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paste it man.. paste it.. 

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After 6 months ,unfortunately my FIL passed away and we(myself,husband,SIL and her husband) had to head back to India immediately for the final rites.After a few days of the funeral rites,my SIL and her husband left back to US as her husband was diagnosed with some ulcer.After 3 weeks ,even my husband left back to US.I was staying with my MIL,BIL and co-sister.Even during our marriage, my co-sister was not on good terms with my in-laws and did not even engage herself with us during the marriage and immediately after marriage she went to her mothers house while her husband,i.e., my BIL was with his parents for nearly 5-6 months.Basically my MIL and Co-sister weren't on good terms but once this incident happened,she came to in-laws house and started to act as if everything had happened because of her was acting regret before everyone.She was nice with me anyways,and we used to do the household work together,sharing the work.I blindly believed that she was a nice sister and used to share whatever i felt.But she was telling against me to my MIL,and i came to know only after my husband told me.She was a totally manupulative lady.

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wonderfull akka akkaa antu. bokka pettesindhi...

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After 6 months ,unfortunately my FIL passed away and we(myself,husband,SIL and her husband) had to head back to India immediately for the final rites.After a few days of the funeral rites,my SIL and her husband left back to US as her husband was diagnosed with some ulcer.After 3 weeks ,even my husband left back to US.I was staying with my MIL,BIL and co-sister.Even during our marriage, my co-sister was not on good terms with my in-laws and did not even engage herself with us during the marriage and immediately after marriage she went to her mothers house while her husband,i.e., my BIL was with his parents for nearly 5-6 months.Basically my MIL and Co-sister weren't on good terms but once this incident happened,she came to in-laws house and started to act as if everything had happened because of her was acting regret before everyone.She was nice with me anyways,and we used to do the household work together,sharing the work.I blindly believed that she was a nice sister and used to share whatever i felt.But she was telling against me to my MIL,and i came to know only after my husband told me.She was a totally manupulative lady.


An incident took place before my husband left to US. Before my husband was leaving to US,my father had come home to see him and me and while leaving he asked my MIL to send me home.And i said i can go all by myself without anyone accompanying me.Later once my father left,she shouted at me saying before saying anything to your father you should have asked me or atleast told them that if my MIL sends then only i can come.But you have decided on your own without consulting me.I thought it was a mistake and didnot say a word.Later when i asked them that i would go to my home,she said unless someone comes and takes me,they will not send me alone by myself.So this issue went on for a week,but yet they didnot send me.I got so upset that i stopped eating food properly,not talk to anyone etc.As usual,they thought it was my attitude and called me a conversation.They started to say things like now that you are married,you should not bother about your parents anymore and that ur family is everything for you.That i should not go against my in-laws and see that their respec never goes down anywhere,even before your parents.I just listened but insisted that i want to go and see my parents and relatives.So i talked about this to my husband and he was also so adamant and strong with his mothers and brothers decision that he said if i want to go, then i need not come back to him or his family.And so the conversation became so hot between us that we shouted at each other adn in that rage and fit of anger,i slapped him.Yes,i agree i should not have done that ,but i was in the fear that for this simple matter,he was ready to leave me all together by listening to his mother.So with that incident,the problem between me and my husband started.Later he left without allowing me to go to my home.So i stayed back and even after he left i did not ask my MIL or BIL about going home.But at the same time i was so down inside that i couldnt go home.Once he left,things started to turn for the worst.My MIL would start to insult me for every single matter,saying i do not know anything,how to do any work properly,that i should see and learn from my co-sister.She would always say that my aprents do not know any traditions and would bring all the bad things my parents did for them during marriage.Even after the days work,if i used to take a nap,she would yell at me.I basically had stomach pain problem even before marriage,but even then she would start screaming at me. She even would not allow me to talk to my parents on phone.Even if my parents,relatives or friends would call me and i talked to them,later she would say sarcastically that i am always on phone with someone or the other.But i used to think,when she can talk to her daughter and sons for hours together on phone ,why cant i talk to my family,and never questioned the same.Slowly i was on my own terms without talking much to anyone and she thought that i was again showing my attitude and reversely she started to show her attitude to me.She stopped and everyone else followed.So i was alone and used to cry by myself.Even if my husband used to call,he would talk to her for hours but just a few minutes with me.I knew she was carrying every bit of news from here to him and even i started to tell him about his mother and her attitude towards.But he would not support me at all,instead he would just ask me to keep quite and bear until i am back to US.


