10 flirting tips

[harshakudaravally]

Human beings share a basic need to connect with others. Flirting is a pleasurable way to satisfy that craving without the need for commitment. Because social cues are different depending on your sex or culture, flirting can get a little tricky. Don’t despair because there are universal gestures that, delivered with a little style, can help you become an expert flirt.
1. Make Eye Contact

With eye contact, less is more. Too much of this can turn you into the creepy stalker type. Use the three-second rule: Lock gazes with the object of your interest, hold for three seconds, smile and then look away.
2. Say Hello

After you’ve made eye contact, wait a minute or two and then look again. If he’s looking back, gather your courage and say hello. If you can’t stand the idea of walking up to a stranger, simply cruise by him, leaning in to say “hi” on your way past. This is a way of declaring your interest without exposing yourself to undue rejection.
3. Repeat Their Name

After you make initial contact, introduce yourself by name. If she’s shy, she may freeze up at this point. Simply say, “What’s your name?” When she tells you, repeat it back and then later, repeat it again in conversation. For example, “So Lisa, what do you do?” We are always flattered when people take the time to remember our names.
4. Give a Sincere Compliment

The ability to give a sincere compliment is important. According to Annemarie Failla of Girl.com.au, “Flirting is not just about being over-friendly, it is about being confident and liking yourself and sharing a bit of that with the world.” Take a good look at him and try to find something that really strikes you: his laugh, a certain kind of humor, a special piece of clothing. Try to avoid one-size-fits-all flattery, “You’re cute” or “I like your hair.”
5. Let Them Tell Their Story

Sharing information creates a bond. In “The Art of Flirting,” author Courtney D. Knowle states, “The trick here is to go first. If you ask a person out of the blue to tell you about themselves, it amounts to a demand to perform and puts them on the defensive. But if you go first, they’ll feel much more open and will reveal more.”
6. Give Them Your Undivided Attention

Give her your full attention. In this era of streaming videos, Blackberrys and on-demand Internet, it is unusual and refreshing to have someone pay attention to you. Don’t fidget, text, check your messages, answer your phone or scan the room. You may be surprised by how much this counts in your favor.
7. Use Touch Sparingly

Touching is best kept to minimum, but if things are going well and you’ve been talking for a while, it is OK to lightly and quickly touch someone on the shoulder, forearm or elbow. This expresses your interest without being overtly sexual. The exception to this is if he’s from a different country or culture. Cultural acceptability of touching varies widely from culture to culture and can be misinterpreted.
8. Know When to Retreat

Know when to back off. Annemarie Failla reminds us that flirt professionals, “Pick up on other people’s signals and know when to take flirting to the next level and when to stop.” If she’s looking away, talking to other people or checking her phone, politely end the conversation by saying, “It was great to meet you, take care.” If she wants to see you again, she’ll take this as a cue to ask for your information. If not, she’ll be grateful that you gave her an easy out.
9. Be Selective

Try to flirt with only one or two people who really interest you. Flirting with every guy in the room makes you seem insincere and indiscriminate.
10. Have Fun

Above all, flirting is about pleasure. Enjoy yourself and the company of others. If she’s not interested, chalk it up to lack of chemistry and move on. Flirting is not a job interview.

[vikuba]

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