Although Humans Grow Outta Age.. Why They Don't Stop Appeasing?

[KillChillPandey]

Not appeasing parents is the first step to living life with dignity.

 

but even this first step isn't much help when you realise the enormity of the society around you.

 

its easier if you were never born.

 

Well parents too appease us in many ways unless we grow outta age we don't realize it.. but again the fundamental question.. is appeasing a natural human trait like any other emotion or just a plain blank social need?

[Bongu..Boshanam]

nik ala anpinchinda..

babu seppadu ga TS ki counter ani..

[KillChillPandey]

oka line kuda thinnaga mtladava...b clarity man...

 

antha clear ga cheppad kada .. wat else clarification do you need? are you expecting he clarifies as per your understanding?

[KillChillPandey]

babu seppadu ga TS ki counter ani..

 

ekkad cheppadu??

[KillChillPandey]

 

antey antav

[KillChillPandey]

It may be emotional too. perhaps the same reason why people think they get more punyam if they walk up tirumala to have yedukondalavadu darshanam.

 

put yourself through more trouble/humiliation, the result is much sweeter. or something like that.

 

i understand the social part of it.. don't get the emotional part of it.. getting punyam is also a social thing..how would some one know to appease god in the first place.. and if there is god then why he needs appeasement?

[lazybugger]

when you say that you are self conscious about your image.. do you mean you haven't reached the state of consciousness where what people think/say doesn't matter to shred off appeasing other.. and why would not appeasing others be a psychotic analogy, when appeasement in the first place is not a essential trait to be human minus society.. 

 

not of what others think, but what I think of myself. I watch others who have managed to transcend it, and allow jealousy to take over, especially because majority of them are not even as smart or accomplished as I am.

 

so unless I get it out of my head, that only geniuses can transcend this trait, I'll forever be a slave to it. But only in patches. because I don't really mind offending people, except in some occasions.

 

those occasions mostly revolve around how my actions affect others. This isn't social, perhaps emotional. I don't mind  offending people around me, but I'm extremely sensitive about hurting people, people I've and I'll never meet.

 

example, I'm careful what I say about dalits, muslims, etc, even when in a forum completely dominated by capitalists, and racists.

[lazybugger]

Well parents too appease us in many ways unless we grow outta age we don't realize it.. but again the fundamental question.. is appeasing a natural human trait like any other emotion or just a plain blank social need?

 

some part of it is social, some part is emotional.

 

social need to appease is the basest form of it, I think.

[KillChillPandey]

not of what others think, but what I think of myself. I watch others who have managed to transcend it, and allow jealousy to take over, especially because majority of them are not even as smart or accomplished as I am.

 

so unless I get it out of my head, that only geniuses can transcend this trait, I'll forever be a slave to it. But only in patches. because I don't really mind offending people, except in some occasions.

 

those occasions mostly revolve around how my actions affect others. This isn't social, perhaps emotional. I don't mind  offending people around me, but I'm extremely sensitive about hurting people, people I've and I'll never meet.

 

example, I'm careful what I say about dalits, muslims, etc, even when in a forum completely dominated by capitalists, and racists.

 

being smart or accomplished is always self preorgative, as and when we find the Peripherals..

 

As there will always be superior existence (arguably) the core quality of appeasement will gain stronger roots.. Humans tend to exhibit slothy  behavioural adaptions of overcoming appeasement for good. So in Practicality what i understand is its social roots are deeper than human's own emotional jargon..

[lazybugger]

take the sexual aspect of human condition.

 

how can you maintain sexual connection with your partner if you don't indulge in foreplay. both physical and verbal. especially verbal. if you don't flirt with your wife of x number of years, you won't have a sex life.

 

here, I think, appeasement is a necessity.  depending on how connected you are with your partner, its social or emotional.

 

 

[KillChillPandey]

some part of it is social, some part is emotional.

 

social need to appease is the basest form of it, I think.

 

yeah i too think it is social to the core.. and messes up with emotions later.. so humans haven't yet recognized a foolproof behavioral pattern to overcome appeasement.. 

[lazybugger]

being smart or accomplished is always self preorgative, as and when we find the Peripherals..

 

As there will always be superior existence (arguably) the core quality of appeasement will gain stronger roots.. Humans tend to exhibit slothy  behavioural adaptions of overcoming appeasement for good. So in Practicality what i understand is its social roots are deeper than human's own emotional jargon..

 

yeah, mostly social.

[KillChillPandey]

take the sexual aspect of human condition.

 

how can you maintain sexual connection with your partner if you don't indulge in foreplay. both physical and verbal. especially verbal. if you don't flirt with your wife of x number of years, you won't have a sex life.

 

here, I think, appeasement is a necessity.  depending on how connected you are with your partner, its social or emotional.

 

i think regarding sex, it is more emotional appeasement than social unless it is casual..primitives didn't have any appeasement boundaries until the rules were initially created.. the rules came into existence from the very thing 'Sex'. That's where human boundaries started to build up and evolved for generations

[lazybugger]

I referred to people who show no appeasement as psychos because, many such people don't appease others, but expect others to appease them. Show the social rule book, when they don't.

 

They are not really indifferent to appeasement. They just use it to their benefit. 

 

example: guys who think its right to classify women as bitches, but just expect hassle free sex from them. expecting hassle free sex is normal, but classifying them as bitches out to ruin man's life is not.

 

Its perhaps an advantageous trait to have. But its still fair to classify it as psycho behaviour.

[Maximus]