Estory 1 : Piscop Maaya Chesina Anyayam

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[Maximus]

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[quote name='ChittiNaidu' timestamp='1360011888' post='1303224975']
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[quote name='Maximus' timestamp='1360011979' post='1303224981']
what are these new id.s ya...
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lilwayne

[Piscop]

[quote name='k2s' timestamp='1360011114' post='1303224914']
Hello, this is the my sad story, I am staying in VA, USA. I got married in Nov 27, 2011. I am on work visa, my husband is a very nice as friend, cousin, everyone calls him as gentleman, but heres my problem as his wife.
Before marriage
We met before marriage few times, I observed my dh was not talking properly with me, nor behaving properly as a fiancee (no excitement with marriage). He did not showed interest in talking to me or spending time with me like other couples. He also expressed he is not able to do like others. He said he is afraid of commitments and marriage. He was not up for marriage at all. So I thought he might be afraid of marriage thatswhy not behaving properly with me. After marriage everything would be good. So during the six months from engagement to marriage I stayed calm even though we had fights that he ignored me, I just could not say no to this marriage for this reason.

After marriage began our worst period. He behaved the same, no emotions, no feelings, he just ignored me for physical s** too saying he does not have feelings. Then I cried and for me he did forcefully 5 mins cuddling and not the inter****** . For this 5 mins too I have to request him, or he will not initiate it . The lack of emotional and physical connection made me frustrated like anything. We had fights mostly on love and effection. He says love is not magic it will come slowly. I said I do everything to him, I do all household work, am earning and most importantly I love him, he said he has no same feelings, I asked him many times as how to make him get feelings but he said he does not know as feelings are related to heart and escaped from me. This continued from Jan to April.

I came to know in April 2012 that he has emotional affair with his colleague (boss) who is married (talking 24*7 on chat, phone). Before marriage their messages are like, that woman said please do not marry and he said I wish, also she expressed I love you, and I miss your hugs and touch, she is not at all happy that he is marrying and he also reciprocated saying I love you. And more important thing he calls her as baby, I have saved few messages as proof. I was so heart broken by seeing this. She expressed her feelings so openly to him just before our marriage. She is pregnant too at that time. If my dh is a good guy he should have scolded her, but he reciprocated to her feelings. They came to know each other since 2009 as he joined that company then. From then they became good friends, since that woman had also quarrels with her dh, she found my dh has soft corner for her and took advantage and started sharing her emotions, personal things everything with him. even when her dh is not there they used to meet at her home to share personal things (my dh told me when her husband is around how can she share things with me), What kind of friendship is this. He told me stories to make me understand its just friendship, I am so weak that I believed him, but my mind is not clear, this matter was going on in my mind like poison. Even they stay in the same area (just 5 mins away)

Their affair was there even before our marriage , after our marriage and is continuing. I caught him and questioned him. He told me silly reasons that theirs is friendship only and escaped from this. He said they(that woman and her husband) are best friends and he goes to their house most of the time, eats and sleeps there before our marriage. Also he supported her saying she felt insecure that my dh is getting married, thatswhy. They are like family friends. I too believed him as he told he will not talk to her. But he was talking to her later many times after our marriage also very closely, i came across again, he says to her I will do anything for you baby, she says so sweet of you. I was shocked. I confronted him this time he scolded me like anything saying my mind is garbage thinking wrong about him. I was broken again thinking how he can be that affectionate to that woman why not me, he never talked to me like this. Obviously anyone would suspect especially wife. I was getting the worst out of him all the time

He took me to that womans family (he was having affair)and introduced to them just after I caught him. Until then he never introduced her to me though their family is close but he used to go alone to their place after marriage too without taking me in the context of playing with her baby(thatswhat he told me). That woman also talked to me nicely and started calling to her home occassionally. I too went for my husband sake so that he will not feel guilty and will understand me and love me. But instead he took as advantage and still he was talking to her, and didnot show interest in me. I questioned him sometimes on her matter, he became very defensive now and started scolding me from then saying if I think bad why I am going to her house, but he never realized he should not talk to her and concentrate on our relation. So thinking its not a good idea to talk to her, I stopped all contacts with her. But still he talks to her as she is his colleague (sees at work all the time and also sometimes goes to her home, how can he stop talking to someone who is very close to him)

I know after marriage he needed time to connect to me with. But could not as he did not like me for small reasons. I genuinely requested him to consider me, he dint, I did argue aggressively or cried to make him understand that I am not getting what I want. But instead he took these situations and made advantage by letting others know that I create dramas or cry all the time. But he never explained to them why? He never cared for reasons. But he took advantage from the drama or situations and showed me bad before everyone. He shifted the complete blame on me.

He did not do the basic things to me or satisfied me mentally or physically from beginning. This is the basic reason where we had fight initially and made us apart.

He told everything to his parents and especially his mom's sister he updates each and every fight. my IL's also expected me to tell my problems to them only. They always only give me suggestions, please leave him sometime, donot ask him when he comes late or nag him. I could follow that for a week or 2 weeks or month and again I feel I am ignored and start a conversation with him and ends up in fight. I donot know how to solve this problem.

Finally in India Oct 2012 he put meeting and he told his parents and my parents that he cannot stay with me anymore but somehow everyone agreed that we stay for 6 months and then decide. I also agreed thinking my last chance and in these 6 months I will stay calm and do everything to please him. But alas he already made his mind of separation and not at all cooperating saying donot ask him anything if he is late, donot talk to him at all, he says he agreed for 6 months only to make me understand that am not happy in this relation and walk out of this silently without nuisance. Thatswhy he became more tough and hard for me nowadays. He left me no chance.
I donot know what to do. I love him and donot want to leave him, am emotionally connected with him now.
Please suggest me what can I do? I am feeling very depressed as my life became like this, He never puts any effort, always he sees whats he is getting or not from the relation but never contributed. Now he has no hope at all. for my long story.
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lilwayne
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[quote name='Maximus' timestamp='1360011979' post='1303224981']
[img]http://lh3.ggpht.com/-5YfGALcYGLk/UPjvZSyR8nI/AAAAAAAAJTc/VbuDTMd944o/s120/Brahmi-10.gif[/img]what are these new id.s ya...
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[ToughGuy]

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[quote name='Maximus' timestamp='1360011979' post='1303224981']
[img]http://lh3.ggpht.com/-5YfGALcYGLk/UPjvZSyR8nI/AAAAAAAAJTc/VbuDTMd944o/s120/Brahmi-10.gif[/img]what are these new id.s ya...
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Hi maxi mayya

[Maximus]

[quote name='Yo_Whatsup' timestamp='1360012275' post='1303225004']
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[quote name='NENINTHE_' timestamp='1360013004' post='1303225099']
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