Estory 1: For Nissan Uncle

[k2s]

Hi All,

 

I am a 25 yr old female married 2 yrs ago. I did my masters here and working as a manager in a very reputed organisation. I know my husband from childhood and mine is a love marraige got arranged .

 

Comming to my problem, i trusted my husband very blindly as i know him right from my childhood. Recently, i came to know that he is falling for his best friend's wife which is a shame. This girl is shorter than me, fatter than me, less educated than me and not even working. Just that she looks pretty and shows her cleavage all the time ( sorry had to say that out ). My situation became soooo worst that he cannot spend atleast a single weekend alone with me apart from inviting his friend and his wife . Even this long week end he planned with them. Every friday night they come to my place and leaves only on sunday midnights . I will be cooking all the day ,dishwashing and stuff and making snacks for them and rushing to office on mondays . She comes dressed pretty well and again keep getting ready in my bedroom after comming to our place.she neither helps me in the kitchen nor does sit with me. I observed a very strange behaviour in him when they come ..he gets ready with new clothes , he keeps on singing some romantic songs r humming and unfortunately he keep staring at her..when we all keep watching tv together he keeps on staring at her ******..and recently i saw him touching her from back ...i agree she looks pretty in looks but unable to digest the fact that inspite of we giving them everyting still men tend to get attracted ..

We had conversations about this but of no use ..just the dramas,huge cries of mine and fightings ..i know men lies to make wives relax and its the same happening with me ..i am a senior product manager at .......and still unable to deal with the situation as am shattered completely...now am in a position where i ccannot stop him from meeting his friend and his wife ..unfortunately he is his childhood friend...what should i do to avoid them and make my marriage successfull without hurting him ..i did my best to take care of him in all aspects and even i tried making me up very beautifull but i guess i realised it very late that he completely got drowned in her looks ..i just couldn't mention how much i helped her in all the ways and now breaking my head bec everything happened because of me allowing ....help me please

[k2s]

one aunty response:

 

I am not sure if my suggestion will hold good.... Can you try to flirt with her husband ..and make sure that your husband is aware of your fondness for them. Your husband may then reduce spending more time with them fearing about you getting close to his friend. Can you compliment her husband little more than normal in a subtle way which will make heruncomfortable.And also when they are not at your place talk more about your DH's friend and how he looks more fit and you appreciate the way he takes care of his wife and she is lucky etc etc. This may work but may also backfire if your husband becomes all excited to have an open marriage .

Another solution would be to invite couple of your own friends when they come so... the time is divided between soo many people that your husband may not get enough time to flirt with the other lady!!

Dont ignore your instinct when it comes to these kinds of things ...90% you will always beright.and preventing this distraction defines the future of your marriage. Dont allow any ****ty person to come between you and your husband..way to go girl Win him back 

Note -- Please dont cry or beg your husband to tell you the truth about his feeling ,,,,that will make him think you are weak and you depend on him too much and he can get away with cheating.....just be confident and act like you dont care and show your dislike about that lady to your husband indirectly.

[dotnetrockz]

Idhi kadhu baa nenu post chesina link lo okathi 3 paralu raasindji be like a rude teacher to your hubby anta adhi postu

[arshad]

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[k2s]

another aunty reply:

Dear OP,
A difficult situation, quit making tasty stuff for that woman and her H.
Go to their place , sit and enjoy her hospitality, tell H nicely that you would like to visit her.
Hope this is just a mild flirtation and nothing serious like phone talks, emails, FB chats etc. behind your back.

Let your H know that you will not tolerate any nonsense and will create hungama if this continues .
Find out about this woman from your other friends, maybe she is the type who likes being admired by other men.

If wife is working then the SAH woman is attractive, if DW is tall then short females look good, if DW is slim then fatter ones appeal , the list can go on.
Maybe your H is experiencing mid life crisis.

Stop feeling insecure, you are earning well and can jolly well take care of yourself, don't turn into a bundle of nerves.

[k2s]

Take her out again for shopping.Confront her Calmly but firmly and say to her that you are going to install spy cameras in your house and capture her evil activities ( just blame her entirely) and use it as a evidence to show it her huband, in laws and her beloved mom. Do this emotinal black mail. 

