Estory 2: Fafa Ki Help Cheyyandi

[k2s]

I am a divorced Indian woman living in an Indian metro city. I am in my late 20's and my marriage had lasted just over a few months before I decided I simply couldn't handle the torture and abuse of my husband and in-laws. No kids. I am foreign educated, have strong financial background and believe I am above average in looks (not trying to brag or anything). However, I am starting to lose hope of ever finding a second husband. Every man I have dated thus far has turned out to be closed-minded and averse to the idea of marrying a divorcee. Moreover, whenever they hear about my failed marriage, they put me in an altogether different category and see me as a "sex object" of some sort. Kindly note, I have deliberately refused to enter into any sort of sexual relationship with anyone after my separation. I don't want to get into any risky situations. I also haven't been jumping from one man to another. I leave a lot of time gap between dating different men. And when I do decide to date someone, I wouldn't prefer to go beyond non-sexual activities until and unless we have reached an advanced level of commitment or otherwise ready for marriage. 

 

Anyway the latest dating episode has seriously left me feeling hopeless and depressed. He is a PhD student at his university, a few years senior to me, and still unmarried and single since he isn't financially established yet. He's the classic tall, dark and handsome type whom girls go crazy over and everyone wants to date/marry. Funny and humorous as well. He comes from lower middle class background, but it didn't matter to me. He's really ambitious and hardworking. Moreover, he gave off the impression of being a really realistic and broad-minded guy at first, though a tad bit opinionated and judgmental. 

 

Anyway we started dating casually. Of course I was careful not to go crazy over him or fixate upon the idea of having him as my future husband at such an early stage, but saw a potential partner in him. I just wanted to see how it goes, and if things could possibly evolve into something meaningful between us. After all, his family and friends are also pushing him to get married. 

Anyway after a couple of months of dating, I decided to tell him regarding my earlier marriage and divorce. I did it with the purpose of both confiding in him and also coming clear about my past. I was met with a mixture of shock and disgust on his end! He stated that while he respects my decisions of leaving an abusive marriage, I must also realise and accept the fact that no Indian man worth his salt will ever want to marry me after this. After all, according to him, why would any educated and self-respecting man choose me when he has thousands and millions of "fresh" and "never before married" girls to choose from? Don't know if these words of his represented just his own mentality or those of Indians in general, but he kept stressing that he was talking about society in general. He loudly kept stressing that as a divorced Indian female, my value in the Indian marriage market is ZERO... no matter how beautiful, well educated, financially stable and clean-charactered I am. Moreover, he even said that in contrast to me, my ex-husband would have no problems finding a dearth of brides after this, no matter how unattractive he is....even if he isn't rich enough....even though he is a divorcee....even if he has a record of beating up his ex-wife..etc...etc....all because he is MALE. See, by now I had started seeing this guy as a friend, had shared lots of fun times with him, saw him as a confidante etc. But these demoralizing words of his made my world crumble and moved me to tears after keeping myself strong for a very long period of time! He then harshly told me to stop crying like a baby, and to instead accept the fact that I am officially doomed and have no options than to spend the rest of my life as a "wh*re", since no man would officially make me his wife and I would have no other option besides resorting to temporary sexual relationships with different men because ultimately I would crave physical intimacy which is natural. 

 

 

Since then, he had been constantly trying to persuade me to go over to the pg accommodation where he lives, so that we may get physically intimate in his room. He keeps saying that I have no other option, and that should completely give up hopes of finding a 2nd husband. He kept saying "Just believe me. I am older and more realistic than you. I have mixed and mingled with a wide array of people in my lifetime and still continue to do so. I know Indian society for what it is!" 

I kept refusing his sexual advances. He became colder and colder towards me. Ultimately one day he picked a huge fight over a really petty issue out of the blue, rubbed my failures into my face, blocked me everywhere and cut all contacts.

 

My question is, are his words correct? Are all Indian men really so much shallow-minded and averse to the idea of marrying a divorcee female? Am I really such a detestable creature? Why do people assume that a divorcee would not make a good life partner? By nature I am really loving, caring, adjustable, respectful of elders etc. I even treat casual friends with extreme compassion and kindness... the latest boyfriend no less. I had even cooked his favourite food once, to give him a surprise treat!

I had dated just one other guy before this one, post divorce. Even he had SAME mentality as the latest one, yet is an educated professional etc. Friends, please advise me. Is there really no hope for me?

[Yuva Nataratna]

papam...... I am sure she will find a suitable guy soon....  :5_2_108:

[k2s]

papam...... I am sure she will find a suitable guy soon....  :5_2_108:

pls help her man 

[Yuva Nataratna]

pls help her man 

[saradagakasepu]

 

I am a divorced Indian woman living in an Indian metro city. I am in my late 20's and my marriage had lasted just over a few months before I decided I simply couldn't handle the torture and abuse of my husband and in-laws. No kids. I am foreign educated, have strong financial background and believe I am above average in looks (not trying to brag or anything). However, I am starting to lose hope of ever finding a second husband. Every man I have dated thus far has turned out to be closed-minded and averse to the idea of marrying a divorcee. Moreover, whenever they hear about my failed marriage, they put me in an altogether different category and see me as a "sex object" of some sort. Kindly note, I have deliberately refused to enter into any sort of sexual relationship with anyone after my separation. I don't want to get into any risky situations. I also haven't been jumping from one man to another. I leave a lot of time gap between dating different men. And when I do decide to date someone, I wouldn't prefer to go beyond non-sexual activities until and unless we have reached an advanced level of commitment or otherwise ready for marriage. 

