Thanks for your comments

[aryeman]

1 minute ago, NelaTicket said:

neku istam ledu adhi wrong ani neeku anipistondi ga.. so ade firm ga cheppu.. alanti pichi aalochanalu tana mind lonchi teeseyamani kuda cheppu.. idi ego ani feel avaku.. iddaru kalisi chese journey marriage.. 

close the page there itself after firmly expressing ur opinion.. malli aa topic gurinchi discuss seyyaku.. aalochinchaku.. 

move on as you both are good otherwise.. 

thanu chestha anat ledhu and i believe she will not do that if i say no. What bothers me is that the she thought I would be okay with this. Thank you!

[coolie]

1 minute ago, NelaTicket said:

oke amazon prime account koni evaraina vaadukovachu annattu undhi ee concept.. 

Free next day returns

[mettastar]

vaarni ... thondaraga pillalni kanu so that your wife will get busy .. adi best option anipisthundi .. aa circle ni cut cheyi slow ga .. worst people laaga unnaru

[NelaTicket]

1 minute ago, aryeman said:

thanu chestha anat ledhu and i believe she will not do that if i say no. What bothers me is that the she thought I would be okay with this. Thank you!

thought ki antha worry avaku.. 

neeku chexy gunta evaraina kanipisthe abba kathila undhi anipinchada.. idi anthe..

unless thought turns into dejire dont worry

 

Just now, coolie said:

Free next day returns

[coolie]

Just now, mettastar said:

vaarni ... thondaraga pillalni kanu so that your wife will get busy .. adi best option anipisthundi .. aa circle ni cut cheyi slow ga .. worst people laaga unnaru

 

Northies lo idi common abba...   Valla dressing choosthe parties lo vanthikosthadi..

[coolie]

3 minutes ago, aryeman said:

thanu chestha anat ledhu and i believe she will not do that if i say no. What bothers me is that the she thought I would be okay with this. Thank you!

Then your statement that you know each other really well falls flat...

[KathiRamdaas]

24 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Nenu naa first job lo oka north indian ammayi naa colleague parichayam ayyindhi. With in few months we were in love and almost kalisi unnam for 2.5 years. She used to live alone, her sister used to work in same state, but different city vachi velthundedhi. I used to share accommodation with other telugu guy in another room. She was beautiful, smart and caring person. Oka roju friday office nundi friend ni pick chesukovali airport nundi ani vellipoyindhi sudden ga. She didn't call or answered any of my messages until monday evening. I asked her next day what happened, friend tho bayatiki vellanu ani cheppindhi. I asked if it was a male friend and she said yes, mari mundhu endhuku cheppa ledhu ani adiga. nuvvu adagaledhu andhi, friend or boy friend ani adiga. He is getting married, kalavadaniki vachadu annadhi...naaku appudu ardham ayyindhi nannu oka option la pettukundhi..ayithe vaadu lekapothe nenu ani. I checked her messenger, naa gurinchi vallu fight chesukunnaru. Nuvvu nannu chesukovu andhuke I moved on ani vadiki cheppindhi. dhaniki vaadu nannu vadhilesthe chesukunta ani cheppadu. nannu marriage chesuko anadam start chesindhi after few days, nenu annanu if you are upfront with your past and current status with people you may had relationships with I will think annanu. Appudu antha cheppindhi he was her senior in college and they loved and decided to get married, but his family didn't agree, he still has feelings and he can't decide to get married or not. Parallel ga matrimonial lo profile undhi valla parents maintain chestharu, first nundi thelusu naaku adhi undhi chusthunnaru ani. one day edho match set ayyi she disocnnected with everyone and came back after a week that she got engaged and getting married in 1 month and we said good to each other. I was heart broken, cried my heart out and depressed, I changed my project and moved to another city. I literally disconnected from my past and everyone I know. Few months passed by and her sister called me one day and wanted to meet and took flight to my place. She said for what her sister has done and she knew she would do something like this. She was aware of her past relations and she felt that I'm being used. She said, she could see how much I loved her sister To cheer me up she took me to clubs, bars and travelled alot. With in few weeks we were best buddies and her sister came to know about this and she got upset. She called me one day while she and her husband are driving and introduced to him as her sisters's friend and I felt zero interest in their conversation and I got an impression they think that I'm her sister's boy friend, I told them we are just friends and I'm not ready for another break up nor I will let that happen. She got taken aback that I was going to talk about my past relationship and ended the call swiftly. Her sister's project ended and found a new one 1 hour from my place. We used to hangout every weekend. We never had a disagreement nor we had felt like we are bf and gf. We never had sexual feeling for each other. We have known each others life in and out, future plans and we came to a point where we could say anything to eachother without trouble. On one new year, me, her and friends went to party and she proposed me with a kiss. I was shocked and told her no, ippudu unna relation bagundhi ani cheppanu. She was so mature for her age and asked me the reason for denial, if it was her sister that made me take that decission. ayyi undochu ani cheppanu, she asked me to rethink if she was not related to her sister. I couldn't find a reason, as she was perfect in every way. life lo intha kante ardham chesukune and open ga matlade partner arranged marriage lo dhorakadhu  anipinchindhi. We got married with partial yes from both families. It has been best years of my life after marrige, we very happy as friends more than a couple. We have no jealousy, possesiveness or compulsion to live life as one of us dictates. Eveything was fine until one day, when we went to this get together north indian party of her friends.It was in one of their house, everone was looking forward for having good time that weekend. Everyone was drunk and dancing, having fun. Later in the night I noticed few of them getting intimate with others wife while dancing and their husbands couldn't care less. I was shocked and asked my wife what was going on. She said everything is fine, they are used to it. I was the only south indian guy in the party and couldn't see what I was seeing. Called my wife and went for sleep, asked her what was going on. She said some couples are ij open relationships and they don't mind having extra fun with a wink. I told her this is disgusting, how can do that with friends. I understand if it was dance club and with some unknown, but how with a person you see next day when you wake up. She replied it's common in parties, so does her sister and they know couples who actually share wives after parties. I thought it was disgusting and ended topic there, appudu annindhi evaru evarni force cheyyat ledhu valla life valla istam manaku endhuku ani. 

