White girls of Reddit: Why don't you date Indian guys in general

[kevinUsa]

I haven't dated an Indian guy because an Indian guy has never asked me out. That's it. If I was asked out and said no, it'd be because I didn't think we'd be a good match due to their personality.

The reasons for not dating someone will be entirely personal. I find geeky guys attractive. Mostly I look for someone funny, and kind, who respects me (and women in general), and has similar values.

[kevinUsa]

I'm a very fair blonde white woman and I have dated an couple of Indians. One Muslim and the other Hindu and I'll never date another indian again. Why? Because I was treated horribly. Mostly by the Punjabi man. He was crude, rude, mean and had no respect for women. He was horribly verbally abusive, blamed everything on me - even what other people did to him. I could whip out a scroll of other horrible incidences, but probably the worst thing and poison icing on the cake was his dishonesty. He lied about everything. So did the Pakistani Muslim I dated. Lies, lies, lies, and constant flirting and bizarre cooing over male friends - creepy. I've been approached after ending that relationship and blocked both men from everywhere and changed my number after much harassment and bullying. Truly horrible experiences and I've since been approached by Indian (married and non-married) men (and many married Muslims) and caught them lying immediately. Never again. India has the most hateful, bigoted, filthy misogynistic culture I've ever experienced. Yes, some lovely things too, but it doesn't make up for the horrible way indian/middle eastern men treat women. I don't care if my opinion here is politically correct. It's honest. And PLEASE, if you are indian, DON'T contact me to attempt to tell me I'm all wrong, how nice you are, and I just had a bad experience, blah blah, all indians aren't like that. Bullshit.

[kevinUsa]

Physically I am attracted to the skin tone (I prefer a light to medium color, not as much the darker) and the strong facial features that are often mixed with a softness.

Emotionally its largely the focus that is put on family.

However I will say this, just as every race you can't fit an entire race into a little box. It just isn't going to happen. So while there are certain things that I am attracted to, its not something that every single person in the race has. Thats just life. A huge part of attraction is personality. Thats the make it or break it for me.

*edit: I grew up and live in a very culturally diverse city. Race and ethnicity is something that has never phased me. Its also not something that I generally see as being different because its my status quo.

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[kevinUsa]

Go out clubbing and to bars. Lot of single girls just out having a fun evening. Do not by them drinks. Russia is filled with these loser guys who think they can pay Thier way into the pants. If you can dance you are sorted since the Russian girls love guys who can move. Russian guys are mostly horrible at dancing or just being suave in any *** way. So if you can just step above that you will be sorted out.

Point to note though.

1. Be very well dressed, they like a guy on tight good fitting suit. Just make sure your dressed in semi casuals, t shirts and will not work.

2. Be very well groomed. Use a good perfume, have a nice hiar cut and if possible carry a well groomed stubble.

3. Never buy drinks in order to talk to a girl, they will take you for a ride.

4. Dance dance dance. Go out and dance even if you are alone, with a language barrier it might be your best chance at a ice breaker. We made the Russian Dj play Mudiya of all the songs from India and the ladies went nuts, got a couple of numbers just because of our pujabi dance movies.

5. Let them know you are Indian. Russian are pretty racists against Arabs but because of Goa and all, they have started developing a soft spot for Indians.

6. Be on the look out for places which might have your typical white supremacists. You can spot one because they are usually very well built and tattoos everywhere. They hang out at a couple of bars and normally will leave you alone but they will get in your face if they see a brown guy getting their white girl. So true to avoid places like that or don't draw too much attentions in these kind of places.

7. Tinder isn't that bad in Russia, there are quite a few escorts on Tinder but it's easy to filter them out. Give it a try, what's the worse that could happen.

8. If you want an easy target, you can find a college student. They tend to be more open minded but they do expect you to be sugar daddy and spend money on them. If you are ok with these things you can give it a try. Check out the public library or some of the bigger museums around to bump into them. You can just talk to them and ask about places to visit and eat to start a conversation with them and then see if they are up to going to any of these places with you.

9. Carry your passport with you all the time, Russian cops are on hyper attention these days so they check brown guys on a regular bases. They are just doing their job, they will never harrass you and will always be polite, just answer their questions and you will be sorted. This is just a general advice and nothing to do with dating but just thought it would be a good thing for you to keep in mind about.

[kevinUsa]

[–]Dinga_SM 14 points 10 months ago* 

I have dated a Ukranian and a Russian girl in the past (Not at the same time ). I met them here in Europe since I live here.

1) Do not use any dating apps. The kind of women you meet in these apps are toxic.

