Why do a lot of Asian American women exclusively date white guys in college, but marry an Asian man and settle later in life?

[uttermost]

1 minute ago, dakumangalsingh said:

andulo alpha beta categories levaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

nuvvu cheppedi antha A U B ee akkada

but migitha cases existence loki consider chesthalevu

it all depends on how u hit it, problems with ~99% of desis is they aren't trying ante fear of rejection what they are made up of and also hitting and dating a girl is frowned upon in Indian culture and hence they are not good at that game ante kaani well groomed kaadu, curry kampu, or roam in groups biggboss chusudu reasons kaavu for desis not being desirable.

vaammo.. nuvvu win bhayya.

[dakumangalsingh]

7 minutes ago, karthikn said:

White papa avasaram ledhu. As Deadpool generalized desis I told I saw few scenarios.. Nothing wrong with telugu papas..I will marry one obviously 😀

You need to dominate your lane and be allergic to average Ani motivational speaker Eric Thomas videos chustha.. I try to follow as I acknowledged that I am being average and try to be better 

post some thanks

[Deadp0ol2]

8 minutes ago, dakumangalsingh said:

andulo alpha beta categories levaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

nuvvu cheppedi antha A U B ee akkada

but migitha cases existence loki consider chesthalevu

it all depends on how u hit it, problems with ~99% of desis is they aren't trying ante fear of rejection what they are made up of and also hitting and dating a girl is frowned upon in Indian culture and hence they are not good at that game ante kaani well groomed kaadu, curry kampu, or roam in groups biggboss chusudu reasons kaavu for desis not being desirable.

Ante first date roju chemata kampu tho pakkana koosoni porini patainchochu antaav anthe na?...nuvvu chepetivi anni better possibilities nen cheppetivi konni facts...renditiki teda undi, Also "dating a girl is frowned upon in Indian culture" ekkada raasi undi idi mana culture lo?  India lo datings a cheskora?....em maatladtunav

[dakumangalsingh]

50 minutes ago, Deadp0ol2 said:

Ante first date roju chemata kampu tho pakkana koosoni porini patainchochu antaav anthe na?...nuvvu chepetivi anni better possibilities nen cheppetivi konni facts...renditiki teda undi, Also "dating a girl is frowned upon in Indian culture" ekkada raasi undi idi mana culture lo?  India lo datings a cheskora?....em maatladtunav

it means mana intlo G pagalakodatharu ani,  nenu perigina environment lo aithe pori toh bike meeda tirugutunnadu ante g pagalakottetollu malanti small town boys ki adi common iga mee lekka metrosexuals kaadu ankul appatlo, gave jiddu mokalu maavi 2 yr varaku

[dakumangalsingh]

53 minutes ago, Deadp0ol2 said:

Ante first date roju chemata kampu tho pakkana koosoni porini patainchochu antaav anthe na?...nuvvu chepetivi anni better possibilities nen cheppetivi konni facts...renditiki teda undi, Also "dating a girl is frowned upon in Indian culture" ekkada raasi undi idi mana culture lo?  India lo datings a cheskora?....em maatladtunav

chemata kampu toh pakkana kusoni porini patainchochu ani cheppana nenu ??

what are you talking ? avi main reasons kaavu antunna, antha enduku just casual ga mem long island lo oka library ki poinappudu one girl inclined towards my friend to get his phone number maa ayomayam gaadu use chesukoley chance ni.

[Aatma_Gowravam]

3 hours ago, kevinUsa said:

is question is amusing because I've seen this happen quite often. So let me explain in layman's terms…

Asian-American women I've known who exhibited this behavior have justified dating outside their ethnicity for the following reasons (each correlates with one or the other):

1. They were brought up under strict Tiger Parents who controlled their social life.
2. They had a strict father who was borderline abusive, thus blamed the entire male of their species for their father's behavior.
3. They were raised in conservative Asian culture inside the home, but exposed to a liberal American culture outside. They chose to become more American.

So you can say it's a combination of dislike of their parents’ culture, dislike of their father, dislike towards their own ethnicity, and being in college… Having more freedom to do and date whomever they please. Think of it as the reverse of the guy sowing his oats but as payback to their family.

Now do you know the saying by John Adams that goes…

“If a person is not a liberal when he is twenty, he has no heart; if he is not a conservative when he is forty, he has no head.

We had a Similar quote. 

If you’re not a communist at the age of 20, you haven’t got a heart.
If you’re still a communist at the age of 30, you haven’t got a brain.

(Not sure of the Source). 

[tennisluvr]

3 hours ago, uttermost said:

what's wrong with telugu papas? asking seriously. they seem nice enough to me.

s0rry for harranguing, but I think you are getting carried away. There's no need to lose yourself to get a chick. Its okay to be boring biriyani eating cricket watching guy.

Its almost impossible to achieve what you described, really. some of those that do, go too far away from where they are comfortable, and it does affect their life.

the main aim is to be happy, no?

