Why I Won't Go Back To India.

[gargicau]

is slightly different from why I avoid the US.

Way back, I was in India for a short time. My father had arranged for me to stay in one of his flats in Chennai.

However what happened in that flat changed my perception of India.

The a/c wasn't working, so I called up my father, who arranged for a technician to come over and fix it. But the technician found out that the outdoor unit was, hanging on top of a shade, 5 floors above.

The only way to fix it was to get down on to the shade. The mere thought of this made my stomach churn, and was instantly against the idea of fixing this.

I spent a few minutes on the phone trying to convince my father, that I can manage the heat, and won't need the a/c. but my father was adamant that the a/c has to be fixed, and right away.

I tried to ask the a/c mechanic safer ways to work on an outdoor unit placed so idiotically above the floor level. And his solution was that its not a big deal, and that his son who accompanied him will do it.

So a 15yr old guy, jumped on top of this shade, and started to work on this unit. It struck me how oppressive India really is, at that moment.

It didn't occur to the father to seek basic parity on the issue of safety of his son even when I was offering it, at whatever cost.

That moment I understood how oppressive caste really is. It has managed to numb the victims into expecting zero favours from the oppressors. And the people in this forum think they've worked 'hard' to be where they are. But I digress.

So even if this incident took place a decade ago, I still find myself uncomfortable in lavish weddings, and try to avoid social gatherings as much as possible, while in India.

Things haven't changed much in India, anyway. And I don't want to be an oppressor.

Why I avoid the US is, because I'm hardly sensitized to race relations there, and the presence of a very visible underclass (blacks) bothers me.

[killer99]

it sucks but can't change the reality bro. empowerment through education is what i see as one good solution. if you can, pls try to provide education through NGO's that have the adopt a kid programmes

[Aryaa]

U should only live in Mars

[donganaaK]

where do u live now ?

[gargicau]

U should only live in Mars

is that supposed to be a smart comment?

[Aryaa]

is that supposed to be a smart comment?

Yes man if u can't live both in India and usa
Tell me one country with ideal qualities where no racism or some kind of problem


And yes I beelieve it's very sensible comment

[abhigadu]

U should only live in Mars

+1 .. But I worry what about if he brings up an alien racism thr :( ..

[kiladi bullodu]

No strip clubs man

[timmy]

is slightly different from why I avoid the US.

Way back, I was in India for a short time. My father had arranged for me to stay in one of his flats in Chennai.

However what happened in that flat changed my perception of India.

The a/c wasn't working, so I called up my father, who arranged for a technician to come over and fix it. But the technician found out that the outdoor unit was, hanging on top of a shade, 5 floors above.

The only way to fix it was to get down on to the shade. The mere thought of this made my stomach churn, and was instantly against the idea of fixing this.

I spent a few minutes on the phone trying to convince my father, that I can manage the heat, and won't need the a/c. but my father was adamant that the a/c has to be fixed, and right away.

I tried to ask the a/c mechanic safer ways to work on an outdoor unit placed so idiotically above the floor level. And his solution was that its not a big deal, and that his son who accompanied him will do it.

So a 15yr old guy, jumped on top of this shade, and started to work on this unit. It struck me how oppressive India really is, at that moment.

It didn't occur to the father to seek basic parity on the issue of safety of his son even when I was offering it, at whatever cost.

That moment I understood how oppressive caste really is. It has managed to numb the victims into expecting zero favours from the oppressors. And the people in this forum think they've worked 'hard' to be where they are. But I digress.

So even if this incident took place a decade ago, I still find myself uncomfortable in lavish weddings, and try to avoid social gatherings as much as possible, while in India.

Things haven't changed much in India, anyway. And I don't want to be an oppressor.

Why I avoid the US is, because I'm hardly sensitized to race relations there, and the presence of a very visible underclass (blacks) bothers me.

its happens all over the world bro. who is kurzweil in your display name? is it the ray kurzweil?

[Kottukusaavandi03]

Assam try cheyyi....

[suryausa]

you are a complicated thinker man.BTW are you married?

just curious to know whether that girl is also like you.

[abhigadu]

I personally hate this comment.. Frankly there is nothing new about it .. And we are talking about a decade back .. Previously there was a perception that whatever father does his son would follow the same path .. Similar to a family business or whatever .. But now I do see the change of mind in ppl regarding this .. But then that said even when we compare with USA kids here are set to have indiependent life at the age of 12+ not even taken care by most of parents ..and vallu some of them get used to drugs .. Alavatlu .. Some grow like gems .. So may be aa kid kooda he came to support his father in work and at 15 thats ok.. Entho kontha train cheyakunda undadu ani na feeling ..

[gargicau]

Yes man if u can't live both in India and usa
Tell me one country with ideal qualities where no racism or some kind of problem

racism is not such a big problem for me.

For eg. in Canada, there's no such visible depressed minority. A new immigrant may work in jobs way below his level of education. But new immigrants are not conditioned to do dangerous jobs, or jobs that take away their dignity.

In UK, though there is a visible depressed minority, Muslims. It's very easy to skirt your way around in conversations with them without offending them.

I find it hard to do that with black people.

my problem is, I want to be racist (a little, and only for fun), but its difficult to be that in the US.

I don't have to go to Mars to avoid a brainwashed victim and a belligerent victim.

In India's case, I feel guilty. In the US case, I am afraid of offending them.

[abhigadu]

No strip clubs man

:O ..

[abhigadu]

racism is not such a big problem for me.

For eg. in Canada, there's no such visible depressed minority. A new immigrant may work in jobs way below his level of education. But new immigrants are not conditioned to do dangerous jobs, or jobs that take away their dignity.

In UK, though there is a visible depressed minority, Muslims. It's very easy to skirt your way around in conversations with them without offending them.

I find it hard to do that with black people.

my problem is, I want to be racist (a little, and only for fun), but its difficult to be that in the US.

I don't have to go to Mars to avoid a brainwashed victim and a belligerent victim.

In India's case, I feel guilty. In the US case, I am afraid of offending them.

For fun you wanna be a racist?? :O .. What kind of fun are you thinking of?