Why I Won't Go Back To India.

[gargicau]

its happens all over the world bro. who is kurzweil in your display name? is it the ray kurzweil?

yeah yeah :P

[gargicau]

I personally hate this comment.. Frankly there is nothing new about it .. And we are talking about a decade back .. Previously there was a perception that whatever father does his son would follow the same path .. Similar to a family business or whatever .. But now I do see the change of mind in ppl regarding this .. But then that said even when we compare with USA kids here are set to have indiependent life at the age of 12+ not even taken care by most of parents ..and vallu some of them get used to drugs .. Alavatlu .. Some grow like gems .. So may be aa kid kooda he came to support his father in work and at 15 thats ok.. Entho kontha train cheyakunda undadu ani na feeling ..

his father had no problem asking him to work at a height of about 100 feet.

on a small slab on top of which outdoor unit. The margin for error is so small, and he could've died that day.

I'd have never been able to forgive myself if he had.

[gargicau]

For fun you wanna be a racist?? :o .. What kind of fun are you thinking of?

light banter. I don't want to be overtly sensitive about what I say.

I don't want to be racist, but I want to be able to talk freely.

[DaleSteyn1]

is slightly different from why I avoid the US.

Way back, I was in India for a short time. My father had arranged for me to stay in one of his flats in Chennai.

However what happened in that flat changed my perception of India.

The a/c wasn't working, so I called up my father, who arranged for a technician to come over and fix it. But the technician found out that the outdoor unit was, hanging on top of a shade, 5 floors above.

The only way to fix it was to get down on to the shade. The mere thought of this made my stomach churn, and was instantly against the idea of fixing this.

I spent a few minutes on the phone trying to convince my father, that I can manage the heat, and won't need the a/c. but my father was adamant that the a/c has to be fixed, and right away.

I tried to ask the a/c mechanic safer ways to work on an outdoor unit placed so idiotically above the floor level. And his solution was that its not a big deal, and that his son who accompanied him will do it.

So a 15yr old guy, jumped on top of this shade, and started to work on this unit. It struck me how oppressive India really is, at that moment.

It didn't occur to the father to seek basic parity on the issue of safety of his son even when I was offering it, at whatever cost.

That moment I understood how oppressive caste really is. It has managed to numb the victims into expecting zero favours from the oppressors. And the people in this forum think they've worked 'hard' to be where they are. But I digress.

So even if this incident took place a decade ago, I still find myself uncomfortable in lavish weddings, and try to avoid social gatherings as much as possible, while in India.

Things haven't changed much in India, anyway. And I don't want to be an oppressor.

Why I avoid the US is, because I'm hardly sensitized to race relations there, and the presence of a very visible underclass (blacks) bothers me.

antha baagane undhi a highlighted meaning ardham kaaledhu koncham detailga explain chey vayya 

[abhigadu]

light banter. I don't want to be overtly sensitive about what I say.

I don't want to be racist, but I want to be able to talk freely.

Then that wouldn't be more like freedom than racist?
India lo mari freedom ekkuva ayae ala thayaru ainaaam .. Usa does a good job in implementing rules at least at lower levels ..

[afrnds]

U should only live in Mars

Lol

[ravana]

is slightly different from why I avoid the US.

Way back, I was in India for a short time. My father had arranged for me to stay in one of his flats in Chennai.

However what happened in that flat changed my perception of India.

The a/c wasn't working, so I called up my father, who arranged for a technician to come over and fix it. But the technician found out that the outdoor unit was, hanging on top of a shade, 5 floors above.

The only way to fix it was to get down on to the shade. The mere thought of this made my stomach churn, and was instantly against the idea of fixing this.

I spent a few minutes on the phone trying to convince my father, that I can manage the heat, and won't need the a/c. but my father was adamant that the a/c has to be fixed, and right away.

I tried to ask the a/c mechanic safer ways to work on an outdoor unit placed so idiotically above the floor level. And his solution was that its not a big deal, and that his son who accompanied him will do it.

So a 15yr old guy, jumped on top of this shade, and started to work on this unit. It struck me how oppressive India really is, at that moment.

It didn't occur to the father to seek basic parity on the issue of safety of his son even when I was offering it, at whatever cost.

That moment I understood how oppressive caste really is. It has managed to numb the victims into expecting zero favours from the oppressors. And the people in this forum think they've worked 'hard' to be where they are. But I digress.

So even if this incident took place a decade ago, I still find myself uncomfortable in lavish weddings, and try to avoid social gatherings as much as possible, while in India.

Things haven't changed much in India, anyway. And I don't want to be an oppressor.

Why I avoid the US is, because I'm hardly sensitized to race relations there, and the presence of a very visible underclass (blacks) bothers me.

didn't understood how u got to that conclusion based upon the above incident

[abhigadu]

his father had no problem asking him to work at a height of about 100 feet.

on a small slab on top of which outdoor unit. The margin for error is so small, and he could've died that day.

I'd have never been able to forgive myself if he had.

:O .. Why don't you take it as their job? Okaru akkada velli fix chesaaru antae okaru had to work if it has issues right?
We can expect a guy hanging out from
Helicopter to do that in India .. If we had to talk about whose mistake is that we have to go back to roots of it .. So especially if we talk about India I am much more worried about kids of 5 years of age who work in Brick batties, constructing houses .. All together child labor sucks!! But 15 years kind changed your way of thinking about India antae that sucks!

[nenunanu]

Bobby welcome back

[nenunanu]

Calling Narsayya

[gargicau]

didn't understood how u got to that conclusion based upon the above incident

okay. not that moment. But that moment I was disgusted at myself for not being able to stop the guy from asking his son to work at such a dangerous height.

I was very angry with my father for being adamant about fixing the stupid a/c.

It was later, many years later, when I thought about it, I observed that caste was intimately related to the kind of jobs people did in urban centers.

The oppression was in how low the father valued his own son's life, just for a few bucks.

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

:d

[BhagatSingh]

Gud perception

[gargicau]

:D

I wrote this partly to a question you asked me ages ago.

you assumed that I didn't want to go to India because being I had more freedom as a religious/cultural minority.

somehow I thought of it today.

[gargicau]

you are a complicated thinker man.BTW are you married?
just curious to know whether that girl is also like you.

lol. she's the cooler one in the relationship.