 

Anyway the latest dating episode has seriously left me feeling hopeless and depressed. He is a PhD student at his university, a few years senior to me, and still unmarried and single since he isn't financially established yet. He's the classic tall, dark and handsome type whom girls go crazy over and everyone wants to date/marry. Funny and humorous as well. He comes from lower middle class background, but it didn't matter to me. He's really ambitious and hardworking. Moreover, he gave off the impression of being a really realistic and broad-minded guy at first, though a tad bit opinionated and judgmental. 

 

Anyway we started dating casually. Of course I was careful not to go crazy over him or fixate upon the idea of having him as my future husband at such an early stage, but saw a potential partner in him. I just wanted to see how it goes, and if things could possibly evolve into something meaningful between us. After all, his family and friends are also pushing him to get married. 

Anyway after a couple of months of dating, I decided to tell him regarding my earlier marriage and divorce. I did it with the purpose of both confiding in him and also coming clear about my past. I was met with a mixture of shock and disgust on his end! He stated that while he respects my decisions of leaving an abusive marriage, I must also realise and accept the fact that no Indian man worth his salt will ever want to marry me after this. After all, according to him, why would any educated and self-respecting man choose me when he has thousands and millions of "fresh" and "never before married" girls to choose from? Don't know if these words of his represented just his own mentality or those of Indians in general, but he kept stressing that he was talking about society in general. He loudly kept stressing that as a divorced Indian female, my value in the Indian marriage market is ZERO... no matter how beautiful, well educated, financially stable and clean-charactered I am. Moreover, he even said that in contrast to me, my ex-husband would have no problems finding a dearth of brides after this, no matter how unattractive he is....even if he isn't rich enough....even though he is a divorcee....even if he has a record of beating up his ex-wife..etc...etc....all because he is MALE. See, by now I had started seeing this guy as a friend, had shared lots of fun times with him, saw him as a confidante etc. But these demoralizing words of his made my world crumble and moved me to tears after keeping myself strong for a very long period of time! He then harshly told me to stop crying like a baby, and to instead accept the fact that I am officially doomed and have no options than to spend the rest of my life as a "wh*re", since no man would officially make me his wife and I would have no other option besides resorting to temporary sexual relationships with different men because ultimately I would crave physical intimacy which is natural. 

 

 

Since then, he had been constantly trying to persuade me to go over to the pg accommodation where he lives, so that we may get physically intimate in his room. He keeps saying that I have no other option, and that should completely give up hopes of finding a 2nd husband. He kept saying "Just believe me. I am older and more realistic than you. I have mixed and mingled with a wide array of people in my lifetime and still continue to do so. I know Indian society for what it is!" 

I kept refusing his sexual advances. He became colder and colder towards me. Ultimately one day he picked a huge fight over a really petty issue out of the blue, rubbed my failures into my face, blocked me everywhere and cut all contacts.

 

My question is, are his words correct? Are all Indian men really so much shallow-minded and averse to the idea of marrying a divorcee female? Am I really such a detestable creature? Why do people assume that a divorcee would not make a good life partner? By nature I am really loving, caring, adjustable, respectful of elders etc. I even treat casual friends with extreme compassion and kindness... the latest boyfriend no less. I had even cooked his favourite food once, to give him a surprise treat!

I had dated just one other guy before this one, post divorce. Even he had SAME mentality as the latest one, yet is an educated professional etc. Friends, please advise me. Is there really no hope for me?

 

 

 

:5_2_108:

[psycopk]

monna daren temper review lo vesindi eme gurinche anukuta., lol

[sam86]

[rapchik]

Vadu chepina prakaream kothaga fgresh ga unna ee abayi chesukodu...if she wants to marry she has to look for divorcee ....lekapothe challa kadhju chala chala kastam...i have seen cases...valu ma amayi 1 montgh velindhi vadu torquer chesadu alla illa anadam..bayataki vasthe aa pillaki 2nd marriage ayina vaditho marriage...

 

 

 

ee pillaki 1st hand kvali ante....ee pilla life lo edhyana pedhaga chesthe thapa kadhu...so want first nad..boast ur carrer...show this Fcuking world wat is ur worth

[Moon_Walker]

 

I am a divorced Indian woman living in an Indian metro city. I am in my late 20's and my marriage had lasted just over a few months before I decided I simply couldn't handle the torture and abuse of my husband and in-laws. No kids. I am foreign educated, have strong financial background and believe I am above average in looks (not trying to brag or anything). However, I am starting to lose hope of ever finding a second husband. Every man I have dated thus far has turned out to be closed-minded and averse to the idea of marrying a divorcee. Moreover, whenever they hear about my failed marriage, they put me in an altogether different category and see me as a "sex object" of some sort. Kindly note, I have deliberately refused to enter into any sort of sexual relationship with anyone after my separation. I don't want to get into any risky situations. I also haven't been jumping from one man to another. I leave a lot of time gap between dating different men. And when I do decide to date someone, I wouldn't prefer to go beyond non-sexual activities until and unless we have reached an advanced level of commitment or otherwise ready for marriage. 