And finally before 3-4 days of my travel to US,my mother did come to take me home as they knew my MIL would not send me and while leaving their house she warned me saying if i donot behave properly, i would have to pay for my life and that my life would become miserable.Once i left , my co-sister started to tell everything against me to my MIL and she inturn told my husband.And from then on even before going to US, my husband was warning me that if i donot change my behavior, then i need not come to US,instead learn from my parents how to beahve and then come.So we had severe arguments on the same on phone and finally i reached US. From them on,things started to become worse and even my attitude had become so much that i could not bear the fact that i wasnt treated properly by him,leave alone his MIL and SIL.From the day i landed, i could see that he had changed and was least bothered about me.So i already having short temper,became even more sadistic kind and used to hurt myself for his negligence and odd behavior.I would band my head against the walls, would start screaming at him,would not eat for days together.With that going on between us, i did not visit my SIL and her husband who had undergone an operation for the ulcer.I visited her only after 3-4 days and ic ould see that she was very angry with me and did not resond properly to me at all.But suprisingly she was good to everyone.Even if i tried speaking to her,she would not heed a word to me.I understood that it was all my fault for not seeing her immediately.So i kept quite and tried talking to her on phone,tried visiting her again a few times,tried reaching her many times but there was no response at all.Even if i went to her house,she would literally avoid me purposefully and do her own work.This went on for 2-3 weeks.She would call my husband but not answer or call back my calls.So i clearly understood she has started avoiding me.I told all this to my husband,but he would just say that she was busy taking care of her husband and nothing that she is avoiding me.But my question was-When she calls my husband,does she not notice the missed calls from me and reply atleast once?so even is started to stop going to her house,with the view that when i am not given the minimum respect,why should i go and beg them to talk to me.Slowly i compleletly stopped any contact with them,but my husband without any difference for him used to go and meet them.

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wonderfull akka akkaa antu. bokka pettesindhi...

u mean akka is our snow aunty ?

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After 6 months ,unfortunately my FIL passed away and we(myself,husband,SIL and her husband) had to head back to India immediately for the final rites.After a few days of the funeral rites,my SIL and her husband left back to US as her husband was diagnosed with some ulcer.After 3 weeks ,even my husband left back to US.I was staying with my MIL,BIL and co-sister.Even during our marriage, my co-sister was not on good terms with my in-laws and did not even engage herself with us during the marriage and immediately after marriage she went to her mothers house while her husband,i.e., my BIL was with his parents for nearly 5-6 months.Basically my MIL and Co-sister weren't on good terms but once this incident happened,she came to in-laws house and started to act as if everything had happened because of her was acting regret before everyone.She was nice with me anyways,and we used to do the household work together,sharing the work.I blindly believed that she was a nice sister and used to share whatever i felt.But she was telling against me to my MIL,and i came to know only after my husband told me.She was a totally manupulative lady.


Née TV serial director brain ni 10go okka post la esi saavochu g ankul
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After 6 months ,unfortunately my FIL passed away and we(myself,husband,SIL and her husband) had to head back to India immediately for the final rites.After a few days of the funeral rites,my SIL and her husband left back to US as her husband was diagnosed with some ulcer.After 3 weeks ,even my husband left back to US.I was staying with my MIL,BIL and co-sister.Even during our marriage, my co-sister was not on good terms with my in-laws and did not even engage herself with us during the marriage and immediately after marriage she went to her mothers house while her husband,i.e., my BIL was with his parents for nearly 5-6 months.Basically my MIL and Co-sister weren't on good terms but once this incident happened,she came to in-laws house and started to act as if everything had happened because of her was acting regret before everyone.She was nice with me anyways,and we used to do the household work together,sharing the work.I blindly believed that she was a nice sister and used to share whatever i felt.But she was telling against me to my MIL,and i came to know only after my husband told me.She was a totally manupulative lady.


