Aunty Feelings Ki Uncle Value Ivvaledhu Papam...please Help Her..

[jaffatingboy]

Me and my DH are married for over 8 years now and we have 4 year old daughter. There is no problem as we both work and focus on bringing up the kid and we both love her. We go on vacations but with the child at mind only and there is nothing wrong really except me and my DH don’t talk much other than the kid related stuff, we even go to friend houses, invite people home and it all looks fine to people and they call us great couple. Let me confess that I have been too much close to my parents and never took the marriage very seriously, I had these thoughts that I can anytime go back to my loving dad, mom and brother and I don’t care if this marriage work or not so my attitude right from beginning was uncompromising on all issues. My parents too always encouraged me to be bold and know my rights, saying I was educated etc etc. My good paying job was also a factor in my confidence, in fact there was a time I was earning far more than my DH although he has progressed much more than me now. My DH does not talk much and he does not talk harsh things either. On all these years whenever we had an altercation he would simply back off and remain quite or go outside while I would shout and shout and you know when you angry many times you end up saying things that you repent later, so I have said several things that would have insulted her (I admit). I have been visiting my parents regularly in these years and spend good time with them at my own decision, I never tried to maintain any touch with his side of people. Coming back to the problem now, me and my DH has not had sex for over 5 years now, last we had was perhaps when my daughter was conceived. But overall after marriage we did not had much sex, first of all during honeymoon too I did not allow him to penetrate as I was too scared and I would simply start shouting and saying no every time he tried. Than we had sex like once in 3 months and it kept on going low and low as every time he wanted I would say no somehow. He was not interested in kids either but upon constant query from my mother (who stated consulting astrologers for our kid) I literally forced him for sex and we had good sex for almost a month, but nothing since then. Actually I had no interest in sex ever, whenever he did it I felt it like being used or something very bad feelings about myself, not sure why I am like this, not sure why I always thought that way and never ever enjoyed this. When our daughter was almost 8-9 months old my DH tried to engage one day but that I was in very bad mood and also coupled with my overall disinterest I scolded him when he tried to force it to me and said few very distasteful words, as always he simply went away and I slept. It has been over 3 years to that incident. Things have changed a lot in these many years, my dad expired few months ago and since then I have been feeling little bit insecure. My brother married so I don’t have that much talk to him these days, on top of that I hear my mother crying that he and his wife are not treating her that well as before and all these kinds of typical Indian family things.
I have been very stressed out in recent months and I even visited a doctor at my own, the doctor enquired about my sex life and she was shocked when I told her what it was like. She told me regular sex between a couple is the best stress buster as it not only makes you feel lighter and happy but improves relationship, more open communication leading to less stressed life. When I came home I tried to seduce my DH to follow what she said, but to my utter surprise, my DH told me he no longer considers me his wife, so sex is out of his mind completely, but as a partner and his only focus is to bring up child in a clean environment and we should continue to live the way we have been living (without sex) and there is no problem. He also told me from his side I have all freedom to explore outside relationship in any way I desire, he will have no objection and he also expect that I don’t interfere in his private life and as always he stepped outside. I am speechless at my situation. Absolutely blank in terms of ideas what I should be doing next. Please be open and share your views, I may find some light in your views and thanks for reading.

[Akkumm_Bakkumm]

Gud baga chesadu uncle, job undi ani balupekkina G**** chupisthe uncle egiri tannadu nice happened

[kiladi bullodu]

good job uncle vadu already inko contract job open chesadu.........