Never said Telugu papas aren't nice, I never had a negative or rude experience at the hands of Telugu papas so I am not trying to put them down or something. I never do that, however I point out trends about women in general not specific to any particular race. It's a different thing that we all have certain preferences those might be racial, cultural etc however that doesn't mean someone else belonging to a different category is any lesser. 

MGTOW isn't a completely established movement yet, it's fledgling and some of the MGTOWs are indeed incels which makes it seem like all MGTOWs are embittered incles, I don't think that's true. Plus you are right, no man needs to change himself a 100% to impress someone else as that will end up in tears anyway. It's good to be somewhat metro sexual these days, not at the expense of losing his core though. 

[tennisluvr]

3 hours ago, dakumangalsingh said:

whats this red pill ankul

Watch the Matrix movie, more carefully this time

[tennisluvr]

3 hours ago, karthikn said:

Yeah.. If one is a neck beard guy living in mom's basement complains that women are shallow etc.. Slowly eats the red pill and becomes anti feminist.. 

I recently read a book named Models by Mark Manson.. It was spot on. So much self reflection.. That book changed my perspective about dating in general, how women hate men who are needy, who doesn't have any qualities specific to him.like telugu guys roaming as a group, Friday night parties, fighting over heroes and politicians.(I was partially the Same and changed now) . But doesn't have any qualities which uniquely define him. Finding and Working towards self-interests is more important 

I read it too, great read. 

[tennisluvr]

Also read "The Rational Male", "No More Mr Nice guy", "The Tao of Badass" etc. 

Don't blindly follow any book though, understand the points as they relate to you personally, identify your strengths, and try to create your unique USP. That's the gist of it all. 

[tennisluvr]

3 hours ago, Deadp0ol2 said:

white guy can pick any girl he wants.....it is easy for them....mana desi men kante galeez ga a race lo evadu undadu, groups la tirugutaar, em maatladalo etla maatladalo telvadu, kompu kodtaa untaru, cartoon laaga kanipistaru....most importantly boring ppl on the planet.....desis ki tella di paddadi ante daanidi mother teresa manasu anna ayyi undaale leda desi gaani paisal kosam anna padi undaale 

Not really a lot of my friends married local women some White, few Black and some Asian and Latinas. However, none of them have those negative traits you mentioned above. Some of them met their spouses on college campuses where it's common to have groups that have mutual interests so if you are a well spoken desi guy and have something interesting to say, it's not that difficult to have any woman interested in you. 

I think some of them have also met their spouses on online dating websites, one I know met his on eharmony, one on match, one on okcupid and another one at a local salsa dancing club. Yes White men are preferred but it's not a 100% by any means. 

[dakumangalsingh]

4 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

Watch the Matrix movie, more carefully this time

yeah bro I know red pill gives you the reality but what is the reality in this context

[tennisluvr]

Truth be said you can get any woman of any race if you have the following traits, broken down by physical and behavioral traits

1) Be in good shape(no pot bellies please, don't have to have a six pack but no pot belly)

2) Reasonably tall(atleast 5'10" although you can compensate for being shorter)

3) Reasonably athletic with some decent muscle mass(again not talking about a gym rat)

4) Preferably not a thick Indian accent, ideally no Indian accent as it's still associated in the West with a taxi driver or gas station owner unfortunately. 

5) Be able to talk impromptu about anything, with a reasonable amount of confidence. 

6) Maintain eye contact and not approach any girl with the intention of getting into her pants(if you do you certainly won't)

7) Have some interesting hobbies atleast(play soccer, go hiking, maybe yoga/meditation for the spiritually inclined)

8) Be able to type up a message without resorting to cell phone lingo(d instead of the etc) and send them to people you match up with online

9) Most important, have no expectations of anything long term but just take the moment as it comes. 

10) Please don't bobble your head while talking this is esp an issue with some desis, it makes you look clownish. 

[tennisluvr]

4 minutes ago, dakumangalsingh said:

yeah bro I know red pill gives you the reality but what is the reality in this context

Look at what I posted above and start with that. 

[AlaElaAlaEla]

7 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

Truth be said you can get any woman of any race if you have the following traits, broken down by physical and behavioral traits

1) Be in good shape(no pot bellies please, don't have to have a six pack but no pot belly)

2) Reasonably tall(atleast 5'10" although you can compensate for being shorter)

3) Reasonably athletic with some decent muscle mass(again not talking about a gym rat)

4) Preferably not a thick Indian accent, ideally no Indian accent as it's still associated in the West with a taxi driver or gas station owner unfortunately. 

5) Be able to talk impromptu about anything, with a reasonable amount of confidence. 

6) Maintain eye contact and not approach any girl with the intention of getting into her pants(if you do you certainly won't)

7) Have some interesting hobbies atleast(play soccer, go hiking, maybe yoga/meditation for the spiritually inclined)

8) Be able to type up a message without resorting to cell phone lingo(d instead of the etc) and send them to people you match up with online

9) Most important, have no expectations of anything long term but just take the moment as it comes. 

10) Please don't bobble your head while talking this is esp an issue with some desis, it makes you look clownish. 

these are the traits of a typical american men....desi gaallaki ela untayy ivanni..