Thanks for your comments

[SpyderReddyR]

or just beat

[srdh21]

5 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Adhe naa baadha...i know her very well, but her having this idea I couldn't take it..makes me kinda loner or under in the relation, right now.

you know her enough but not enough to understand her thought process in this situation

first realize that there will be many unknowns attached to this, better to know the unknown now than unknown known's

[coolie]

Just now, srdh21 said:

you know her enough but not enough to understand her thought process in this situation

first realize that there will be many unknowns attached to this, better to know the unknown now than unknown known's

 

artham kale

[Peter123]

5 minutes ago, pillapichuka said:

Point 1: Dont live in resentment. Avoid any further damage to career and health. (not for people who don't care about you)

Point 2: Being attached vs Being Involved (she was never attached to you but you for attached to her. She never loved you)

Point 3: You deserve better. 

Point 4: Stop wasting time on typing such long stories like you did here. The quicker you move on, the better it is. Control your mind. 

Point 5: Start interacting with people/friends and tame your mind. Go out, eat out, party, etc. Dont isolate yourself from things and people. 

Point 6: ITS ALL IN THE MIND :-)

Pandaga chesuko. po.

+123 facts..point 2 and 3 needed much importance

[srdh21]

Just now, coolie said:

artham kale

naake ardham kaale..nenu cheppaleda

[mettastar]

47 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Nenu naa first job lo oka north indian ammayi naa colleague parichayam ayyindhi. With in few months we were in love and almost kalisi unnam for 2.5 years. She used to live alone, her sister used to work in same state, but different city vachi velthundedhi. I used to share accommodation with other telugu guy in another room. She was beautiful, smart and caring person. Oka roju friday office nundi friend ni pick chesukovali airport nundi ani vellipoyindhi sudden ga. She didn't call or answered any of my messages until monday evening. I asked her next day what happened, friend tho bayatiki vellanu ani cheppindhi. I asked if it was a male friend and she said yes, mari mundhu endhuku cheppa ledhu ani adiga. nuvvu adagaledhu andhi, friend or boy friend ani adiga. He is getting married, kalavadaniki vachadu annadhi...naaku appudu ardham ayyindhi nannu oka option la pettukundhi..ayithe vaadu lekapothe nenu ani. I checked her messenger, naa gurinchi vallu fight chesukunnaru. Nuvvu nannu chesukovu andhuke I moved on ani vadiki cheppindhi. dhaniki vaadu nannu vadhilesthe chesukunta ani cheppadu. nannu marriage chesuko anadam start chesindhi after few days, nenu annanu if you are upfront with your past and current status with people you may had relationships with I will think annanu. Appudu antha cheppindhi he was her senior in college and they loved and decided to get married, but his family didn't agree, he still has feelings and he can't decide to get married or not. Parallel ga matrimonial lo profile undhi valla parents maintain chestharu, first nundi thelusu naaku adhi undhi chusthunnaru ani. one day edho match set ayyi she disocnnected with everyone and came back after a week that she got engaged and getting married in 1 month and we said good to each other. I was heart broken, cried my heart out and depressed, I changed my project and moved to another city. I literally disconnected from my past and everyone I know. Few months passed by and her sister called me one day and wanted to meet and took flight to my place. She said for what her sister has done and she knew she would do something like this. She was aware of her past relations and she felt that I'm being used. She said, she could see how much I loved her sister To cheer me up she took me to clubs, bars and travelled alot. With in few weeks we were best buddies and her sister came to know about this and she got upset. She called me one day while she and her husband are driving and introduced to him as her sisters's friend and I felt zero interest in their conversation and I got an impression they think that I'm her sister's boy friend, I told them we are just friends and I'm not ready for another break up nor I will let that happen. She got taken aback that I was going to talk about my past relationship and ended the call swiftly. Her sister's project ended and found a new one 1 hour from my place. We used to hangout every weekend. We never had a disagreement nor we had felt like we are bf and gf. We never had sexual feeling for each other. We have known each others life in and out, future plans and we came to a point where we could say anything to eachother without trouble. On one new year, me, her and friends went to party and she proposed me with a kiss. I was shocked and told her no, ippudu unna relation bagundhi ani cheppanu. She was so mature for her age and asked me the reason for denial, if it was her sister that made me take that decission. ayyi undochu ani cheppanu, she asked me to rethink if she was not related to her sister. I couldn't find a reason, as she was perfect in every way. life lo intha kante ardham chesukune and open ga matlade partner arranged marriage lo dhorakadhu  anipinchindhi. We got married with partial yes from both families. It has been best years of my life after marrige, we very happy as friends more than a couple. We have no jealousy, possesiveness or compulsion to live life as one of us dictates. Eveything was fine until one day, when we went to this get together north indian party of her friends.It was in one of their house, everone was looking forward for having good time that weekend. Everyone was drunk and dancing, having fun. Later in the night I noticed few of them getting intimate with others wife while dancing and their husbands couldn't care less. I was shocked and asked my wife what was going on. She said everything is fine, they are used to it. I was the only south indian guy in the party and couldn't see what I was seeing. Called my wife and went for sleep, asked her what was going on. She said some couples are ij open relationships and they don't mind having extra fun with a wink. I told her this is disgusting, how can do that with friends. I understand if it was dance club and with some unknown, but how with a person you see next day when you wake up. She replied it's common in parties, so does her sister and they know couples who actually share wives after parties. I thought it was disgusting and ended topic there, appudu annindhi evaru evarni force cheyyat ledhu valla life valla istam manaku endhuku ani. 