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[Piscop]

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[Yuva Nataratna]

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[Yuva Nataratna]

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[Idly Vishwanatham]

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[jajjanaka_jandri]

[quote name='jaffatingboy' timestamp='1378507272' post='1304215770']
Me and my DH are married for over 8 years now and we have 4 year old daughter. There is no problem as we both work and focus on bringing up the kid and we both love her. We go on vacations but with the child at mind only and there is nothing wrong really except me and my DH don’t talk much other than the kid related stuff, we even go to friend houses, invite people home and it all looks fine to people and they call us great couple. Let me confess that I have been too much close to my parents and never took the marriage very seriously, I had these thoughts that I can anytime go back to my loving dad, mom and brother and I don’t care if this marriage work or not so my attitude right from beginning was uncompromising on all issues. My parents too always encouraged me to be bold and know my rights, saying I was educated etc etc. My good paying job was also a factor in my confidence, in fact there was a time I was earning far more than my DH although he has progressed much more than me now. My DH does not talk much and he does not talk harsh things either. On all these years whenever we had an altercation he would simply back off and remain quite or go outside while I would shout and shout and you know when you angry many times you end up saying things that you repent later, so I have said several things that would have insulted her (I admit). I have been visiting my parents regularly in these years and spend good time with them at my own decision, I never tried to maintain any touch with his side of people. Coming back to the problem now, me and my DH has not had sex for over 5 years now, last we had was perhaps when my daughter was conceived. But overall after marriage we did not had much sex, first of all during honeymoon too I did not allow him to penetrate as I was too scared and I would simply start shouting and saying no every time he tried. Than we had sex like once in 3 months and it kept on going low and low as every time he wanted I would say no somehow. He was not interested in kids either but upon constant query from my mother (who stated consulting astrologers for our kid) I literally forced him for sex and we had good sex for almost a month, but nothing since then. Actually I had no interest in sex ever, whenever he did it I felt it like being used or something very bad feelings about myself, not sure why I am like this, not sure why I always thought that way and never ever enjoyed this. When our daughter was almost 8-9 months old my DH tried to engage one day but that I was in very bad mood and also coupled with my overall disinterest I scolded him when he tried to force it to me and said few very distasteful words, as always he simply went away and I slept. It has been over 3 years to that incident. Things have changed a lot in these many years, my dad expired few months ago and since then I have been feeling little bit insecure. My brother married so I don’t have that much talk to him these days, on top of that I hear my mother crying that he and his wife are not treating her that well as before and all these kinds of typical Indian family things.
I have been very stressed out in recent months and I even visited a doctor at my own, the doctor enquired about my sex life and she was shocked when I told her what it was like. She told me regular sex between a couple is the best stress buster as it not only makes you feel lighter and happy but improves relationship, more open communication leading to less stressed life. When I came home I tried to seduce my DH to follow what she said, but to my utter surprise, my DH told me he no longer considers me his wife, so sex is out of his mind completely, but as a partner and his only focus is to bring up child in a clean environment and we should continue to live the way we have been living (without sex) and there is no problem. He also told me from his side I have all freedom to explore outside relationship in any way I desire, he will have no objection and he also expect that I don’t interfere in his private life and as always he stepped outside. I am speechless at my situation. Absolutely blank in terms of ideas what I should be doing next. Please be open and share your views, I may find some light in your views and thanks for reading.
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kovvu patti kottukunte ilaage edusthaayi jeevithaalu...akkada janaalu visa status emauthunda ani sasthaavunte... anni vundi roogama neeku... ippatiki minhipooyindi emi ledu... tanani koorchopetti, i changed my mind ani cheppi..show that u r interested genuinely to have a better life... all the best

[sitaraZahir]

