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[Desi_guy]

[Desi_guy]

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[psycopk]

Just now, Desi_guy said:

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neku RTC la kanipinchedi inkokadiki delux la kanipistadi... 

[Desi_guy]

Just now, psycopk said:

neku RTC la kanipinchedi inkokadiki delux la kanipistadi... 

Delux ekkinodiki RTC better anpisthundi...RTC ekkinodiki luxury kavali anpisthndi

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7 minutes ago, Desi_guy said:

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7 minutes ago, Desi_guy said:

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adekadundhi brother 

[Desi_guy]

Hyderabad lo undi...monnane mahanadu type lo sabhalu kuda ayyai...media was busy with chi reddy news

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1 minute ago, Desi_guy said:

Hyderabad lo undi...monnane mahanadu type lo sabhalu kuda ayyai...media was busy with chi reddy news

yem pikaru chivarki

[Desi_guy]

1 minute ago, whatsapp said:

yem pikaru chivarki

[Desi_guy]

Thadupari Kaaryacharana next meeting lo cheptharanta 

[manadonga]

3 hours ago, whatsapp said:

I am a 26 years old, working in IT. I got married 8 months ago. There are two sides to my marriage.

One that is talked about fervently on social media platforms, on WhatsApp family groups and with work friends as well. We write lofty messages, congratulate each other on small things, post candid pictures

and vow to be with each other till death do us part. My wife is well followed on social media. She enjoys the attention we get. She proudly proclaims the likes our pictures get. She declares us to be the best couple that she knows and people second her.

The other side of the marriage is when there is no one watching. 'Is this the amount of money you want to give me? Can't you earn more for your wife? Are you, even a man?' My wife LOVES spending money on... well, anything. From trinkets to fancy clothes, there is just about everything that must be bought. Regular trips are a must where we must spend generously on food and comfort. Towards the end of every month, when a large chunk of my salary has gone for her whims, she tells me that I don't make enough. She threatens to leave me as well. In my another answer on Quora Anonymous' answer to What's something that sucks about being a man? (that I am unable to edit since I lost the link), people have asked me to talk to her or stand up to her [a particular commenter correctly pointed out that this has got nothing to do with being a man but being an Indian man, it makes things a tad bit harder].

My mother is a heart-patient, due for her surgery in a month. Any threat or news of us being separated (which has happened twice already) sends her into a frenzy. I cannot do anything to endanger the marriage. I tried and failed miserably looking at my mother.

My wife also hates doing ANY kind of work. 'You should feel fortunate that I married you. I am the most beautiful woman in our town.'(She isn't. Not to me anymore.)

Want to know more? She has got not just me, but everyone around her to agree to everything she says. Whoever doesn't listen to her AND agree with her, is condemned as a harasser or an idiot. She would wear the most horrendous make-up and her father (his story is for another time/answer/epic) would nod sheepishly and say that she looks pretty. Because if he doesn't, what would ensue is thirty hours of melodrama which no living man has the capacity to endure. The same goes for me. She would write the cringiest messages or posts which I absolutely detest (also because they are untrue) but I would smile and say, 'Amazingly written!' She made me leave all my friends because they started pointed genuine problems with her. 'Hey! Hey! That temper will make life hard! I think we should all chill...' 'I hate Kedar! How dare he ask me to control my temper? I will get angry when I want!'

She will hold me close and ask me, 'Are you happy with me?' I must reply with a yes and a nod. That is so practised by now that I don't need to think to do it. If I dare say anything else, even wait to reply, mayhem marches supreme.

Oh I can go on all day about this, but here is some *** solid advice for folks (men and women both) wanting to marry.

1) If there are red flags, investigate! I did not do so in my case because I thought love triumphs all. But marriage is not about these shitty rhetorics. It is two personalities meeting. Red flags (like being sexist, pseudo-feminist etc.) should always be noted.

2) Listen to friends and siblings. I got my dose of advice. I ignored because of the above stated rhetoric. Don't make that mistake.