After few months, one of her friends husband called for drinks and we met at a bar. He brought the topic that I was disgusted with the topic. My wife told his wife and she told him. He said same thing  what my wife said and they are okay with it and they disucess this ahead and said I'm always invited witha big laughter. It felt uncomfortable and ended that topic and had few drinks and headed home. Asked my wife why she told them how I feel about their life, she said they asked if we would be interested and she told how I feel. I asked if she was interested and she laughed it off and said we can try if I want to. Now, I'm confused is it me that is only disgusted by this idea and they are just seeing if I would say yes. 

We love eachother too much, I don't want to loose her. Are we being manipulated into this? Am I outcasted? Am I not communicating right with her? Am I old fashioned? I couldn't sleep since last 2 days, she seems interested, am I married to right person? Did I make a right decision with my marriage? Even, if I say know, how could I forget this idea and still be friends with them? 

I feel terrible and I'm at a junction to make a decision without effecting anyone. Share your suggestions and thoughts, please

e gang lo evadikanna pillalu pudithe .. DNA test chepinche daaka tension ey nemo .. evadi baby no ardam kaaka

[KathiRamdaas]

1 minute ago, aryeman said:

I contemplating to move to another place, not sure if it works out okay. Thanks!

No matter where you move it's hard to change one's thinking. Good that she obeys your opinions, keep it that way but hey... you never know one fine day if you lose her respect she might up for something. Better watch out.

[srdh21]

1 minute ago, coolie said:

artham kale

unknown knows is when she will have continued affairs.. but this is unknown now

[argadorn]

disgusting post vayya.... horrible ....

[gudboy]

 

just wow

[srdh21]

Just now, argadorn said:

disgusting post vayya.... horrible ....

 

world is definitively not a great place any more

India, that was not destroyed by Islamic Invaders, British Imperialism appears to be destroyed enough in the last 20 yrs due to heavy western influence of some of the greatest values we inherited from past

coming back to OP, what is the use of marrying someone when they continue to have physical/mental  relationships with others

fantasizing is different, doing is different.... Osho might say these 2 are same though

[srdh21]