An incident took place before my husband left to US. Before my husband was leaving to US,my father had come home to see him and me and while leaving he asked my MIL to send me home.And i said i can go all by myself without anyone accompanying me.Later once my father left,she shouted at me saying before saying anything to your father you should have asked me or atleast told them that if my MIL sends then only i can come.But you have decided on your own without consulting me.I thought it was a mistake and didnot say a word.Later when i asked them that i would go to my home,she said unless someone comes and takes me,they will not send me alone by myself.So this issue went on for a week,but yet they didnot send me.I got so upset that i stopped eating food properly,not talk to anyone etc.As usual,they thought it was my attitude and called me a conversation.They started to say things like now that you are married,you should not bother about your parents anymore and that ur family is everything for you.That i should not go against my in-laws and see that their respec never goes down anywhere,even before your parents.I just listened but insisted that i want to go and see my parents and relatives.So i talked about this to my husband and he was also so adamant and strong with his mothers and brothers decision that he said if i want to go, then i need not come back to him or his family.And so the conversation became so hot between us that we shouted at each other adn in that rage and fit of anger,i slapped him.Yes,i agree i should not have done that ,but i was in the fear that for this simple matter,he was ready to leave me all together by listening to his mother.So with that incident,the problem between me and my husband started.Later he left without allowing me to go to my home.So i stayed back and even after he left i did not ask my MIL or BIL about going home.But at the same time i was so down inside that i couldnt go home.Once he left,things started to turn for the worst.My MIL would start to insult me for every single matter,saying i do not know anything,how to do any work properly,that i should see and learn from my co-sister.She would always say that my aprents do not know any traditions and would bring all the bad things my parents did for them during marriage.Even after the days work,if i used to take a nap,she would yell at me.I basically had stomach pain problem even before marriage,but even then she would start screaming at me. She even would not allow me to talk to my parents on phone.Even if my parents,relatives or friends would call me and i talked to them,later she would say sarcastically that i am always on phone with someone or the other.But i used to think,when she can talk to her daughter and sons for hours together on phone ,why cant i talk to my family,and never questioned the same.Slowly i was on my own terms without talking much to anyone and she thought that i was again showing my attitude and reversely she started to show her attitude to me.She stopped and everyone else followed.So i was alone and used to cry by myself.Even if my husband used to call,he would talk to her for hours but just a few minutes with me.I knew she was carrying every bit of news from here to him and even i started to tell him about his mother and her attitude towards.But he would not support me at all,instead he would just ask me to keep quite and bear until i am back to US.


And finally before 3-4 days of my travel to US,my mother did come to take me home as they knew my MIL would not send me and while leaving their house she warned me saying if i donot behave properly, i would have to pay for my life and that my life would become miserable.Once i left , my co-sister started to tell everything against me to my MIL and she inturn told my husband.And from then on even before going to US, my husband was warning me that if i donot change my behavior, then i need not come to US,instead learn from my parents how to beahve and then come.So we had severe arguments on the same on phone and finally i reached US. From them on,things started to become worse and even my attitude had become so much that i could not bear the fact that i wasnt treated properly by him,leave alone his MIL and SIL.From the day i landed, i could see that he had changed and was least bothered about me.So i already having short temper,became even more sadistic kind and used to hurt myself for his negligence and odd behavior.I would band my head against the walls, would start screaming at him,would not eat for days together.With that going on between us, i did not visit my SIL and her husband who had undergone an operation for the ulcer.I visited her only after 3-4 days and ic ould see that she was very angry with me and did not resond properly to me at all.But suprisingly she was good to everyone.Even if i tried speaking to her,she would not heed a word to me.I understood that it was all my fault for not seeing her immediately.So i kept quite and tried talking to her on phone,tried visiting her again a few times,tried reaching her many times but there was no response at all.Even if i went to her house,she would literally avoid me purposefully and do her own work.This went on for 2-3 weeks.She would call my husband but not answer or call back my calls.So i clearly understood she has started avoiding me.I told all this to my husband,but he would just say that she was busy taking care of her husband and nothing that she is avoiding me.But my question was-When she calls my husband,does she not notice the missed calls from me and reply atleast once?so even is started to stop going to her house,with the view that when i am not given the minimum respect,why should i go and beg them to talk to me.Slowly i compleletly stopped any contact with them,but my husband without any difference for him used to go and meet them.

oh my mad....... y u posting full estory man.... 

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Née TV serial director brain ni 10go okka post la esi saavochu g ankul

yes man.. ppl need that tension..........ippudu soodu evvadu sadvadu antha pedda post

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u mean akka is our snow aunty ?


Man .. Don't call her akka maan.. She will kill you man.. Didn't you watch yesterday snow aunty new movie look launch video??
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Man .. Don't call her akka maan.. She will kill you man.. Didn't you watch yesterday snow aunty new movie look launch video??

yes man... but she is akka man ..........thats it ......thats it

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yes man.. ppl need that tension..........ippudu soodu evvadu sadvadu antha pedda post


Nuvvu part lu part lu ga Esina full ga Esina sadhiventha interesting topic ledhankul andhulo
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Nuvvu part lu part lu ga Esina full ga Esina sadhiventha interesting topic ledhankul andhulo

avuna........anthey ley....nenu sadivi esthey kada...... i too dont read these estories man

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Sorry for a long and elaborate story,but this is the final one...
 