After few months, one of her friends husband called for drinks and we met at a bar. He brought the topic that I was disgusted with the topic. My wife told his wife and she told him. He said same thing  what my wife said and they are okay with it and they disucess this ahead and said I'm always invited witha big laughter. It felt uncomfortable and ended that topic and had few drinks and headed home. Asked my wife why she told them how I feel about their life, she said they asked if we would be interested and she told how I feel. I asked if she was interested and she laughed it off and said we can try if I want to. Now, I'm confused is it me that is only disgusted by this idea and they are just seeing if I would say yes. 

We love eachother too much, I don't want to loose her. Are we being manipulated into this? Am I outcasted? Am I not communicating right with her? Am I old fashioned? I couldn't sleep since last 2 days, she seems interested, am I married to right person? Did I make a right decision with my marriage? Even, if I say know, how could I forget this idea and still be friends with them? 

I feel terrible and I'm at a junction to make a decision without effecting anyone. Share your suggestions and thoughts, please

Her thinking is overly matured...that is big problem, I would suggest you to cut relations with those families and try to socialize with Telugu families take your wife along,  she will pick something from other Telugu wives...if your wife's old desires and friendships continues then you better leave her for good.

[TrumpCare]

if I get chance ..where other women is more sexy than my wife..I will go for it ....

[pillapichuka]

I think you need to have a clear discussion with her. Mention your thoughts and listen to what she has in her mind. You need to clear this immediately

[aryeman]

7 minutes ago, coolie said:

Then your statement that you know each other really well falls flat...

Adhe naa baadha...i know her very well, but her having this idea I couldn't take it..makes me kinda loner or under in the relation, right now.

[aryeman]

1 minute ago, pillapichuka said:

Point 1: Dont live in resentment. Avoid any further damage to career and health. (not for people who don't care about you)

Point 2: Being attached vs Being Involved (she was never attached to you but you for attached to her. She never loved you)

Point 3: You deserve better. 

Point 4: Stop wasting time on typing such long stories like you did here. The quicker you move on, the better it is. Control your mind. 

Point 5: Start interacting with people/friends and tame your mind. Go out, eat out, party, etc. Dont isolate yourself from things and people. 

Point 6: ITS ALL IN THE MIND :-)

Pandaga chesuko. po.

Thank you!!

[srdh21]