3) If you really want to do something in the arts (which is my dream as well), marry someone who understands your art or at least respects it. Mine says, 'If you are done *** around with your piano, can you give me some attention?'

4) Make your priorities VERY clear. I wasn't clear on mine because I thought it will come along later. No. If your weekend treks are a must, tell it to them and get them to swear on that before getting married.

5) Have a let-out. Quora is becoming my let-out and helping me in some way by venting. A human is far better. Find your spirit human, animal whatever.

Thank you for reading. This really helped.

Its all adjusting buddy 

nenu everyday gym and regular trekking and camping chestunde vadini 

after marriage pellaniki istam lekapothe anni musukuni serials chustunna 

[manadonga]

28 minutes ago, Desi_guy said:

Palle velugu miss ayithe riksha lo vellali ane bhayam vuntundi 

[Desi_guy]

4 minutes ago, manadonga said:

Palle velugu miss ayithe riksha lo vellali ane bhayam vuntundi 

[tennisluvr]

3 hours ago, whatsapp said:

Examples of Red flags Read below story thoroughly :

I AM FALSELY ACCUSED OF DEMANDING A DOWRY OF Rs. 10 Lakhs.

CALL FOR HELP!

Disclaimer : I am not sure if I am the right fit to answer this question, as I almost got married. There were red flags and issues in our relationship which I ignored, but had to finally call it over 2 months before our marriage. We were yet to be engaged. 3 months later, a police case has been filed against my father, mother and me and I regret to the core why i even said YES to getting married.

I don’t really like ranting about my personal woes on Quora, but I am doing this anonymously today because I am scared and a bit scarred. I am scared for me and my family. I don’t know but i may also be seeking help from anyone who could come forward to help my cause.

TL; DR;

I am 31 years old Software Consultant, making a decent living from my job. I am one of the few many people whom the society terms as “well settled” , because I own a house and i did it 3 years back.

The entire episode of looking for a matrimonial prospect started couple of years back. A lot of parents speak to me, i spoke to a couple of ladies and but things did not fall in place. However, in the month of September of 2017, we received interest from a girl who as also an IT professional. I never asked for her salary, but i assume she made decent money because she owned a latest iPhone. After the parents spoke to each other, her number was shared with me.

We hit it off well after initial hiccups. My initial impressions were that she somehow did not seem to be interested, but caved in due to parental pressure. She told me that she wanted to continue with her job in the current location(which was different from mine) even after marriage, as she was up for a promotion. I appreciated the fact that she took her career seriously and agreed to it saying “we would figure it out later on”.

Her dad called me one fine day and asked me if I could travel to meet her. I told her the same and that was the day when i noticed the 1st red flag. She told me that it was unnecessary to meet now and we could probably meet together with families. I wanted to meet her in person alone, so that i could know her better. Her resistance made me wary, however she later agreed to meet me (when i think of it now, i realize it must be her parents who forced her to). I traveled all the way to her place and she took her own sweet time to come to the mall where we were supposed to meet. Apparently even her siblings decided to come along. She was late by more than 3 hours. That was the 2nd red flag when I think of it now. We met, had a formal talk , had a quick lunch and it followed with me hanging around a coffee shop for another half hour. She said she was sleepy and hardly spoke. Being a person who had invested his emotions to her for the past couple of months, i kept on talking. She called off for the day after another 30–45 mins.

Her parents called me a day later and said that even her daughter has given a go ahead. My parents traveled to her native period on 5th Nov(an important date) to see the girl and finalize the matrimony. Everything was finalized, dates were discussed. They offered me a car for which my father politely declined saying we have everything and all we want is a good daughter-in-law. They insisted us to bring the baraat to their native place and offered to pay for the railway expenses. My parents agreed to that.

In the coming months, our daily talks reduced to once a week and sometimes even lesser. All this because she used to be either busy having her chai or seeing BiggBoss on TV. When i asked where she wanted to go for honeymoon, she asked me to look into it and make the bookings. I should have sensed a rat here, but like a emotional fool i ignored it. Her level of interests continued dipping.