 
This went on aand even my husband was totally supporting them inspite of showing him the faults of his sister. again one day, my husband took half day at work for 
 
 
driving his sister and her family to an award ceremony to another place leaving me behind.and that evening he had invited few guests home,and as the time was nearing 
 
 
he did not even bother to call me and inform me whther he was coming at the appointed time or not.And with just 20 mins to the set time,i had no signs from him that he 
 
 
would come,so i just left home and went to the nearby park for a walk.And returned after an hour or so.By the time i returned, i saw that his sister and BIL were home 
 
 
searching for me everywhere and they ask me where i have disappeared.I told them i did not disappear,but went for a walk to the park.They then tell me how scared they 
 
 
were and they even had the plan to call and inform the police.I told them i am not a kid to just go away without letting anyone know.And then they left home leaving 
 
 
us.Then my husband starts to blame me for not informing him and going.Later when things became even more worst between me and his SIL, i would cry like hell for hours 
 
 
together by myself and bring it out on my husband.Moreover my husband was like,after he comes home,has his snacks and tea and leaves immediately to his sisters house 
 
 
and come back home only at around 10 or 11 in the night.While he would be there, he would not even bother to call me and ask whether i needed something or ate at 
 
 
all.Only while heading back he would call to tell me he was coming home.Thi happened every alternate day and i could not tolerate it any longer and started to get 
 
 
angry on him and slowly into arguments and verbal abuse.He did not change a bit even then. Laet another day since my SIL's SIL came from another place, i thought it 
 
 
would be better to go and see her.So before going i told my husband before hand that i would not eat anything at their house at any cost,and he before hand informed 
 
 
his BIL that we were coming home,but not about the food. So we went and the same attitude continued from my SIL,and i was alone while everyone else was talking to each 
 
 
other.While it was time for dinner, her SIL and MIL asked me to have but as decided before i told them i was not hungry and even my husband knowing that i wont eat, he 
 
 
asked me.i told him i wouldn't. Later again my SIL's mother and SIL asked,and my answer was the same.So later my SIL came and started to shout at me for no reason in 
 
 
front of her neice,MIL and SIL that i always donot listen to anyone and i am adamant and left.My husband was not aware of all this as he was busy upstairs with his BIL 
 
 
and their kids.So once we reached back home, i could not control myself and cried for hours the whole night and he was so unaffected by all this that he slept off 
 
 
without even noticing what was going on.Apart from the insult i had from him sister, i fel even more bad for his behavior who was just hourtless and did not even care 
 
 
to ask as to what had happened.Later in the middle of the night,he comes and asks me why i am crying and then i got hysteric that i started to hit him,cry and shout at 
 
 
him.Sometimes the words that would come out in anger were so rude that i would blame his mother,sister and inturn he would too abuse my parents.
 
 
Such incidents were going on every day in our house and i became so mad that i started to become physically violent with myself,bang my head against the wall,try to 
 
 
hurt myself by drinking detergent liquids,cut my fingers with knife.I was in the dilemma that no one really cared for me,bothered about me or i was just being used as 
 
 
a servant.As days passed,it became even more worst that during nights everyday i wouldnt sleep and cry all the time ,would leave home at night and walk off to nowhere 
 
 
without telling him and stuff.I used to behave like mad,hit him with watevr i could find near,hit myself and literally created hell for him that one day he called the 
 
 
police and informed that i was being physically voilent .The cops said that they would arrest me but we came to a conclusion that me husband would not stay with me for 
 
 
the night at home but else where.So that was another major incident.This i did not inform my parents nor anyone,and did not allow my husband also as already there are 
 
 
enough problems for the.But he used to call my mother and aunt and tell them that i was being so adamant and behaving so weirdly.They would call me and tell me to not 
 
 
do all that and be careful.However,this abuse,both physical,verbal and emotional went for until one day it became such that during one of the fights my husband hit me 
 
 
on my back with his legs and suddenly i could not even move a part of my body.I struggled the whole night and even then nothing improved in my situation. I thought 
 
 
that was the end of my life,but fortunately after my husband took me to the emergency, i was diagnosed that it was a muscle sprain near the ribs and had to be on bed 
 
 
rest for nearly 20 days without moving at all.He took care of me for the weekend and was again back to work. I even did not mind him going because he also had work 
 
 
pressure.But even at that time,i did not inform my parents nor his but just told them that i fell down from the ladder and was hurt.Many such incidents happened where 
 
