sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Report Posted March 8, 2013 [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]hi frnds..[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Thanks to all the frnds who gave me valuable suggestions in the past.i want to confront something which is bothering me so much from the past few days.to be short iam married for 8 yrs,2 kids aged 6 and 4.never doubted on my dh all these years.his behavior :always silent mode,less talk,no fun,just need wife in bed,no romance,always interested in calling his siblings back home to india and share their sorrows.i always pacified myself that he is like this because of his concern for his siblings.he doesn't even talk 2 words when he is at home.if I ask something he replies,that too in short cut.i pacified myself..ok its his nature,he is too tired of work and is always bzy with his work.the only time he talks is when he sees anything to his dislike like for instance something not good in food or my household chores.so keeping all this petty things aside,i thought iam happily married,husband with good job,cute kids,i have everything.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]we recently went to india,he used my mobile there.he was in his hometown and I was at my mom's place for 2 weeks.after we returned,i was randomly looking at my messages(no spying thought till then),saw 2 messages from the same number.one says"where are the keys" and the other " d.h." the last was on the day we departed frm india to US.so ok,i ditn delete them.one day he asked for my mobile to take out some frnds no,it was real emergency.after 2 days I cudnt see those 2 messages in the phone.y he has to delete them if its nothing.i started observing since 1 week.he is getting missed calls on his iphone,he is calling to that number from his mobile using vonage and that too very odd timings like india time its like early morning 2.30 or 5.30a.m.i confronted my cousin,she helped me in finding the name and address of the number.she is the same girl which my dh once told on the wedding night (when she called him on the night and he talked casually in front of me like a frdn) that she was like a family member in his house,everybody liked her.she was frm diffrerent religion.now she is married too.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]so iam thinking whats going on, why now?or may be all these years.but I checked the phone calls are from novemeber 2012,i cant pull out records before that even.i have the printouts.what must I do next?if I ask he wil keep mum I knw him.he wont utter a word.he wil say think whatever u want to.this is for sure,he never had a open chat with me anytime in his life,if I try he wud get irritated and keep silent.and today when I changed pwd of vonage and logged in he got mail in his email acc,he called me and asked if change the pwd,i said yes ,I needed to register my mobile as well so that I can talk to india when iam out.and he got mad at me that y do I need on mobile when I have in landline.i said ok fine,then he asked me the pwd and changed the pwd immediately and made an excuse that I keep forgetting pwds.thanks that I took out the prints by then.now what ,this is clear that he is talking to her.but what are they upto.i really don't know what to do.till now I don't think he has any idea that I have doubt on him,but today he might get the thought.but what to do,no alternate so had to do that.please guide me what should I do.keep quiet and ignore ,or go back india and when he comes there ask him before my family,thats the only way to make him answer.else he wil keep silent and I have to suffer here.[/size][/font][/color] [img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img][img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]lol
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 same user 1 month ago thread about her affair with school friend! [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]hi frnds,[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I don't knw if iam in the right section but plz need suggestion.to tel u my story short.married for 8 yrs,have 2 beautifull kids-6yr old son,4 yr old daughter.my husband is in IT,too serious kind from the beginning,no romance in life,no special moments to remember,always worried about money,savings,paying bills,which are ofcourse important.8 yrs of marriage .no single gift frm him.if asked his reply"u have the credit card go buy whatever u want.cant even put hand on me when posing for a picture.he is like totally opposite of the kind I always dreamt of a husband -a friend .he is more like some elder person.i got used to it by now.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]recently I met my school friend on FB,yea fb....we used to like each other but never proposed.we laughed at that thought that we were so shy that time.after schooling we parted.no contacts all these 15yrs.recently we met in india.we both flew from different countries to meet in india.we spent 2 days of time together.if someone believe true love it wud be that.as I have known the difference.he is not the first man I have ever met so I know that its not an infatuation.we are deeply in love.he is single,handsome and he wants to marry me and want my kids too as he says they are part of me.and he loves everything that is mine.plz don't think that I am childish here jeopardizing my parents reputation,my kids future etc.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]iam not saying this because I hate my husband,i still respect him but he doesn't.all he wants is my physical being in the night.mechanical life.iam not a machine.i tried telling him to be lil casual in life to enjoy small things in life but he cant.he says that I love being in fairy tales,life is not like that.is life so sad?we have enough money by gods grace.but still my husband is always sad.iam sure he is a very good father to my kids,but y to me he is so rude and y am I taken for granted all the time.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]sometimes I feel the age gap of 8 yrs is the main reason.but have seen people happy like that too.