solman Posted June 23, 2014 Report Posted June 23, 2014 Mine is v.different situation. Ours is second marriage. Unfortunately I took divorce within a month as ex-husband was impotent and after 6 years of gap I married to my present husband who was having two sons from his prvious wife. I was so fed up of searching unmarried groom for me as socially its very difficult to tell people that it was not my fault , i was pure and to whom i married was importent and later after 6 years , I thought to married my present husband as when i saw him he was smart, good looking, rich but with baggage of two sons ( who were living with their mother in india).He has good business , well settled, prosperous, but for me he was different, He never care as husbands use to do, His nature is to be independent , not to share anything, aloof, egoist, not understanding, little miser for me when it comes to me he not spend freely sometime still he use to tell you are also earning spend your money for yourself, physical relation is not good with intimacy and loveless as I can feel that and now its almost stopped as we dont have any love feelings and excitment too with each other. I also faced conceiving problems did IVF but his treatment was neutral so I also took less interest and leave on God.Now third phase is that his kids are growing up one is 16 years and 12 years and and the younger son he wants to bring here with us for permanent and till now I was childless and doing job, enjoying my freedom and joining some hobbies and outgoing only this independnt and freedom is my happiness in my hand but I don't want to take any responsibility of his son and he also mention that elder one will also join his bussinss so offcourse they both will live us one time. I don't have my own till now and I canonot handle both his kids reponsibilites as its not easy job and I am not feeling good and secure as I know the realitiy is that how much i do for them they will not treat me as their mother as they have already their mother in India. I want to mention till now his kids are good in nature, when they come on visit visa for a month, but one month also seems one year for me as I have to do much for them. I never show what I am feeling inside but as they are yet kids and on visit so I am handling all things nicely as i know its temporarily and they will go but for permanent life time I cannot handle and cannot be nice outward and inside I am restless.Please tell me what should i do , I told him already I don't want to take responsibilty let them be there but my husband say i want them good and rich life here, good studies and you don't do anything I will do whole work but what just he is saying but practiacally it is not possible for him, later on I have to suffer, they will get good life then what about me , we also don't have great relations and we are living loveless, as roommates with point to point converstation and without fight , its adjusment of life for social status. I am thinking to live separate myself, but why this step seems again difficult.. Pls. suggest me what should I do, either i live with them full life and forget myself or i live my life own and take big step to live myself.
psycopk Posted June 23, 2014 Report Posted June 23, 2014 extra freedom ichi cheda dobadu uncle.. nuvvu elagu jumping ki fix aaiyav kada.. inka late enduku usko..
solman Posted June 25, 2014 Author Report Posted June 25, 2014 extra freedom ichi cheda dobadu uncle.. nuvvu elagu jumping ki fix aaiyav kada.. inka late enduku usko..
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