 
in i would loose my control so easily , that is he would trigger the events it so simply and unknowingly that he would inturn blame me for being so rude and abusive.So 
 
 
this went on and even our 1st anniversary was the same, with fights and arguments.Laer with either of us really interested to go for vacation, we had to since we had 
 
 
already booked the accomodations and stuff. So it was just like a formal trip and nothing more.In between the most important point to mention is that one day while i 
 
 
was going throught the expenses, i couldnot access the software because he had changed the password and did not inform me about the same.So later when i asked him , he 
 
 
said simply he had changed.But after a day or two,he slowly told me that he had transferred an amount of nearly 12lacs to his sisters account.Even then i did not angry 
 
 
as he said the reason was he had to repay his sisters amount as they took the loan for his MS in US.Onfact i even told him to repy even the balance amount they had 
 
 
paid all these year for the interest as well.Also slowly he started to change his passwords for all the mails,utilities,etc.And when i ask him he would say its his 
 
 
personal so i need not ask him about that.Also during one of these fights i asked him about his affair before marriage and he accepted that he had.So thinking that i 
 
 
should not hide nay thing about my past, i told him about my affairs and my situation in which i had married him.Also i told him about my painful childhood.Even after 
 
 
hearing,he just told me that every one would have affair before marriage,but if that continues after marriage only the problem would arise.After that not even a single 
 
 
time did we have to discuss about this except when we used to fight.
 
 
Then my mother came to US for my sisters delivery and they called me and my husband for her baby shower.I had planned on going to see her after her delivery and stay 
 
 
with them for a month or so,but my husband forcefully took me to her place and we drove literally 10-15 hrs to their place.After the baby shower,he left me at her 
 
 
house and went away immediately as he had to report at another location.I asked him to book the return flight for me but he managed to brush it aside.Later after two 
 
 
days, we received a parcel and to our shock,i was served with the divorce papers.Notice that the date on the divorce papers was the date on which we started to our 
 
 
sisters house. When we received, we (me,my sister and BIL) tried calling hi,his sister and BIL was no one responded to our calls.But finally at the EOD,he answers my 
 
 
BIL call and says that he had made his decision, and he had planned it for three months and nothing can be done.Also he said not to involve his family members.Later 
 
 
when my mom calls his mother,she says even she does not know and since we are not kids, they can deal with it by themselves and she just says that i did not treat her 
 
 
daughter properly.After that for nearly 2-3 months relatives from both sides had talks on this and even i confessed that it was my mistake as well and all that 
 
 
happened because of his sister and her constant interference between us.And when she was asked about this is , she says that i did not even go to her house.I tried 
 
 
every possible way but he did not change his decision.I stayed back at my sisters place as they were scared of me being alone in my house if i go back .Finaly even 
 
 
before my mom was leaving US,me and my mom went to our place and tried talking with him,his sister and mother who came to US by then.But before hand he knew that we 
 
 
were coming and took all his belongings from the house and shifted to his sisters place.I was not earning in US, so with little money we had with us, we went to their 
 
 
house but they did not allow us to even talk a word but rather slammed the door on our face.We were like beggars literally in front of their house.We tried ringing the 
 
 
bell number of times but of no use.We tried to make an arrangement to talk to them through our lawyer but even then they did not agree.As the post would go longer, i 
 
 
would like to summarize here the last part as - My mother left to India,I stayed back at my sisters place and the divorce has been given in USA,but not legally in 
 
 
India.Cases have been filed against my husband,MIL and SIL for 498a and maintenance cases by my father,but nothing really is moving forward.My husband is in no more 
 
 
contact with us,his mother is also in US and not yet returned.Moreover my husbands BIL passed away last september.I am back in India while he is there in US. 
 
 
All i know is that its both his and my mistake majorly for this to happen.Even i have not been given a chance to talk this out with anyone and no one is even ready to 
 
 
help me to patch up with him.Instead they are happy that i left him and as here i am going through mental torture,i sometimes feel like comminting suicide.Even parents 
 
 
are not understanding me and support me in this situation,instead my father keeps saying about my past affairs and now blames me for coming away from my husband.And now,they are already searching for alliances and not bothered to ask me about my opinion in this as well.My only point here is when i have him in m heart, how can i marry someone else and spoil their life too.
 
 
Please suggest me as to how to make things work to patch up with him.I donot find anyway to contact him,since he stopped responding to my emails or calls.Kindly suggest as how to proceed.Thanks for bearing with my long long post
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Showing too much love is also bad aaa che denama... amilaku edinaa problem ey ..

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