Aunty Estory - After 4 Years In To Marriage

[JANASENA]

I hope by reading, all you could have understand what is running in my mind now........

Sorry Ladies, its deep in my heart from last 3-4 days and couldnt concentrate anything...I need to vent it down here. This is the only place where I can pour out all my feelings out and get a good suggestions from all of you...

From previous threads, some of you might know very well about my in-laws. I never seen such mean and cheap level ppl in my life...I am not elaborating on them as the sense of this thread goes away if I start talking about them....In just one word, They just dont deserve ME, my family....They are very low class, cheap and mean ppl whom i never seen till now. To say , I never know such class of ppl before marriage...

Now my major heart break is not just by them, but with my so called Husband.......Somehow with past sequence of incidents, deep in my heart i lost all love and feelings for him...

I really now wonder how innocent or navie I am while choosing this marraige proposal 4 years back. I dont know why I selected this person and family my self. Now I feel all MISTAKE is MINE not anyone else. I spoiled my life myself with my own hands. When this marriage proposal came up, my parents called them up with out my approval, but they never forced me to accept. I was so foolish or stupid to say that I accepted myself. Now when I look back, I dont understand how and why I said YES to this family and person. There is no 1 reason to select him or his family....Why I was so foolish and stupid??? why I couldnt use my brain to think about it???......I did a big mistake in my Life by saying YES to this alliance....

Now when I sit and just think about it.......I feel no valid point to select this person. To-say, I came from very good reputed family background and very good educated family. Both my Mom and Dad are very well educated. My Dad was in very good position in Govt sector....Both my Mom's side and dad's side family are from very good background. And I am well educated and was in IT before marriage itself. I am not saying to showcase here, but as a point I am mentioning all these things. I look very pretty as well...........There were many good alliances which came up for me, but due to some Kundali mis-matching we didnt go for them...Then came this alliance...But I was dumd or stupid enough to accept this....I dont know why i didnt think about all below points...

- My H is not very well educated like me.
- He is not from good family...I mean their family background is also not very good.
- They are all not educated ppl. My FIL is not educated. My MIL did only 10th I believe, but she behaves more like a labour class.I feel labour class ppl behave more better than her.
- My H doesnt look very good. He is average in Looks.
- They had some property , thats all........they didnt have any good reputation in society. They will stay in a locality where very cheap ppl live in.

Now When I recollect all above points, there is no one point why I had selected him. They dont deserve me and my family.......I feel I deserve far better than these ppl in my life...I cant understand how easily I fell in to this Crap my self....I messed my life myself..........Now I just feel lost myself. I dont know how to come out of it and to avoid it??......I am so deeply trapped myself in to it.....Now its too late to come out of it...its too late for me to realize this.........If it would have ME alone, I strongly think to come out of it...because I cant stay in that suffocating environment...but I messed my life more, by bringing a little one in to this.......Now when I strongly think to take any firm decision, I feel very sad and bad about my DD... This is my wrong decision, why should I put my little one in to sufference becoz of my stupid decision...This is the only point where I am still sticking to this marraige...otherwise I dont feel any valid point to still stick to this ppl in my life...

Intially after marraige, with in 6 months I understood what reality is about my in-laws and how their mentality is. Now I feel atleast I should have taken any decision that time, but I was so innocent that time thinking that I should put much effort and patiance to get things normal in life instead of feeling as a Defeat, hence I took as a challange to change things in life. From past 3.5 years I am putting my max effort to make things work in my life, but no , it never worked. I am failing very badly. Now I am just pissed off, fed up to put any more efforts in this marriage.....My DH even though from past few months understanding what their parents are doing?? he goes through only temporary realization.......After few days( with in week time), he goes back to his normal form ( Momma's Boy). I dont understand how these few Men will be so dumb, blind enough to forget everything what their parents did very directly infront of them ( critizing, very badly insulting, using very foul language etc etc......and list goes on & on). How they will have this short term memory loss....??? They forget all the pain and sufferance their parents put us through in just week's time and go back very easily to Momma's Boy. I just hate my H for this reason.............And How can I expect him to be very decent and good person?? After all he is born and brought up in such environment with such mean and cheap ppl all through his 27 years...even though he is not bad like in-laws, but even he carries few such cheap and mean thought process..........I tried my best to change him for Good, but it just stays for some time and then he will be back to his phase...like a proverb in telugu( itseems how much effort u put to make Dog's tail straight, it wont...as soon as u leave the tail curls up again) same here..........