Coming to your husband when he does some stupid thing like staring at her while watching movies... Just pinch him and have a saint face if possible and say you were too involved in that movie... So kid in me wants to play with you.

You said you can't leave him despite of all these disgusting things happening around you. He might have thought the same as well. So make him feel insecured. Don't behave like a mother to him, behave like a rude teacher. He has to learn his lessons. Hope he will be in a situation ( don't want to say but sorry) to find out the value of a partner/ wife soon.
 

 

[k2s]

This is usual for men at this age who are not able to analyse between infatuation and reality.
I hope you guys not having much xxx before your husband meet her?? that might be one of the reason for men who are yet matured mentally but physically yes.

1)sit with him and discuss and be strong in what u are conveying. don't fall for his nice words just to keep you calm

2) Just ask him what happened to your old love in-between you guys
If you need go for counselling it might help

3)You guys go together out in a weekend and don't encourage her to come home.

4)If the above dosent work you need to speak with the girl who is messing now

5) And if all the above dosent work and if the girl dosent cooperate just give her warning for 3 times and last time just scare her that you will have to complaint to the police for and also your hubby

Don't worry and be strong and be silent and keep yourself calm and think.

Silence brings more and better thoughts to tackle this situation.

Be bold and bring things under control

[k2s]

As usual I will be a severe minority opinion here. Still I think it's worth a listen, IMO.

Per what i read so far, OP, you have only circumstantial evidence. Yes, she wears low cut stuff. And a lot of people do. Yes, he hums romantic songs. What else is there in desi movies? It's not in real life for most people so that's all we got in the movies.

So before you jump the gun, ask yourself about your husband's character. Is he the type that would stab his dear childhood friend in the back? I think few are capable of doing it even if the friend's wife encourages it. Decide after carefully evaluating your hubby. In my knowledge guys, unless they are scum, don't do such things.

It is quite possible that there is some sexual tension. It is quite possible that your hubby likes their company. It's also possible that she got under your skin and makes you overly sensitive and makes you see things that barely exist. I am somewhat put off by you mentioning that you are Sr Product Mgr. But these things are left at the door in relationships. We don't wear them on our sleeve with close friends and relations. I suspect that the reason you mentioned it because you had to validate your thinking as that of a smart person because your conscience is likely gnawing at you. Listen to that a bit more.

If those people really wanted to be sinister, they can do it away from your eyes. The way your hubby's friend is unconcerned, it seems that he totally trusts his friend. The way she asked you about why your hubby is not accompanying, shows a bit of above boardbehavior.The way your hubby sidelined your concerns makes me feel that he thinks your concerns are totally out of line.

So collect a little more evidence to be sure. More on your hubby than her. There are many women who get attracted (asexually in many cases) to anyone who pays attention to them, listens to them, a kind of 'friend'. It's possible that the other lady could be seeing your hubby that way.

Also, looking at ****** is well, involuntary (and stupid) :)

You may be right but I think you have to be absolutely sure. The evidence you have now doesn't stick IMO.
Good luck!

[Piscop]

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I might be wrong but i smell lot of arrogance in your attitude, probably because of your education,job,height etc. and if i can smell it, your husband must have had enough of it and of probably other things as well! and he is having good time enjoying the Change and the attention this Uneducated ,Fat, Shorter, Flirtatious and prettier girl is giving. She is giving fodder to his male ego, his sense of self worth. What both of them are doing needs to be stopped but i would also suggest some introspection on what is wrong with your marriage as well. This lady can be weeded out but if marriage itself is crumbling then just kicking her out would just put bandage in a leaky dam! Try counseling if you cant put the finger on whats wrong with marriage. Coming to this woman, she is metal which is attracted to magnet! Give her a Bigger magnet! I would suggest that you take a model looking man into confidence and invite him also into your house on weekends. His job would be to flirt with her and pamper her as much as possible in Front of your husband. If it works it would stop the dose of male ego massages which your husband is getting.Her husband is anyway is ignorant to his wife behavior so he wouldn't know it this time as well. Push these two closer, let them exchange phone numbers and you enjoy the game.