53 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Nenu naa first job lo oka north indian ammayi naa colleague parichayam ayyindhi. With in few months we were in love and almost kalisi unnam for 2.5 years. She used to live alone, her sister used to work in same state, but different city vachi velthundedhi. I used to share accommodation with other telugu guy in another room. She was beautiful, smart and caring person. Oka roju friday office nundi friend ni pick chesukovali airport nundi ani vellipoyindhi sudden ga. She didn't call or answered any of my messages until monday evening. I asked her next day what happened, friend tho bayatiki vellanu ani cheppindhi. I asked if it was a male friend and she said yes, mari mundhu endhuku cheppa ledhu ani adiga. nuvvu adagaledhu andhi, friend or boy friend ani adiga. He is getting married, kalavadaniki vachadu annadhi...naaku appudu ardham ayyindhi nannu oka option la pettukundhi..ayithe vaadu lekapothe nenu ani. I checked her messenger, naa gurinchi vallu fight chesukunnaru. Nuvvu nannu chesukovu andhuke I moved on ani vadiki cheppindhi. dhaniki vaadu nannu vadhilesthe chesukunta ani cheppadu. nannu marriage chesuko anadam start chesindhi after few days, nenu annanu if you are upfront with your past and current status with people you may had relationships with I will think annanu. Appudu antha cheppindhi he was her senior in college and they loved and decided to get married, but his family didn't agree, he still has feelings and he can't decide to get married or not. Parallel ga matrimonial lo profile undhi valla parents maintain chestharu, first nundi thelusu naaku adhi undhi chusthunnaru ani. one day edho match set ayyi she disocnnected with everyone and came back after a week that she got engaged and getting married in 1 month and we said good to each other. I was heart broken, cried my heart out and depressed, I changed my project and moved to another city. I literally disconnected from my past and everyone I know. Few months passed by and her sister called me one day and wanted to meet and took flight to my place. She said for what her sister has done and she knew she would do something like this. She was aware of her past relations and she felt that I'm being used. She said, she could see how much I loved her sister To cheer me up she took me to clubs, bars and travelled alot. With in few weeks we were best buddies and her sister came to know about this and she got upset. She called me one day while she and her husband are driving and introduced to him as her sisters's friend and I felt zero interest in their conversation and I got an impression they think that I'm her sister's boy friend, I told them we are just friends and I'm not ready for another break up nor I will let that happen. She got taken aback that I was going to talk about my past relationship and ended the call swiftly. Her sister's project ended and found a new one 1 hour from my place. We used to hangout every weekend. We never had a disagreement nor we had felt like we are bf and gf. We never had sexual feeling for each other. We have known each others life in and out, future plans and we came to a point where we could say anything to eachother without trouble. On one new year, me, her and friends went to party and she proposed me with a kiss. I was shocked and told her no, ippudu unna relation bagundhi ani cheppanu. She was so mature for her age and asked me the reason for denial, if it was her sister that made me take that decission. ayyi undochu ani cheppanu, she asked me to rethink if she was not related to her sister. I couldn't find a reason, as she was perfect in every way. life lo intha kante ardham chesukune and open ga matlade partner arranged marriage lo dhorakadhu  anipinchindhi. We got married with partial yes from both families. It has been best years of my life after marrige, we very happy as friends more than a couple. We have no jealousy, possesiveness or compulsion to live life as one of us dictates. Eveything was fine until one day, when we went to this get together north indian party of her friends.It was in one of their house, everone was looking forward for having good time that weekend. Everyone was drunk and dancing, having fun. Later in the night I noticed few of them getting intimate with others wife while dancing and their husbands couldn't care less. I was shocked and asked my wife what was going on. She said everything is fine, they are used to it. I was the only south indian guy in the party and couldn't see what I was seeing. Called my wife and went for sleep, asked her what was going on. She said some couples are ij open relationships and they don't mind having extra fun with a wink. I told her this is disgusting, how can do that with friends. I understand if it was dance club and with some unknown, but how with a person you see next day when you wake up. She replied it's common in parties, so does her sister and they know couples who actually share wives after parties. I thought it was disgusting and ended topic there, appudu annindhi evaru evarni force cheyyat ledhu valla life valla istam manaku endhuku ani. 

After few months, one of her friends husband called for drinks and we met at a bar. He brought the topic that I was disgusted with the topic. My wife told his wife and she told him. He said same thing  what my wife said and they are okay with it and they disucess this ahead and said I'm always invited witha big laughter. It felt uncomfortable and ended that topic and had few drinks and headed home. Asked my wife why she told them how I feel about their life, she said they asked if we would be interested and she told how I feel. I asked if she was interested and she laughed it off and said we can try if I want to. Now, I'm confused is it me that is only disgusted by this idea and they are just seeing if I would say yes. 

We love eachother too much, I don't want to loose her. Are we being manipulated into this? Am I outcasted? Am I not communicating right with her? Am I old fashioned? I couldn't sleep since last 2 days, she seems interested, am I married to right person? Did I make a right decision with my marriage? Even, if I say know, how could I forget this idea and still be friends with them? 

I feel terrible and I'm at a junction to make a decision without effecting anyone. Share your suggestions and thoughts, please

from what i know... this is common in elite societies in Europe that spread to rest of the west

 

[ram4a]

Dude dont restrict her, even if you move to someother place...You cant change an Adult's thinking process...you can only understand them.

Give her full freedom, say that you are ok if she flirts with anyone..If she takes advantage and does it then Give her divorce (Collect some strong evidence for you)

If she doesnt take advantage then she doesnot belong to that group...Be with her !!!

[Biskot]

itla kuda vunnaru janalu......shocking man...

[KathiRamdaas]

22 minutes ago, mettastar said:

vaarni ... thondaraga pillalni kanu so that your wife will get busy .. adi best option anipisthundi .. aa circle ni cut cheyi slow ga .. worst people laaga unnaru

vaasi vaadi tathsa deeya...annitiki pillalu solution kaadu man...Planning kids is huge thing and Many don't like to plan early ...mana desis lo manufacturing common aa ley oka muddu undadu muchata undaadu anni pillal lone kanipistaayi