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]this guy feels guilty of loving me as he wud make my hubby sad by taking me.but I feel when my hubby doenst respect me why shud I stay in a loveless marriage.how long wil I suffer for the sake of kids future.i deserve love,respect and fun moments in life.i love my kids and this guy loves them too.he says that he doesn't want kids of his own as he doesn't want to be partial in loving them.and he is so religious that really people do trust him by his words.our families knew each other when we were in school.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]his family always liked me and his parents are ready to accept me as long as I break relation with my hubby and they have no problem with kids as they believe they are gift of gods.hmm..his parents also had love marriage so they understand our situation,they regret that we dint approach each other at the right time.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Now its entirely on me.i scare to death thinking of it.Divorce is a scary word for me.my parents reputation on stake,wil relatives make fun of my parents?wil I be given bad name in the society?i really love this guy as those 2 days are the most happiest moments in my life so far.iam 32,i knw wat is love and wat is infatuation.i really want to be with him.but very scared to confess this to the world.how can I separate my kids from their dad?he wil be shattered.what shud I do?shal I stay in this loveless marriage forever for the sake of my kids and reputation .or live for myself ?I don't know where is my life?isnt divorce that easy?please don't taunt me ,iam not a bad person just need little love and respect in life.please suggest me friends,i cant share this with anyone in my life.please help.[/size][/font][/color] [img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img][img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img][img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]rofl
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 ori deeni eshalllllo [img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 [quote name='Silver_mani' timestamp='1362760108' post='1303387043'] ekkada dorkutayi mama ee posts ? [/quote] indusladies
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 one of the replies [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Naaz,[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]What happened to your old boy friend whom you wanted to be with? If your husband wants to be with another woman and you want to be with another guy, why don't you both come to a mutual agreement and get a divorce?[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Separate now and stop cheating each other. Get a life![/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]another reply [/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Naaz you too have a boyfriend.. if both of you have some other partner out of relation then you dont have to worry much.. As you know well whats going on.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]another superb reply [/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I must say u guys are made for each other...so it hurts huh???[/size][/font][/color][img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 other good reply [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif !important][size=3] [indent]No one here is in haste. No one is judgemental. They are reminding you......you and your male school friend, whom you re-met in facebook had a planned 2 days togetherness alone in India. In your own words we have read, those 2 days are the best days of your life. What is wrong in the above member calling him your boyfriend? What you had with him.....is it not an affair? You and your husband are in a passionless, loveless marriage. You found passion outside with another man. (we learnt it from your own words ). Now your hubby seems to be finding passion elsewhere. Things are seriously wrong, my friend. The way you are smelling his affair.....he too will know your affair soon. It may lead to catastrophe.[img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img][img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img][/indent][indent]tanu cheste tappu ledu,valla husband cheste tappu anta ori deeni eshalllloo[img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img][/indent][/size][/font][/color]
aamerica_seenu Posted March 8, 2013 Report Posted March 8, 2013 as one of them said... they are both made for each other
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 [quote name='aamerica_seenu' timestamp='1362761252' post='1303387222'] as one of them said... they are both made for each other [/quote] too good reply
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 one more reply [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Now ur feeling the pain when your husband is doing the same thing to you.[/size][/font][/color][img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]
innovative Posted March 8, 2013 Report Posted March 8, 2013 ikkada IL forum followers ekkuva vunnaru ga ..
sherlockholmes_anon Posted March 8, 2013 Author Report Posted March 8, 2013 [quote name='innovative' timestamp='1362765793' post='1303387981'] ikkada IL forum followers ekkuva vunnaru ga .. [/quote] vallu post cheste chadivi pedatamu [img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]aa threads and daaniki vache replies bhale comedy ga vuntay[img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]
innovative Posted March 8, 2013 Report Posted March 8, 2013 [quote name='Iamking' timestamp='1362765951' post='1303388008'] vallu post cheste chadivi pedatamu [img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img]aa threads and daaniki vache replies bhale comedy ga vuntay[img]http://i48.tinypic.com/25jyqes.gif[/img] [/quote] ok
aamerica_seenu Posted March 8, 2013 Report Posted March 8, 2013 [quote name='innovative' timestamp='1362765793' post='1303387981'] ikkada IL forum followers ekkuva vunnaru ga .. [/quote] akkada topics ikkada esthe fun chesukuntam anthe adi sare kaani aa ammai baadha ento... ee rendu posts toh aa ammai ki em kavalo oka ammai ga neeku emanna ardam ainda... kastha nee view share cheyavachu ga
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