Estory 2 : For Piscop Maaya

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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1357159293' post='1303044672']
okkati kuda kapuram nilabedtam ane alochanalo ledu akda akkada...
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Part 6:

inka na valla kadu.....idey last anukondi.....




Originally Posted by [b]Zen[/b]
[i]Of course he cried, he got caught. Just like any 8 year old he bursts into tears to avoid getting punished. Then he turns around later AND BLAMES YOU for his family finding out![/i]
I agree. The fact that he still blames me for telling my family about it, does show some immaturity on his part... which I have already called him out on. My only regret is that I wish I had talked to him first about it before telling my extended family... as I portrayed him as someone potentially cheating on me. And then when I saw that 4 of the 8 pictures on his site were MINE, I felt guilty. Had I seen those before telling my family, I wouldn't have said anything. So for prematurely telling my family, I AM for it.

Originally Posted by [b]Zen[/b]
[i]You must ultimately decide for yourself, but Rkk, I am speaking to you as someone old enough to be your mother - if I had a daughter in this situation I would wonder how I had managed to fail her so badly that she couldn't immediately see what was going on, how she is being manipulated, and how unhappy her future life is going to be.[/i]
You may be right here, but I don't think you should insult me or my parents. I think there requires a fine balance here for me.... I neither want to be a doormat, but at the same time I don't want to be any rigid feminist who doesn't care to be understanding enough to my husband. I don't want to continue to be neglected in my marriage, but at the same time I don't want to be so quick to walk away... as I feel like trying to save a marriage (in the absence of overt abuse) can be a commendable thing. At the same time, I don't want to drag out an unhealthy marriage on and on, to the point where I have no confidence left and am a shell of my former self. So things require some thought and balance here. I am trying to make a good decision here with what I know, thus I don't think anyone has a right to insult me for trying my best to be a good partner to my husband.

As far as my family goes, it is true that I had a dysfunctional childhood and as such have poor boundaries, even in marriage. Additionally, I probably tolerate more abuse than most other Americans would. I have been to counseling and I know this about myself. However, I don't think you or Sandhya should make unkind comments towards my parents. They have been amazingly supportive to me, both in my decision to marry as well as my decision to divorce or not. I'm an adult woman (31 years) and it would be inappropriate for them to tell me what to do with my life. They are just there as supports, which is all I can ask of them, and I am deeply grateful for that. Sometimes they can go too far and start to be insulting to my husband (it doesn't happen very often as they have always liked him, but when it happens I become pretty defensive, as I care for my husband and cannot tolerate anybody in my family insulting him).

Although I am very much grateful for the advice that both you and Sandhya have provided me on this thread, I would gently ask you to not make insults directed at my parents or my upbringing, as that is not okay.

Originally Posted by [b]Zen[/b]
[i]What are you going to do when he brings his mother to sleep in the bed between you? And when his brother can't sleep without her, are you going to end up sleeping in a separate room like the father, so mom can sleep with her two married, grown sons? Seriously![/i]
Just to clarify, my BIL and his wife usually sleep by themselves. I think it has just happened that one time where he badly wanted his mom to sleep with them. I'm sure he'll ask her to sleep with them again as he sees no problem in it, but at least it seems like an occasional thing.

My husband currently sleeps next to his mom, though he and I would have our own room when I would come to India after marriage to visit. I don't know whether or not he'd ask his mom to sleep next to him when she comes to the US to visit, though I hope not... as I have told him I don't like the idea. He'd probably still sleep next to her at least for some nights, as he is stubborn like that and does what he wants.

Originally Posted by [b]A[/b]
[i]I agree with you, ZS. I too feel that all the usual safety guards in place to protect (know the family, know the guy, common family background, common culture, shared values) have badly failed in rkk's case, or put another way, that somehow there was a 'perfect storm of errors' enabling rkk to slip through the cracks, unfortunately.[/i]
Please see my comment above to Zen. I was 30 years old when I married my husband, and it would have been inappropriate for my parents to have told me not to marry him, as I was an adult to make my own decisions. They were kind enough to fly to India to meet the family before the engagement. They even sent my uncle and aunt to meet this guy and his family before we made any commitment, and my aunt and uncle only had best comments for my husband and his family.

I know my husband has some maturity issues, and he can also be narcissistic sometimes (as he LOVES to hear praise about himself). That doesn't mean he hasn't done a lot of nice things for me. I just need to figure out if we can grow and mold our lives together, or if I should start my partner search over. I do still love him though.... for a while I questioned if I did or not, but I realize that I do.

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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1357159335' post='1303044680']
[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img] nuvvu calling thread veyyi...enduku raado chuddam...
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[quote name='mustang302' timestamp='1357159445' post='1303044697']
[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img][img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img]antae antavaaa...!!
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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1357159494' post='1303044707']
[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img] simfle vay....
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denemma... oka FACEBOOK ila jeevitalani nasanam cheystunda... tokkalodi...

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[quote name='CBZ' timestamp='1357161090' post='1303044839']
denemma... oka FACEBOOK ila jeevitalani nasanam cheystunda... tokkalodi...
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all this credit goes to mark zuckerberg only andiiii...[img]http://img101.imageshack.us/img101/7259/brahmigopilaugh.gif[/img]

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[quote name='CBZ' timestamp='1357161090' post='1303044839']
denemma... oka FACEBOOK ila jeevitalani nasanam cheystunda... tokkalodi...
[/quote]andukey nenu appudey seppa......... neeku..... FB vaddu ani

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[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1357158556' post='1303044597']
interest unna leka poina motham veseyi..
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[Darling999]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1357158633' post='1303044608']
he was crying, I started crying, then he told his mom what had happened, and she also started crying. He wasn't too bothered when I started crying... but when he saw his mom crying, then he got very sad and started crying more--- facebook profile valla inta mandi crying aaa..
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[Mrlavangam]

[quote name='psycopk' timestamp='1357158633' post='1303044608']
he was crying, I started crying, then he told his mom what had happened, and she also started crying. He wasn't too bothered when I started crying... but when he saw his mom crying, then he got very sad and started crying more--- facebook profile valla inta mandi crying aaa..
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