My extended family was excited and going bonkers as it was supposed to be a marriage after a long time. I am very close to my cousins and this is when the story takes a serious turn. We were in the final leg of preparation and even the marriage invitation cards were printed. Less than 2 months before marriage, one fine evening, she called me and demanded “What is the intention of that video”. To give a context, by elder sister had asked her for a photo which she wanted to use for digital invite. My sister got the photo for this female conveying the same. However, now she feigned innocence and created a big ruckus on phone. I kept cool for sometime, but told her that I was completely unawares. If the photo was an issue, I would ask my sister to delete the photo and the video altogether. She got pissed to another level and told me that “I would send you to jail if this photo spread any further”. I was shocked and took a minute to grasp what just happened. I called my sister and informed her what just had happened. My sister thought she was responsible for this chaos and started crying. It was probably for the 1st time in my life, i made my sister cry because of a girl i barely knew. I was guilt ridden and was in huge dilemma. Though i understood that canceling the marriage 2 months before would have huge repercussions both financially and personally, i did not know how to take it up in front of my parents.

I decided to be honest to my parents and narrated the entire episode. They were aghast on hearing the “send to jail” part. I would always owe to my parents that they supported me completely and asked me to just try reconciling once before making it officially. I sent her a text saying that “Lets meet at your location and talk it out”. She bluntly replied to it saying “Leave me alone for few days”.

I waited her to call back for the next 5 days and finally sent her a text asking if she was apologetic about the incident. She said she did not want to talk about it and there was nothing to sort. I was again shocked how she took this very lightly. I decided to install a recorder on my phone to record the call in case things go south. Now When I think about it, its the best decision i took.

She called me couple of days later asking what the matter was. I straight away came to the point and asked her to apologize me. She said she was not apologetic and would not apologize. Instead she blamed me for being sarcastic the last time. I said i come from a decent family and am a lay abiding citizen and asked her what she meant me by sending to jail. She said she blurted out in anger but is not about it. I told her how disrespecting that was and how i have already told my parents about it. She lost it as soon she heard it and called me a low mentality guy with no sense at all. In the 1 hour recorded call she told 3 times that the marriage is over from her end and she cannot marry to someone who is of such a low class.

I thought it was over and went out of station just because I want to get away for a sever depression. My father officially called them and told everything. Things went south from there. The girl in question kept calling me on whatsapp/phone, sent text messages/emails saying she was apologetic for her behavior. I did not respond because I knew if i changed my mind now, it would happen again after marriage and I would be totally screwed.

We informed them about the decision on call and also through relatives. Still they kept pestering, so my father decided to block their number. 1 month later, the girl’s father with 5 other people came over to my place(where my dad lived), when he was in office. My mom was alone at home. They called me dad and he got scared for my mom. He called the local police and asked for security. The local police was quick enough to come to my home before they could have some and ensured my parents safety. Finally they called my dad saying they would see us in court now.

1 month later, i got a call from police. Truecaller told me it was a call from police(from a personal mobile). I knew what had happened. I did not take the call. He kept calling. Finally my dad spoke to him and he said that we have appear in their area’s local police station as there was a written complaint against. We immediately met my native place’s police where we had complained earlier when they had come to intimidate my parents. We recorded a station diary for that.

A month later on 10th May, my father received a police notice to appear before the girl’s native police as there was FIR lodged against my mom, father and me under section 405/420.

They have accused the following:

They had given cash of Rs 50000/- when they had come to meet me. They gave another Rs 5 lakhs when my parents went to meet their parents. And they had called off the marriage as i demanded another Rs 10 lakhs from girl.

An advocate of women right which I have always been vocally, I was shocked, angered and broke down. I have no idea what to do. We have arranged a lawyer to take care of the proceedings.

The only thing I have learnt is that the next time when a woman cries fowl against a guy, I would never trust the female.

Thanks!

Endi ra arey aa essaylu. Memu chesukolekana chesukonidi, chesukodam deniki ippudu ochi ila essaylu raasi edvatam deniki. 

[Biskot]

Vammo repu naku vachedhi atla untadho.. ee estory chdivithe bayam aythundhi