[kiladi bullodu]

Wife swapping in progress

[solman]

[k2s]

I might be wrong but i smell lot of arrogance in your attitude, probably because of your education,job,height etc. and if i can smell it, your husband must have had enough of it and of probably other things as well! and he is having good time enjoying the Change and the attention this Uneducated ,Fat, Shorter, Flirtatious and prettier girl is giving. She is giving fodder to his male ego, his sense of self worth. What both of them are doing needs to be stopped but i would also suggest some introspection on what is wrong with your marriage as well. This lady can be weeded out but if marriage itself is crumbling then just kicking her out would just put bandage in a leaky dam! Try counseling if you cant put the finger on whats wrong with marriage. Coming to this woman, she is metal which is attracted to magnet! Give her a Bigger magnet! I would suggest that you take a model looking man into confidence and invite him also into your house on weekends. His job would be to flirt with her and pamper her as much as possible in Front of your husband. If it works it would stop the dose of male ego massages which your husband is getting.Her husband is anyway is ignorant to his wife behavior so he wouldn't know it this time as well. Push these two closer, let them exchange phone numbers and you enjoy the game.

[k2s]

Idi highlight reply

 

I might be wrong but i smell lot of arrogance in your attitude, probably because of your education,job,height etc. and if i can smell it, your husband must have had enough of it and of probably other things as well! and he is having good time enjoying the Change and the attention this Uneducated ,Fat, Shorter, Flirtatious and prettier girl is giving. She is giving fodder to his male ego, his sense of self worth. What both of them are doing needs to be stopped but i would also suggest some introspection on what is wrong with your marriage as well. This lady can be weeded out but if marriage itself is crumbling then just kicking her out would just put bandage in a leaky dam! Try counseling if you cant put the finger on whats wrong with marriage. Coming to this woman, she is metal which is attracted to magnet! Give her a Bigger magnet! I would suggest that you take a model looking man into confidence and invite him also into your house on weekends. His job would be to flirt with her and pamper her as much as possible in Front of your husband. If it works it would stop the dose of male ego massages which your husband is getting.Her husband is anyway is ignorant to his wife behavior so he wouldn't know it this time as well. Push these two closer, let them exchange phone numbers and you enjoy the game.

[Piscop]

 

Idi highlight reply

 

I might be wrong but i smell lot of arrogance in your attitude, probably because of your education,job,height etc. and if i can smell it, your husband must have had enough of it and of probably other things as well! and he is having good time enjoying the Change and the attention this Uneducated ,Fat, Shorter, Flirtatious and prettier girl is giving. She is giving fodder to his male ego, his sense of self worth. What both of them are doing needs to be stopped but i would also suggest some introspection on what is wrong with your marriage as well. This lady can be weeded out but if marriage itself is crumbling then just kicking her out would just put bandage in a leaky dam! Try counseling if you cant put the finger on whats wrong with marriage. Coming to this woman, she is metal which is attracted to magnet! Give her a Bigger magnet! I would suggest that you take a model looking man into confidence and invite him also into your house on weekends. His job would be to flirt with her and pamper her as much as possible in Front of your husband. If it works it would stop the dose of male ego massages which your husband is getting.Her husband is anyway is ignorant to his wife behavior so he wouldn't know it this time as well. Push these two closer, let them exchange phone numbers and you enjoy the game.

 

 

lessa palikindi aunty 

[dotnetrockz]

Idi highlight reply

I might be wrong but i smell lot of arrogance in your attitude, probably because of your education,job,height etc. and if i can smell it, your husband must have had enough of it and of probably other things as well! and he is having good time enjoying the Change and the attention this Uneducated ,Fat, Shorter, Flirtatious and prettier girl is giving. She is giving fodder to his male ego, his sense of self worth. What both of them are doing needs to be stopped but i would also suggest some introspection on what is wrong with your marriage as well. This lady can be weeded out but if marriage itself is crumbling then just kicking her out would just put bandage in a leaky dam! Try counseling if you cant put the finger on whats wrong with marriage. Coming to this woman, she is metal which is attracted to magnet! Give her a Bigger magnet! I would suggest that you take a model looking man into confidence and invite him also into your house on weekends. His job would be to flirt with her and pamper her as much as possible in Front of your husband. If it works it would stop the dose of male ego massages which your husband is getting.Her husband is anyway is ignorant to his wife behavior so he wouldn't know it this time as well. Push these two closer, let them exchange phone numbers and you enjoy the game.

Idhi evvatho rgv ki ammamma laga undhi pundu midha mtr garam masala bhale challindhi