Estory 1 : Piscop Maaya Help Fafa

[k2s]

hello

I have been married for 5 years now and i have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. Mine is a love marriage. I am considered good looking and I get a lot of attention and compliments from people, well except my husband. Since early days of my marriage, I have always been the one with more desire. But I thought it was ok as long as we were intimate once in a while. Since my daughter was born, our physical contact has almost stopped. When I was pregnant, my husband used to say that he does not feel like doing it when I am pregnant. So I waited. During pregnancy I put on some weight. So I felt that maybe I am not attractive. I have lost weight now and am almost back to how I used to be, but there is no difference. I have tried suggesting 'date nights" and trying to spend more time together. But my husband does not cooperate, he says it has to happen and should feel like it and should not be forced. It has been 8 months now since we had any kind of physical contact. Our marriage is not perfect, but we are ok otherwise. But my husband does not like me bringing up the topic of physical intimacy. I want to be with my husband and make things work.
I have started craving attention from other men... So I know I need to do something to get things going with my husband.. But I am running out of ideas...

[galigannarao]

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[Kakateyudu]

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[galigannarao]

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[nani8055]

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[nani8055]

Attention 4m other men and running out of ideas .... Antey uncle ki jai hind( ) eh na inka

[k2s]

another fafa reply :


I waited to respond here because I honestly have no solution for you. However, I sympathize.

It is a tough situation you are in. Generally in Indian society, women are not allowed to have physical desires let alone express them and ask for their needs to be met even by thier own lawfully wedded husbands. Rarely can you talk about this to your mom or close relatives even. Most elders will dismiss your claim as irrelevant since you have one child and that is the only reason they think people should be physically intimate at all. I have heard elders in my own family make such claims.

Who will you ask for help? What will you say? Some may criticize you for not rising above this in your marraige after becoming a mother. Some may tell you to let your husband be the leader in this. In any case, you are not addicted to the physical intimacy it seems like - you are just a normal healthy young woman.

If we think about the situation if the roles were reversed, I may say the same thing to a husband claiming his wife is not interested in physical intimacy. Physical intimacy or alck thereof is a sign of something else going on. Physical intimacy between partners requires a certain amount of emotional involvement and if one party is not ready for it (even though they have done this before with same partner), then one musn't force the issue.

I know you said your husband does not like talking about it even. Maybe you talk to him about your marriage, your love for each other, your commitment, your goals for the future - try to see if you are in the same page. Get to the same page. Increase communication, get to know him all over again. Having a child changes so many things - maybe his personality has changed. Get to emotional intimacy first.

Emotional intimacy is not living under the same roof or buying groceries together or taking care of the baby together - it is more than that. So....start there and see where it goes. Make an attempt to get your marraige on track/realign your attitudes to it.

I know you are tempted to find satisfaction by other means. I understand and don't judge. As a sister, I tell you to be patient, and not to do something that may harm you, your child and your marriage. Too often we jump into a mistake in haste and repent in leisure. So..slow down.

Gain back control over yourself. Don't let an idea take over your life. You are the boss of you and let your intellect guide you, not the whims of your mind.

All the very best.

[Anta Assamey]

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[k2s]

fafa reply :


Thanks for your response and insight. I will try to get the spark back into my marriage. I want to start on a positive note, but I wonder if things will be any different now. I have tried several times and given up.

My husband and I are on the same page regarding some of the key things for a family like financial decisions, decisions about our kid, our extended family etc. My husband thinks that I should be happy with these and he cannot understand why I need more. We are not on the same page regarding the little things like eating at the table as a family atleast occasionally (He watches TV with headphones on when eating every single day) or a little talk when eating out (He is almost always talking on his cellphone until the food arrives, then it is eating and leaving) He does not understand why I can't "adjust" to these "little" things.

[dotnetrockz]

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