It's all my mistake , I selected a wrong person, wrong family for my self. How could I expect such mean ppl, cheap family to change to decent and good family like mine. They follow their level.....nothing wrong with them....All WRONG is mine, I choosed them...I could have selected a Guy from a good family, then all these problems would have not come up........................

What to do guys?? I dont know how to come out of these feelings?? Now and then I just feel bad about it........very often. Taking a firm decision to come out of this mess will be little difficult for me , with my DD...I just feel very sad, and tearns just roll off after seeing her...becoz I dont want her to go through any pain, suffarance becoz of my decision. And I really dont know how to continue living this life with such ppl whom I hate to my core through out my life...The feeling that I need to live with this through out my life...is like sucking alll my Blood...............

Sorry ladies, i know its very long post, indeed long vent....But I have no one to speak around...I have only u ppl...........Hope u understand...

[Johny]

yada sadhuvuthunnar gisonti laphoot lan*ala stories?? pelli chesukuni su*li fook la pettinchukunnappudu dhani kallala mo*da padindha?? after 4 yrs of fu&k she realized anta...wat a slu*...divorce theesukoni bayataki vasthe...divorced aunty ani vachhina prathi okkadu otthi kucchi pothadu...like a door mat!

[libertine]

endi din moddalo lolli

[krypton]

well sometimes things wont go our way in life , if you think this hard to get off him just divorce as there aint no other civilized option created atleast for our society.So take divorce and i dont think there are lot of ppl who think badly of divorced woman now a days as its quite common and you can choose a better person again as life is short to live with regrets

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

Proposal accept chesinappudu koncham think cheskuni undalsindi.....divorce

[donganaaK]

well sometimes things wont go our way in life , if you think this hard to get off him just divorce as there aint no other civilized option created atleast for our society.So take divorce and i dont think there are lot of ppl who think badly of divorced woman now a days as its quite common and you can choose a better person again as life is short to live with regrets

 

bhaiyya mana culture enti nuvvu maatlade maatalu enti  CITI_c$y

[puli_keka]

- My H is not very well educated like me.
- He is not from good family...I mean their family background is also not very good.
- They are all not educated ppl. My FIL is not educated. My MIL did only 10th I believe, but she behaves more like a labour class.I feel labour class ppl behave more better than her.
- My H doesnt look very good. He is average in Looks.
- They had some property , thats all........they didnt have any good reputation in society. They will stay in a locality where very cheap ppl live in.

Mari appudu kallallo Evadanna cum kottada why did you accept.. Edo plumber fitting unde vuntadhi adhi cheppatle fafa

[krypton]

bhaiyya mana culture enti nuvvu maatlade maatalu enti  CITI_c$y

 nara narallo culture imidipoyindi vaa nek

[krypton]

- My H is not very well educated like me.
- He is not from good family...I mean their family background is also not very good.
- They are all not educated ppl. My FIL is not educated. My MIL did only 10th I believe, but she behaves more like a labour class.I feel labour class ppl behave more better than her.
- My H doesnt look very good. He is average in Looks.
- They had some property , thats all........they didnt have any good reputation in society. They will stay in a locality where very cheap ppl live in.

Mari appudu kallallo Evadanna cum kottada why did you accept.. Edo plumber fitting unde vuntadhi adhi cheppatle fafa

 plumber certified antava uncle

[Mama77]

[puli_keka]

plumber certified antava uncle

Fafa vaadu bekaar aina cheskundi ante emanna certifications teeskundemo before marriage :D :P

[Mahesh_Fan]

ento idi anthaa

[AFDB_Director]

for people who post bad about that lady's character, think if a member of your family is in same problem and respond

[JANASENA]

Mana India lo ee okkasari pellichoopulu, pelliki mundu okati Leda rendu nellala concepts marali !!!! Endukantey ee kalam ammailu takkuvem kaadu and so as abbailu. Engagement ki Pelli ki madhya kanesam 6 months gap untey they can know better each other. Lekuntey ilage jaruguddi.

[sid_22]

chetulu kaalaka akkulu pattukunattu undi...... ee jagratha mundu undali aunty ki...... next story plz...