Kids Marriage Problems Bcz Parents Divorced

[jivvakoruchi_burrokobuddi]

lo wt kind of a bullshit logic is that .... ive seen people who have 2 setups outside of marriage gettin their daughters married in to nice families ...

setups -> how is much is it public. if its a low key,, only few close relatives know,, not a big deal... what chances bride or groom parents know before marriage is the key.

divorce -> its public,, whose community gossips about it Indian culture.

 

how much support does the bride or groom gets from relatives and community is also a big key.

some relatives vow for divorced children,,, they get married.

 

Basic element:

    if a couple fight,,, parents console them.

    if one gets married to groom ( child of divorced couple ) , bride parents have less room to convince the groom.

    its the same for bride of a divorced child.

 

See the western world.

Children of divorced parents getting divorced.... sometimes economical instability causing the ripple.... 

 

One should understand what makes one into marriage.

Mostly the want : sex...

but,, what need is compassion for each other.... who develop in marriage live happy for ever... who can't develop will have less happy and compromised life...

 

This is not only a reply to your quote,,, but a reply with a bigger picture message...

[donganaaK]

logical indian ki time vunte rojantha logic matladutadu..


Arranged marriages lo ammai kante mundhu valla family background chustaru..


If husband is alive and still cant make it in to the marrige.. ladies willstart natak there

 

wt u've said is right under regular circumstances .... but when a lot of money and power are involved all those equations change ...

[Ford_Abbai]

wt u've said is right under regular circumstances .... but when a lot of money and power are involved all those equations change ...

those relations start with money end with money


Katnam istunnarante egesukelle jaffa families gurinchi matladatm time waste..


Nenu matram katnam asinchanu.. so do my parents.. they want girl from descent middlexclass..

[Hyderabad_Nawab]

wt u've said is right under regular circumstances .... but when a lot of money and power are involved all those equations change ...

Agreed Bhayya...Kaani general ga ila alochinchina 90% Middles or Low class e kadha mana deggara - so Overall ga Pelli ki Prob ayitadhi ani tolding...Asalu jaragavi ani Kaadhu...;)

[kiladi bullodu]

No problem they will marry children of divorced parents that's it matter solved

[donganaaK]

setups -> how is much is it public. if its a low key,, only few close relatives know,, not a big deal... what chances bride or groom parents know before marriage is the key.

divorce -> its public,, whose community gossips about it Indian culture.

 

how much support does the bride or groom gets from relatives and community is also a big key.

some relatives vow for divorced children,,, they get married.

 

Basic element:

    if a couple fight,,, parents console them.

    if one gets married to groom ( child of divorced couple ) , bride parents have less room to convince the groom.

    its the same for bride of a divorced child.

 

See the western world.

Children of divorced parents getting divorced.... sometimes economical instability causing the ripple.... 

 

One should understand what makes one into marriage.

Mostly the want : sex...

but,, what need is compassion for each other.... who develop in marriage live happy for ever... who can't develop will have less happy and compromised life...

 

This is not only a reply to your quote,,, but a reply with a bigger picture message...

 

public kakapothe naa lanti vaadiki ela telusthadi , girl father ki setups unnaru ani ....

 

you may not have come across such people but there ARE people that think with a broader mindset , of course its a little hard for the kids of divorcees to get an arranged marriage at this point , but certainly people r changing slowly and started to think in a broader way .... i personally don't see how that is a problem .... 

 

it looks like u have a very low opinion of the westerners bro , I can say for sure thats not how western marriages work lol

[donganaaK]

Agreed Bhayya...Kaani general ga ila alochinchina 90% Middles or Low class e kadha mana deggara - so Overall ga Pelli ki Prob ayitadhi ani tolding...Asalu jaragavi ani Kaadhu... ;)

 

yeah adi ok bro ,quite understandable ... indaka no matter how much money the girls parents give no one will come forward to marry her annadu , so, anduke ah line raasanu

[donganaaK]

those relations start with money end with money


Katnam istunnarante egesukelle jaffa families gurinchi matladatm time waste..


Nenu matram katnam asinchanu.. so do my parents.. they want girl from descent middlexclass..

 

parents divorce teeskunte jaffa family na .. lol .. ok .... 

[Hyderabad_Nawab]

yeah adi ok bro ,quite understandable ... indaka no matter how much money the girls parents give no one will come forward to marry her annadu , so, anduke ah line raasanu

Oh kk...Antha ledhu....Atlast ki entha thopaoina...Evaraina (Max) Ultimate ga IMP icchedhi Money ke...PAISE ME PARAMATMA...;)

[jivvakoruchi_burrokobuddi]

public kakapothe naa lanti vaadiki ela telusthadi , girl father ki setups unnaru ani ....

 

you may not have come across such people but there ARE people that think with a broader mindset , of course its a little hard for the kids of divorcees to get an arranged marriage at this point , but certainly people r changing slowly and started to think in a broader way .... i personally don't see how that is a problem .... 

 

it looks like u have a very low opinion of the westerners bro , I can say for sure thats not how western marriages work lol

 

I am in the same boat,, i did not find broad mindset people yet.. i have talked to roughly ten's of bride parents... may be i will come across broad mindset people one day.

I don't have low opinion on westerners... first person in my  family came to US in 1950's.... and many came there after,,, i have few cousins ,, divorced and married again ,, having a great life...

[donganaaK]

I am in the same boat,, i did not find broad mindset people yet.. i have talked to roughly ten's of bride parents... may be i will come across broad mindset people one day.

I don't have low opinion on westerners... first person in my  family came to US in 1950's.... and many came there after,,, i have few cousins ,, divorced and married again ,, having a great life...

 

naaku ardham kaaledu bhaiiya .. same boat ante wt ? 

[jivvakoruchi_burrokobuddi]

naaku ardham kaaledu bhaiiya .. same boat ante wt ? 

child of a separated parents

[donganaaK]

child of a separated parents

 

oh okok ... i'm s0rry if i hurt u but thats wt i feel personally ... one of my dads closest and child hood friends son got married to a daughter of divorced parents , the guys family is pretty well off and the girls family is pretty normal but both the parents r well settled ( though seperated ) ... the girl did her MBA from stanford .... my dads friend did not object to marriage ..... everything is going great so far , no issues whatsoever .... thats y i was arguing against u ..

[jivvakoruchi_burrokobuddi]

oh okok ... i'm s0rry if i hurt u but thats wt i feel personally ... one of my dads closest and child hood friends son got married to a daughter of divorced parents , the guys family is pretty well off and the girls family is pretty normal but both the parents r well settled ( though seperated ) ... the girl did her MBA from stanford .... my dads friend did not object to marriage ..... everything is going great so far , no issues whatsoever .... thats y i was arguing against u ..

Don't be sorry....

it all depends whom we come across....and understanding one's journey..... if someone from stanford,,, one has to see her achievements and journey not her family...

Yuvraj is child of divorced parents,,, it won't affect him..

 

Vayasu >> vignanam >> andham >> family background >> money 

people arrange the above 5 ... based on their interests and needs.... 

 

you Dad's friend might have the same order i have in selecting daughter-in-law.....

[Hyderabad_Nawab]

Don't be sorry....

it all depends whom we come across....and understanding one's journey..... if someone from stanford,,, one has to see her achievements and journey not her family...

Yuvraj is child of divorced parents,,, it won't affect him..

 

Vayasu >> vignanam >> andham >> family background >> money 

people arrange the above 5 ... based on their interests and needs.... 

 

you Dad's friend might have the same order i have in selecting daughter-in-law.....

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