 

Anyway the latest dating episode has seriously left me feeling hopeless and depressed. He is a PhD student at his university, a few years senior to me, and still unmarried and single since he isn't financially established yet. He's the classic tall, dark and handsome type whom girls go crazy over and everyone wants to date/marry. Funny and humorous as well. He comes from lower middle class background, but it didn't matter to me. He's really ambitious and hardworking. Moreover, he gave off the impression of being a really realistic and broad-minded guy at first, though a tad bit opinionated and judgmental. 

 

Anyway we started dating casually. Of course I was careful not to go crazy over him or fixate upon the idea of having him as my future husband at such an early stage, but saw a potential partner in him. I just wanted to see how it goes, and if things could possibly evolve into something meaningful between us. After all, his family and friends are also pushing him to get married. 

Anyway after a couple of months of dating, I decided to tell him regarding my earlier marriage and divorce. I did it with the purpose of both confiding in him and also coming clear about my past. I was met with a mixture of shock and disgust on his end! He stated that while he respects my decisions of leaving an abusive marriage, I must also realise and accept the fact that no Indian man worth his salt will ever want to marry me after this. After all, according to him, why would any educated and self-respecting man choose me when he has thousands and millions of "fresh" and "never before married" girls to choose from? Don't know if these words of his represented just his own mentality or those of Indians in general, but he kept stressing that he was talking about society in general. He loudly kept stressing that as a divorced Indian female, my value in the Indian marriage market is ZERO... no matter how beautiful, well educated, financially stable and clean-charactered I am. Moreover, he even said that in contrast to me, my ex-husband would have no problems finding a dearth of brides after this, no matter how unattractive he is....even if he isn't rich enough....even though he is a divorcee....even if he has a record of beating up his ex-wife..etc...etc....all because he is MALE. See, by now I had started seeing this guy as a friend, had shared lots of fun times with him, saw him as a confidante etc. But these demoralizing words of his made my world crumble and moved me to tears after keeping myself strong for a very long period of time! He then harshly told me to stop crying like a baby, and to instead accept the fact that I am officially doomed and have no options than to spend the rest of my life as a "wh*re", since no man would officially make me his wife and I would have no other option besides resorting to temporary sexual relationships with different men because ultimately I would crave physical intimacy which is natural. 

 

 

Since then, he had been constantly trying to persuade me to go over to the pg accommodation where he lives, so that we may get physically intimate in his room. He keeps saying that I have no other option, and that should completely give up hopes of finding a 2nd husband. He kept saying "Just believe me. I am older and more realistic than you. I have mixed and mingled with a wide array of people in my lifetime and still continue to do so. I know Indian society for what it is!" 

I kept refusing his sexual advances. He became colder and colder towards me. Ultimately one day he picked a huge fight over a really petty issue out of the blue, rubbed my failures into my face, blocked me everywhere and cut all contacts.

 

My question is, are his words correct? Are all Indian men really so much shallow-minded and averse to the idea of marrying a divorcee female? Am I really such a detestable creature? Why do people assume that a divorcee would not make a good life partner? By nature I am really loving, caring, adjustable, respectful of elders etc. I even treat casual friends with extreme compassion and kindness... the latest boyfriend no less. I had even cooked his favourite food once, to give him a surprise treat!

I had dated just one other guy before this one, post divorce. Even he had SAME mentality as the latest one, yet is an educated professional etc. Friends, please advise me. Is there really no hope for me?

 

 

Red -> Clarity needed on the terms used. Especially in this 21st century which Reliance Fresh is he referring to?

 

Green -> Nope market has potential and you should know how to leverage it. Please join AFDB to get a career break from broad minded folks.

 

Orange -> Nope use your sexual prowess to make them slaves and you will find the right partner 

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

aadevado useless fellow la unnadu 

[Anta Assamey]

Subramga .... Already Divorced guy ni choosukovachu kada.... then she doesn't have to face all these words .... 

[psycopk]

Subramga .... Already Divorced guy ni choosukovachu kada.... then she doesn't have to face all these words .... 

 

adi aaina.. months dating chesaka chepedi.. daniki already pelli aiandi ani..??

[Balibabu]

god bless her...

[Anta Assamey]

adi aaina.. months dating chesaka chepedi.. daniki already pelli aiandi ani..??

 

Daniki telusu kada date chestunappudu.... vaadu single ani... divorce tho date chestey work out aye chances ekkuva kada ani... 

[psycopk]

Daniki telusu kada date chestunappudu.... vaadu single ani... divorce tho date chestey work out aye chances ekkuva kada ani... 

 

idi matram vadu singlo lo kadu first meet lone telusukoni... koni months aaiyaka.. nenu divorced ane sariki.. vadu gokukutnadu..