Estory - 6. Fafa Adagathandi Vayya ........ Can You Help Me Pls ?

[JANASENA]

Ladies,

This forum is so dear to me always.I need a advice from you all.I am not sure if I am jealous or something.

My In-laws(MIL/SIL and FIL is silent spectator) never liked me for whatever reasons and since DH loved me,they had to accept for our marriage)..My SIL and MIL gave me a horrible emotional torture,including brainwashing my DH against me,didnt even spare me during my pregnancy time,like not giving proper food time after my delivery when MIL is here to take care of me etc.

Because of these,me and DH had horrible fights,considered divorce and decided to go on for the sake of kids.

Leaving the in-laws thing aside,my DH is a great dad and sometimes good to me as well(if he does not talk to in-laws for few days,btw he calls them every day,so..majority
time he gives me silent treatment etc).But I started to ignore all his tantrums and my in-laws tantrums and move on and talk to him as if nothing happened,for the sake my own
happiness and kids happiness,as many people suggested for these types of problems,,I focus on myself and improved myself and hobbies etc.

DH also recognizes that.We came to a conclusion that,without this in-laws business,we are ok and manageable to a good extent without fights.This is the main reason I am still in this relation.

With MIL/FIL,i maintain very formal relation and with SIL,its just hi types.For all the trouble she and MIL gave me,I cant even stand them.My BP raises when I talk to them,
especially SIL. Again,I started doing Yoga and all to keep myself happy.My DH also realized that I dont feel comfortable talking to in-laws anymore,so he stopped talking to my parents and brothers(he thinks no matter how bad in-laws are,but they gave birth to him,so..we have to adjust..But he does not remember any emotional turmoil I had to go through because of the in-laws and DH during my pregnancy).Though I try to forgive them,but somehow I am not able to.Thats why I limited my talks and I didnt create much fuss about my DH not talking much to my family as well.I told him,leave all the parents and in-laws business for sometime,lets us and kids be happy
and give kids happy environment and other things,we can see later.He is also ok with it.

But the issue is,My SIL keeps calling my DH almost every day(if not whatsapp/Text etc) to tell how their day is,what they bought etc and DH anyway talks to his mom(my MIL)
every day for for 30mts or so.I dont have any problem talking to in-laws,as they are their parents.But I am not able to take it,when he talks to his sis every day(even after her marriage).
Getting into every inch of their house stuff,like she tells him what TV they bought or what their weekend plan is,or how they enjoyed their day etc.

I dont no if i am feeling insecure here,but first thing is,I am not able to take it.Its not that I dont want her to be happy.But its just that,they caused me so much problems
in my life,and I am still having issues to sort out things with my DH and on other hand,they behave as if nothing happened and enjoy their life.

And DH also talks to them as if nothing happened,though he agrees that they made my life horrible with all their insecurities,jealousy etc.But just that he does not care about my feelings. I am trying to ignore all these,but something still bothers me and everytime
I see her email or call to my husband,I get so tensed..Many times I have seen in the past that,My DH does care,if just us are there,but anyone from his family is around,
he does not know that I exist..Not sure I am insecure or jealous of her or something.

Please help me.But like I said,Its not that I want bad to happen to her,but its just that,when I meet people like this,I try to avoid them and move away,so that we can both be happy.
But in this case,Its my SIL..so...cant avoid her completely..that to with DH being a typical Mommy boy.

Can you help me how to get out of these thoughts...

Thanks.

[kiran000]

Simple: If he is being a good dad, good son, good brother & good husband(i guess from, from how u described) - Start appreciating how good is he in maintaining relationships.

 

I think he needs a lot of appreciation for sparing time to all of you guys. 

Stop feeling insecure and start appreciating for all tht he is going through - Trust me you will see the difference.

 

Any man leans towards the one who is understand, appreciate n encourage - Start doing that, rest of the world will become secondary eventually...

[ravula]

[mustang302]

antae ippudu pellam tho gud undali...family lo migatha vallatho cut chaesukovali annamaata...!!

[pythonic]

Simple: If he is being a good dad, good son, good brother & good husband(i guess from, from how u described) - Start appreciating how good is he in maintaining relationships.

 

I think he needs a lot of appreciation for sparing time to all of you guys. 

Stop feeling insecure and start appreciating for all tht he is going through - Trust me you will see the difference.

 

Any man leans towards the one who is understand, appreciate n encourage - Start doing that, rest of the world will become secondary eventually...

 

Bhayya nuvvu cheppindi chaduvithe...TV lo elanti question or *** vinni answer chestaru chudu exact ala undi...neeku manchi talent undi 

[pythonic]

antae ippudu pellam tho gud undali...family lo migatha vallatho cut chaesukovali annamaata...!!

 

Ninnati problem edhe lines lo undhi....so girls want full focus no side looks annamata