2) VERY IMPORTANT!!! Groom yourself well. You have to spend some big bucks here. Get a decent haircut, shave / trim your beard, buy a decent cologne or perfume, take a bath after cooking / eating Indian food. Is it too late to get in Shape? You are competing against Russian dudes who are well built and know how to look good.

3) Be confident and straight about your intentions. If you want sex, escalate accordingly. If not, you will be one of her "girl" friends. Make something up to take her back to your apartment like watching a movie.

4) If you feel that it's not going anywhere with a girl, forget her and try the next one. When girls say no here, they mean no. Not like what we see in Bollywood movies. They have plenty of men approaching them. They have a much bigger pool to choose from.

PS: Dinner date / Coffee date is a good idea for a girl with whom you want a long term relationship. Not the kind you want.

[kevinUsa]

How To Approach A Woman, According To Women On Reddit

 

By Emma Gray

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Reddit isn’t known for being female-friendly — in fact quite the opposite. But the social news website’s notoriously “anti-woman” users apparently do value female Redditor’s opinions when it comes to dating. The thread “Ladies of Reddit, please help us male Redditors out: What is the best way to approach you in public if we’re interested in you?” has garnered 3,518 comments since the query was posted on the night of July 29th.

And if that conversation is any indication, the women — and men — of Reddit have a lot to say about the art of approaching a potential female romantic interest. One piece of advice that cropped up continually throughout the thread is the importance of a confident attitude:

StellaBelle1: Walk up and say hi. Start up a general conversation about where you’re at and see how she reacts. If she keeps eye contact and is pleasant, continue on and ask her out; if she is avoiding eye contact and being short with what she says, move on. Just be confident (not cocky) when you approach and smile.
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WiiNotFit 211: You have to do the hard part of playing it by ear and just approaching them, saying hi, and talking to them in a very confident and non-confrontational manner ... Just be confident, if you are, it doesn’t matter what you say.

You know what doesn’t strike the women of Reddit as confident and sexy? Terrible pick-up lines:

Creamy_Peaches 966: I prefer someone who can just say hello to me and be forward about it without automatically using cheesy pick up lines or asking me to sleep with them.

Female commenters seem to be split on their preferences about being approached at work. Some users expressed that they would be flattered:

drocks: I had a guy come up to me at work and said I’ve never done something like this before but I just had to tell you that you are beautiful and see if I could take you out sometime. If I wasn’t married at the time I would have totally said yes. I think if you seem genuine in saying something like that you wont come across as totally creepy, but still flattering. Like really flattering.

Others said they felt the workplace was an inappropriate space for romantic interactions:

Purpl3Bac0n: ... as a cocktail waitress (very revealing work attire), I do NOT appreciate guys trying to talk to me at work. You may be as genuine, charming or even CUTE, but whatever you are saying is going in one ear and out the other. It makes it uncomfortable.

Multiple people also brought up the importance of having the ability to walk away when talking to a stranger — especially if that stranger is a man who appears to be physically stronger than the woman he’s approaching:

Stembio: Guys don’t realize how much most women think about things like exit routes. If you corner or trap us in some way, we will feel frightened, not receptive. I know 90% of guys don’t mean to do this, and that kind of thing doesn’t even occur to them ... And if you’re wondering why we worry about things like that, it is because we’ve been cornered and harassed or groped, or know someone who has, and there is literally no way to know if you are going to do something like that until you do it. So just, before you approach a strange woman, look at her possible escape routes, and do not get between her and them.
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Faranya: From everything I’ve ever heard from pretty much every woman I know, the key point to the “walk up” part is to make sure she has somewhere to go if she isn’t into it.
If there is one exit, and you are in it, you’re not going to be successful.

Another key point to a positive potentially-romantic interaction? Make sure the other person is listening to you — and interested in what you’re saying:

Babberz: ... make sure you have the woman’s attention. I don’t know how many times a guy will just walk up beside me and talk. Not even have eye contact and expect me to be like “oh yes I was totally just paying attention to what you said and it was probably awesome.”

For all the interest it generated, this sort of mass dating advice thread does have one crucial flaw, one user pointed out: Women do not have a singular set of preferences (shocker!). Thisisnotalice wrote,

Most importantly, looking through this thread, it’s obvious that different women want different things; while I would prefer a guy who seems slightly shy/nervous and doesn’t compliment me, other women want compliments and confidence. So if you approach one woman and she’s not feeling what you’re putting out there, that doesn’t mean that you have to change your approach — you just have to find someone that likes it, and then you’ll probably be a better fit in the long run anyway.

Of course, dudes can always default to Ryan Lochte’s seduction strategy as he described it to Women’s Health: “Make eye contact. Some guys keep staring, but I’ll give a wink and come back later, because it keeps her thinking.” Smooth, Lochte. Very smooth.

