My Sister Is A Phd From Germany. Nobody Wants To Marry Her.

[dakumangalsingh]

So this is what happened recently, yet again, that has forced me to write about the Indian society constantly feeding on the fairness fetish. This thinking is abnormal, proof of undying backwardness in the society, and there is no hope or scope for change if this is what happens even in the twenty first century.

There was a familiar excitement in the house. There were all those sweets and snacks again. Dhara was wrapped in the same maroon sari once again. Maroon makes her look vibrant, that’s what they said- my family, that is. Finally, the awaited guests arrived, half a dozen of them. Mom and masi rallied towards the living room while granny was busy in the kitchen preparing some of her specialties.

“I just want to peep in and check out the groom-to-be,” I said.

When I advanced towards the arena, munching on a samosa, my mother called out, “What on earth do you think you are doing by going in there?”

“You could do that when your turn comes, and that will only happen after Dhara is ‘done with’, so better hide yourself in some inconspicuous corner of the house.”

I haven’t been able to discover whether it was my fault or hers. I am a little more fair-skinned than Dhara, my elder sister, or maybe she was a little duskier than me. Every time the ladkewaley (potential groom’s family) came to see her, I would be hidden in some corner of the house, or preferably driven out of the house.

Despite all the sweets, snacks, granny’s specialties and the mystic maroon sari, Dhara was “rejected” for the fifth time this year. Uncle was hoping to get his daughter married by the time she turned 28, but chances were very slim.

Dhara held a degree in Carnatic music, and was a PhD from Germany. But nothing compensated for the tint she was born with. The prospects who rejected her nowhere equalled her accomplishment, and they still thought they had the right to gaze at her top to bottom and excuse themselves just to finally reject her.

I am pretty sure this is not a unique scene performed solely in my family. The age-old taboo of dark skin is as fresh as it was centuries ago. The Sunday newspapers are still replete with “fair-skinned bride wanted” slogans. Matrimonial sites have added a new dimension to it by allowing bride-seekers to projecting their imagination into almost comical paragraphs: ‘M.Tech from reputed institution, well-settled in U.S.A seeks educated, homely, ace in household chores, peach-complexioned bride. Wheatish complexion kindly excuse’.

Do we not immerse ourselves in Googling, ‘How to get fair complexion naturally?’. Do we not torture our skin with every whitening product introduced in the market? Do we not buy our foundation a shade lighter than our own skin tone? Apparently, India alone serves as the largest market for skin-whitening products — India’s collective expenditure on fairness products sums to an average of over $400 million a year.

And why blame the men when we ourselves feed their appetite? After all, we started the trend.

It’s not that difficult to understand:

This in turn displays how uncomfortable we are in our own skin, literally.

 

You don’t really have to dip your daughter in haldi paste daily to brighten her skin up. She can be successful in whatever she wishes to do with the very skin she is born in. She can be a great scholar or a happy homemaker. All we need to do is broaden our frame of mind, not brighten a coat of skin.

 

[dakumangalsingh]

 

vellaki matram GC, mutli million mansion sports car yatch vunnodu kavali

 

but maga vedavalu jus konchem color vundali ani korukunte tappu

[Piscop]

[Yuvatha]

[Moon_Walker]

u call it reality or hypocrisy thats how society works.
woman have been traditionally attributed to beauty and home making and men are bread earners and family protectors.
no matter what additional things u have if u miss these fundamental qualities then there will be a problem.

[mastercheif]

aunty ki pelli avvatledu ani color ni blame chesthundi... color color color !!!

[Balibabu]

intaki 2 mukkalo cheppandi...adi edo english passage la vundi

[avakay_biryani]

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hmmmm

[Krish]

2 lines lo please..

[maximummax]

#mychoice video chudali papa urgent ga

[andhrapradesh@123]

2 lines lo please..

Ammayi color thakkuva so, abbayilu pelli proposal rejecting.

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Ammayi color thakkuva so, abbayilu pelli proposal rejecting.

 

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[Darshwana]

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