[quote name='jaffatingboy' timestamp='1378507272' post='1304215770']
Me and my DH are married for over 8 years now and we have 4 year old daughter. There is no problem as we both work and focus on bringing up the kid and we both love her. We go on vacations but with the child at mind only and there is nothing wrong really except me and my DH don’t talk much other than the kid related stuff, we even go to friend houses, invite people home and it all looks fine to people and they call us great couple. Let me confess that I have been too much close to my parents and never took the marriage very seriously, I had these thoughts that I can anytime go back to my loving dad, mom and brother and I don’t care if this marriage work or not so my attitude right from beginning was uncompromising on all issues. My parents too always encouraged me to be bold and know my rights, saying I was educated etc etc. My good paying job was also a factor in my confidence, in fact there was a time I was earning far more than my DH although he has progressed much more than me now. My DH does not talk much and he does not talk harsh things either. On all these years whenever we had an altercation he would simply back off and remain quite or go outside while I would shout and shout and you know when you angry many times you end up saying things that you repent later, so I have said several things that would have insulted her (I admit). I have been visiting my parents regularly in these years and spend good time with them at my own decision, I never tried to maintain any touch with his side of people. Coming back to the problem now, me and my DH has not had sex for over 5 years now, last we had was perhaps when my daughter was conceived. But overall after marriage we did not had much sex, first of all during honeymoon too I did not allow him to penetrate as I was too scared and I would simply start shouting and saying no every time he tried. Than we had sex like once in 3 months and it kept on going low and low as every time he wanted I would say no somehow. He was not interested in kids either but upon constant query from my mother (who stated consulting astrologers for our kid) I literally forced him for sex and we had good sex for almost a month, but nothing since then. Actually I had no interest in sex ever, whenever he did it I felt it like being used or something very bad feelings about myself, not sure why I am like this, not sure why I always thought that way and never ever enjoyed this. When our daughter was almost 8-9 months old my DH tried to engage one day but that I was in very bad mood and also coupled with my overall disinterest I scolded him when he tried to force it to me and said few very distasteful words, as always he simply went away and I slept. It has been over 3 years to that incident. Things have changed a lot in these many years, my dad expired few months ago and since then I have been feeling little bit insecure. My brother married so I don’t have that much talk to him these days, on top of that I hear my mother crying that he and his wife are not treating her that well as before and all these kinds of typical Indian family things.
I have been very stressed out in recent months and I even visited a doctor at my own, the doctor enquired about my sex life and she was shocked when I told her what it was like. She told me regular sex between a couple is the best stress buster as it not only makes you feel lighter and happy but improves relationship, more open communication leading to less stressed life. When I came home I tried to seduce my DH to follow what she said, but to my utter surprise, my DH told me he no longer considers me his wife, so sex is out of his mind completely, but as a partner and his only focus is to bring up child in a clean environment and we should continue to live the way we have been living (without sex) and there is no problem. He also told me from his side I have all freedom to explore outside relationship in any way I desire, he will have no objection and he also expect that I don’t interfere in his private life and as always he stepped outside. I am speechless at my situation. Absolutely blank in terms of ideas what I should be doing next. Please be open and share your views, I may find some light in your views and thanks for reading.
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meeku marriage value love value theleenattu vundhi...
the fact that u r earning doesn't mean that u r great or better than anybody...

own family ni ee ammayi vadhalakudadhu ala ani husband ni secondary anukunte ilane avuthundhi... mee motham relation lo meeku edhi kavali adhe chesaru.. mee husband ki em kavali thelsukoledhu.. there is no love at all in the first place from ur side...
adjusting nature chala avasaram n meeru chala swardham ga masalaru..

coming to the sex part.. he is your husband .. antha rude ga respond aithe evarikana Kopam vasthundhi..
actually I pity him over the years mimalni oka maata kuda anakunda he came to terms with his life n love n started living for his daughter..

first meeru maarandi n show that that u have changed to him n fight till u get his confidence n give. him love that u didn't give all these years..

[puli raaja]

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[Nellore Pedda reddy]

Chesukunna vallaki chesukunnantha

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one more story proving that marriage is not for everybody .. ..

[puli raaja]

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one more story proving that marriage is not for everybody .. ..
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[SwamyRaRa]

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pelli antey bayamesthundhi..elanti vaalu thagilithey anthey eka

[sigsegv]

[quote name='SwamyRaRa' timestamp='1378515430' post='1304216135']
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pelli antey bayamesthundhi..elanti vaalu thagilithey anthey eka
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pelli neeku avasarama kaada ani kooda aloochinchu ... peddollu chepparu kada anadharu chesukuntunaaru kada ani chesukovatam vaala ilantivi jaruguthaayi ..