What kind of behaviours, actions, or communication patterns of a prospective groom/bride are actually red flags of that relationship?

[kevinUsa]

f the person seems to believe in sexist stereotypes rather than treating you as an individual, that is a red flag.

If the person seems controlling, speaks poorly of your friends and family, tells you how you ought to dress, gets jealous easily, or considers your hobbies and interests mere distractions from pleasing him/her, those are red flags.

If a person is quick to anger and shows signs of a punitive or intentionally intimidating attitude, those are huge red flags. It doesn’t have to involve yelling or throwing things. If the person has used “tough love” solutions on someone the person is close to, it’s a bad sign.

If a person seems more interested in your appearance than in your ideas, that is a red flag.

If a person seems more interested in how much money you have/make than in your ethical belief system, that is a red flag.

If a person is demanding and expects you to cater to his/her feelings and desires, but shows no interest in reciprocating the efforts, that is a red flag.

If a person claims to be “logical” while demonizing emotion, the person probably has a very poor grasp on logic and is also likely prone to being emotionally abusive.

If a person says “I’m going to be honest with you” more than three times in a conversation, or uses the word, “honestly” every few sentences, there is a good chance the person is a liar.

If someone is a braggart who is so interested in impressing you that s/he mostly talks about his/her accomplishments, and doesn’t even ask you about yours or seem interested in whether you have anything interesting to share, then the person could possibly be narcissistic.

If the person speaks poorly about most other people of your gender, it’s no good.

If the person isn’t willing to negotiate compromises on trivial lifestyle preferences, disrespects your boundaries, or disregards your feelings, it’s a red flag.

If the person has different ideas about parenting than you do, you can’t easily raise a family without conflict, so that’s not a good sign if you plan to have kids together.

[kevinUsa]

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25 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

f the person seems to believe in sexist stereotypes rather than treating you as an individual, that is a red flag.

If the person seems controlling, speaks poorly of your friends and family, tells you how you ought to dress, gets jealous easily, or considers your hobbies and interests mere distractions from pleasing him/her, those are red flags.

If a person is quick to anger and shows signs of a punitive or intentionally intimidating attitude, those are huge red flags. It doesn’t have to involve yelling or throwing things. If the person has used “tough love” solutions on someone the person is close to, it’s a bad sign.

If a person seems more interested in your appearance than in your ideas, that is a red flag.

If a person seems more interested in how much money you have/make than in your ethical belief system, that is a red flag.

If a person is demanding and expects you to cater to his/her feelings and desires, but shows no interest in reciprocating the efforts, that is a red flag.

If a person claims to be “logical” while demonizing emotion, the person probably has a very poor grasp on logic and is also likely prone to being emotionally abusive.

If a person says “I’m going to be honest with you” more than three times in a conversation, or uses the word, “honestly” every few sentences, there is a good chance the person is a liar.

If someone is a braggart who is so interested in impressing you that s/he mostly talks about his/her accomplishments, and doesn’t even ask you about yours or seem interested in whether you have anything interesting to share, then the person could possibly be narcissistic.

If the person speaks poorly about most other people of your gender, it’s no good.

If the person isn’t willing to negotiate compromises on trivial lifestyle preferences, disrespects your boundaries, or disregards your feelings, it’s a red flag.

If the person has different ideas about parenting than you do, you can’t easily raise a family without conflict, so that’s not a good sign if you plan to have kids together.

ika neeku pelli ayinatle.. most of these are typically found in Indian wives