[CVR]

entha try chesina tellolu manaki padaru...maatladina konni rojulaki 10gestar....they think India is a sh!thole all Indians are curry lickers....90s la pattindi bangaaram unde not anymore

[TOM_BHAYYA]

6 minutes ago, CVR said:

entha try chesina tellolu manaki padaru...maatladina konni rojulaki 10gestar....they think India is a sh!thole all Indians are curry lickers....90s la pattindi bangaaram unde not anymore

Anna @vizagpower enlighten this guy

[tennisluvr]

Arey endi thambi idi, nuvvu saduko eeda copy paste chesthe emosthadi

[tennisluvr]

7 minutes ago, CVR said:

entha try chesina tellolu manaki padaru...maatladina konni rojulaki 10gestar....they think India is a sh!thole all Indians are curry lickers....90s la pattindi bangaaram unde not anymore

Depends bro ala emi ledu, depends on the person of course looks and all that matter too to an extent. But naa friends chaala mandi pellillu kooda chesukunnaru ikkadollani and they all seem to be doing fine. 

Yes India is a sh!thole ane belief untundi, thank Indian media as well for solidifying that image. But your individual personality overrides everything else. 

[CVR]

13 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

Depends bro ala emi ledu, depends on the person of course looks and all that matter too to an extent. But naa friends chaala mandi pellillu kooda chesukunnaru ikkadollani and they all seem to be doing fine. 

Yes India is a sh!thole ane belief untundi, thank Indian media as well for solidifying that image. But your individual personality overrides everything else. 

ippudu taggipoinaar bro...oka tella pori desi gaadi tho tirugutundi adi chaala open minded ayyi undaale...alanti vaalu takkuve ...thanks to all our desis  ippudu tellollaki desi ante mind lo oka opinion undipoindi....not just physical appearance, they  think we are mean, selfish, disrespect towards woman, liars ani..seppukunta potha unte saana unnai

[NaChavNenuChasta]

[tennisluvr]

Just now, CVR said:

ippudu taggipoinaar bro...oka tella pori desi gaadi tho tirugutundi adi chaala open minded ayyi undaale...alanti vaalu takkuve ...thanks to all our desis  ippudu tellollaki desi ante mind lo oka opinion undipoindi....not just physical appearance, they  think we are mean, selfish, disrespect towards woman, liars ani..seppukunta potha saana unnai

Yes this is true, but exceptions exist bro. Overall ga desi gallante negative impression undi ippudu oppukunta, this became worse after the Delhi Rape incident and every other some rape case in India being highlighted. Plus manollu kontha mandi veellani use chesukuni last ki desi ammayi tho arranged marriage chesukotam tho inka worst image dhruvapadindi. 

But it depends on where you hunt bro, don't hunt in bars and clubs avi manaku work avvavu. Try in volunteer organizations, co-ed leagues, or if you are good looking and speak well you can do cold approaches as well. Manamu above mentioned qualities tho em lekunte it won't hurt us much. 

[CVR]

3 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

Yes this is true, but exceptions exist bro. Overall ga desi gallante negative impression undi ippudu oppukunta, this became worse after the Delhi Rape incident and every other some rape case in India being highlighted. Plus manollu kontha mandi veellani use chesukuni last ki desi ammayi tho arranged marriage chesukotam tho inka worst image dhruvapadindi. 

But it depends on where you hunt bro, don't hunt in bars and clubs avi manaku work avvavu. Try in volunteer organizations, co-ed leagues, or if you are good looking and speak well you can do cold approaches as well. Manamu above mentioned qualities tho em lekunte it won't hurt us much. 

ofcourse try cheste padtaaru anuko you have to be very patient.....malli mana desi kakkurithi buddulu baita padite khel katam dukaan bandh....orey pillakaayalu vinandi ra mee mokaal manda

[tennisluvr]

11 minutes ago, CVR said:

ofcourse try cheste padtaaru anuko you have to be very patient.....malli mana desi kakkurithi buddulu baita padite khel katam dukaan bandh....orey pillakaayalu vinandi ra mee mokaal manda

Yes ippudu you have to try harder, definitely. Nenu US ki ochinappudu ila undedi kaadu bro paristithi, appatlo house parties ki kooda full ga pilichevallu. 

Appatlo inka ee culture kotha bro antha ga try cheyaledu, akkade mistake chesa. Appatlo set chesukununte bagundedi, aa rojullo veellalo curiosity kooda undedi Indian culture ante ado oka rakamayina respect. Ippudu adantha mataaash. They are even trying to discredit the Hindu roots of Yoga for this reason.