you have told me to wake up. In light of the new info, I cannot be so upset with him now, as I rushed into judgment and misjudged him... but I will still think about what you have written.
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[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img] papa english medium anukunta...

[k2s]

[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1357158839' post='1303044634']
[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img] papa english medium anukunta...
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[Spartan]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1357158877' post='1303044638']

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[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img] a comment susi nene navvukunna.....

[k2s]

Part 4:
Originally Posted by [b]xxxxx[/b]
[i]Glad to hear that at least the fb matter was no big deal. I think you will be able to fix your marriage if you and your husband talk things out just as I said in my earlier message here. The situation might not be as bad as you think. Let your husband talk his views and by this way you can kind of find out whats on his mind about anything thats bothering you. Any marriage requires work rkk1. Sometimes in any marriage, there might be misunderstandings or miscommunications, therefore arguments and at times unnecessary arguments arise. Trust is very important, talking things out and understanding each other are important points in any marriage. If there is doubt in one another, its good to talk things out. Try to work things out and don't give up. Divorce is the last option only if nothing works out. Be strong, have belief and hope, be happy, pray to God and try your best to work it out friend. Good Luck.[/i]
Thanks very much for your kind post, xxxxx. I agree that trust is very much needed in a marriage. We lack that trust, unfortunately. He was mentioning earlier today that I have such a lack of trust for him, that seeing an additional profile of his was enough for me to jump to very bad conclusions about him. I agreed that we don't have that trust. But I think his small actions continue to break down the trust, which he doesn't understand. For example, we have been arguing for a long time about how he isn't making effort to get the visa work done. He always says he is making effort, though it clearly isn't the case, as making 2 trips to the passport office in the last 5 months isn't much of any work at all (despite the office being in a different city). If he truly cared, then he would drop all of his work, and move to the other city for a few weeks until the work got done... not go there once every few months and act like he is doing anything big. Today he admitted that he hasn't made a full effort because of fear of coming, but he said that he has made a 90% effort. I told him "If you are going to continue to misrepresent your efforts, then how can we make any progress in fixing the relationship? There is no way you have made 90% effort... hardly 15% effort even, if I am generous." His constant misrepresentation of facts like this is what allows a diminished trust for his words, and later he is surprised when I doubt him so easily. I don't know how to change his constant exaggeration of details. Hence it's very hard to rebuilt the trust and respect that is so badly needed between us.

Originally Posted by [b]xxxxx[/b]
Well maybe your husband has a weakness of postponing things. My husband has a weakness of postponing things at times. There have been times when I ask my husband have you done this or that or when are you doing this and when are you doing that as he would take his time to do certain things. I on the other hand am the opposite in that I like to get work done on time and not postpone things as far as possible. Its a weakness to postpone things in a way which some men can work on I guess, but some men can be stubborn too. However, just like anyone else they also have their strengths. If you get a chance to get some vacation, perhaps you can visit India, spend some time with your husband, get to know him better, have more communication with him and also help your husband get his visa sooner. Sometimes a husband requires a wife's support too and vice versa you see.