are couples in Indian arranged marriages happy(newly married)

[kevinUsa]

Any thoughts ??

 

[kevinUsa]

life as a case example: My parents showed me a picture of a beautiful girl. Before I realized what was happening, I was engaged. Then long phone calls and flirting. Somehow I realized I was not able to connect with my future wife. Then we met and the courtships began. She was beautiful, a bit immature, but felt more like a friend. There was no spark. She liked me, and could n`t keep her hands off me.

Fast forward: 9 years of marriage: We both are very understanding, respectful and caring of each other (with occasional fights of course!). We have a lovely child. We are very successful in life with nice jobs and career. We both know, we don`t love each other, and live the life that others decided for us. All those who decided our fate are nowhere to be seen (except our parents). They have gone to decide other people`s fate. Indian arranged marriages are a complex situation which does not have a solution. Would I punish my wife with a divorce? No never. Should I make my parents regret for what they did? We love our parents so much to never want to hurt them. They sacrificed their lives for me, and I sacrifice mine for them. That`s the vicious circle we Indians have created for ourselves. The only choice I have in life to keep everyone around me happy, and go to bed every single day with a broken heart.

Anyways, life is not all that gloomy, especially with a wonderful child. At least I have the freedom to make her life happy.

To answer your question: Expecting everyone in an arranged marriage to be happy is like, expecting everyone to win a lottery!!

[AlaElaAlaEla]

https://www.quora.com/Are-couples-in-Indian-arranged-marriages-happy

[kevinUsa]

lifed from quora baa 

[Sarvapindi]

Arranged is the best.

[perugu_vada]

I am happily married for 5-yrs now  no complaints 

[sattipandu]

17 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

life as a case example: My parents showed me a picture of a beautiful girl. Before I realized what was happening, I was engaged. Then long phone calls and flirting. Somehow I realized I was not able to connect with my future wife. Then we met and the courtships began. She was beautiful, a bit immature, but felt more like a friend. There was no spark. She liked me, and could n`t keep her hands off me.

Fast forward: 9 years of marriage: We both are very understanding, respectful and caring of each other (with occasional fights of course!). We have a lovely child. We are very successful in life with nice jobs and career. We both know, we don`t love each other, and live the life that others decided for us. All those who decided our fate are nowhere to be seen (except our parents). They have gone to decide other people`s fate. Indian arranged marriages are a complex situation which does not have a solution. Would I punish my wife with a divorce? No never. Should I make my parents regret for what they did? We love our parents so much to never want to hurt them. They sacrificed their lives for me, and I sacrifice mine for them. That`s the vicious circle we Indians have created for ourselves. The only choice I have in life to keep everyone around me happy, and go to bed every single day with a broken heart.

Anyways, life is not all that gloomy, especially with a wonderful child. At least I have the freedom to make her life happy.

To answer your question: Expecting everyone in an arranged marriage to be happy is like, expecting everyone to win a lottery!!

the couple in question should start swapping antunna @Odale