31 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Nenu naa first job lo oka north indian ammayi naa colleague parichayam ayyindhi. With in few months we were in love and almost kalisi unnam for 2.5 years. She used to live alone, her sister used to work in same state, but different city vachi velthundedhi. I used to share accommodation with other telugu guy in another room. She was beautiful, smart and caring person. Oka roju friday office nundi friend ni pick chesukovali airport nundi ani vellipoyindhi sudden ga. She didn't call or answered any of my messages until monday evening. I asked her next day what happened, friend tho bayatiki vellanu ani cheppindhi. I asked if it was a male friend and she said yes, mari mundhu endhuku cheppa ledhu ani adiga. nuvvu adagaledhu andhi, friend or boy friend ani adiga. He is getting married, kalavadaniki vachadu annadhi...naaku appudu ardham ayyindhi nannu oka option la pettukundhi..ayithe vaadu lekapothe nenu ani. I checked her messenger, naa gurinchi vallu fight chesukunnaru. Nuvvu nannu chesukovu andhuke I moved on ani vadiki cheppindhi. dhaniki vaadu nannu vadhilesthe chesukunta ani cheppadu. nannu marriage chesuko anadam start chesindhi after few days, nenu annanu if you are upfront with your past and current status with people you may had relationships with I will think annanu. Appudu antha cheppindhi he was her senior in college and they loved and decided to get married, but his family didn't agree, he still has feelings and he can't decide to get married or not. Parallel ga matrimonial lo profile undhi valla parents maintain chestharu, first nundi thelusu naaku adhi undhi chusthunnaru ani. one day edho match set ayyi she disocnnected with everyone and came back after a week that she got engaged and getting married in 1 month and we said good to each other. I was heart broken, cried my heart out and depressed, I changed my project and moved to another city. I literally disconnected from my past and everyone I know. Few months passed by and her sister called me one day and wanted to meet and took flight to my place. She said for what her sister has done and she knew she would do something like this. She was aware of her past relations and she felt that I'm being used. She said, she could see how much I loved her sister To cheer me up she took me to clubs, bars and travelled alot. With in few weeks we were best buddies and her sister came to know about this and she got upset. She called me one day while she and her husband are driving and introduced to him as her sisters's friend and I felt zero interest in their conversation and I got an impression they think that I'm her sister's boy friend, I told them we are just friends and I'm not ready for another break up nor I will let that happen. She got taken aback that I was going to talk about my past relationship and ended the call swiftly. Her sister's project ended and found a new one 1 hour from my place. We used to hangout every weekend. We never had a disagreement nor we had felt like we are bf and gf. We never had sexual feeling for each other. We have known each others life in and out, future plans and we came to a point where we could say anything to eachother without trouble. On one new year, me, her and friends went to party and she proposed me with a kiss. I was shocked and told her no, ippudu unna relation bagundhi ani cheppanu. She was so mature for her age and asked me the reason for denial, if it was her sister that made me take that decission. ayyi undochu ani cheppanu, she asked me to rethink if she was not related to her sister. I couldn't find a reason, as she was perfect in every way. life lo intha kante ardham chesukune and open ga matlade partner arranged marriage lo dhorakadhu  anipinchindhi. We got married with partial yes from both families. It has been best years of my life after marrige, we very happy as friends more than a couple. We have no jealousy, possesiveness or compulsion to live life as one of us dictates. Eveything was fine until one day, when we went to this get together north indian party of her friends.It was in one of their house, everone was looking forward for having good time that weekend. Everyone was drunk and dancing, having fun. Later in the night I noticed few of them getting intimate with others wife while dancing and their husbands couldn't care less. I was shocked and asked my wife what was going on. She said everything is fine, they are used to it. I was the only south indian guy in the party and couldn't see what I was seeing. Called my wife and went for sleep, asked her what was going on. She said some couples are ij open relationships and they don't mind having extra fun with a wink. I told her this is disgusting, how can do that with friends. I understand if it was dance club and with some unknown, but how with a person you see next day when you wake up. She replied it's common in parties, so does her sister and they know couples who actually share wives after parties. I thought it was disgusting and ended topic there, appudu annindhi evaru evarni force cheyyat ledhu valla life valla istam manaku endhuku ani. 

After few months, one of her friends husband called for drinks and we met at a bar. He brought the topic that I was disgusted with the topic. My wife told his wife and she told him. He said same thing  what my wife said and they are okay with it and they disucess this ahead and said I'm always invited witha big laughter. It felt uncomfortable and ended that topic and had few drinks and headed home. Asked my wife why she told them how I feel about their life, she said they asked if we would be interested and she told how I feel. I asked if she was interested and she laughed it off and said we can try if I want to. Now, I'm confused is it me that is only disgusted by this idea and they are just seeing if I would say yes. 

We love eachother too much, I don't want to loose her. Are we being manipulated into this? Am I outcasted? Am I not communicating right with her? Am I old fashioned? I couldn't sleep since last 2 days, she seems interested, am I married to right person? Did I make a right decision with my marriage? Even, if I say know, how could I forget this idea and still be friends with them? 

I feel terrible and I'm at a junction to make a decision without effecting anyone. Share your suggestions and thoughts, please

there are 2 ways you can handle this

1. take the pain now and let her know you cannot go against your cultural etiqutte, you never thought that this kind of thing would come up in you married life, you cannot compromise on core principles of marriage.. if she does not agree.. she will understand your next step.. you dont say the word divorce.. let her understand it

2. just proposing, get used to new modern culture, we have learned many things we did not see before,  try to learn from new cultures, instead of doing such things without wife being aware of it, you both can enjoy other tastes do it with full knowledge of each other and probably can discuss and have fun too,

 

now the final question is, when someone gets into such immoral acts, will the marriage stick any longer. nope....ts just a matter of time she like some other taste and would like to change the gear.. this will be your divorce moment in bad taste

the best thing is to discuss you principles with her and just stick to them, dont compromise, women would just wait for men to compromise so that they can play with them

[aryeman]

10 minutes ago, KathiRamdaas said:

Her thinking is overly matured...that is big problem, I would suggest you to cut relations with those families and try to socialize with Telugu families take your wife along,  she will pick something from other Telugu wives...if your wife's old desires and friendships continues then you better leave her for good.

I contemplating to move to another place, not sure if it works out okay. Thanks!

[hello987]

6 minutes ago, TrumpCare said:

if I get chance ..where other women is more sexy than my wife..I will go for it ....

[SpyderReddyR]

do it good man..