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22 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

Only very few men actually don’t see the looks of women in arranged marriages. @karthikn is right. May be it is not the case with you, but most men care more about beauty than personality, education etc. In fact you are expecting way too much from them if you want them to be an intellectual. Most intellectual women don’t want arranged marriages anyway- the studious ones do.

most men what?? lol.

whatever karthikn or whoever says, men/women who have outsized expectations of how their partner should be, whether in beauty/money, will have to climb down and find their level. Everybody is not going to end up with a gorgeous wife, or a rich successful husband.

smarter, more social and wonderful people in fact have no awareness of this rat race, and find their mates within their social circle, without depending on their parents. 

Lets not fuss about 'beauty' too much, unless you expect to marry a Sonali Bendre lookalike. Most men/women who look after themselves are beautiful. And if they have an actual personality, they become even more so.

I really pity for people who go through the process of 'arranged' marriage, especially when they are not from the rich class. They are bound to be much more dissatisfied with the process and outcome, than people who pick their own mates.

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27 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

Only very few men actually don’t see the looks of women in arranged marriages. @karthikn is right. May be it is not the case with you, but most men care more about beauty than personality, education etc. In fact you are expecting way too much from them if you want them to be an intellectual. Most intellectual women don’t want arranged marriages anyway- the studious ones do.

If you are ranking women on beauty, to pick your potential partner, throwing up thought experiments of weird social hierarchical games you think you can win, you are already a deluded fcuk who has lost the game.

your best bet is to hope you hit some lottery, and hope some hot girl marries you for the money. After which you can lead an entire life blaming her for being a gold digger. lol.

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6 minutes ago, uttermost said:

If you are ranking women on beauty, to pick your potential partner, throwing up thought experiments of weird social hierarchical games you think you can win, you are already a deluded fcuk who has lost the game.

your best bet is to hope you hit some lottery, and hope some hot girl marries you for the money. After which you can lead an entire life blaming her for being a gold digger. lol.

lol well said

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44 minutes ago, chittimallu2 said:

looks arent the problem always... majority of the women who act like pappas girl and want to top the college are dhaddhis in real life from what I have seen... cant talk, cant carry a conversation or a personality... majority of them are fcuking boring 

cant generalize that as majority  but cant disagree with what you said too

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35 minutes ago, chittimallu2 said:

That is what I was saying...  these are studious ones who want to top the class and carry their parents pride forward by reading the books and doing the donkey work... vallani gattiga oka interview ki koosopetti rendu Qs adigithe kerchief theesi kalla neellu thuduchukuntaru matladadaniki bhayapadi.... 

The guys who go for them are also not capable of asking such questions anyway. They are mostly not smart. Not saying that it is the case with everyone, but the majority fall in line. They want a good looking girl and not a smart one. There is a reason why that industry itself is such a lucrative one.

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29 minutes ago, uttermost said:

most men what?? lol.

whatever karthikn or whoever says, men/women who have outsized expectations of how their partner should be, whether in beauty/money, will have to climb down and find their level. Everybody is not going to end up with a gorgeous wife, or a rich successful husband.

smarter, more social and wonderful people in fact have no awareness of this rat race, and find their mates within their social circle, without depending on their parents. 

Lets not fuss about 'beauty' too much, unless you expect to marry a Sonali Bendre lookalike. Most men/women who look after themselves are beautiful. And if they have an actual personality, they become even more so.

I really pity for people who go through the process of 'arranged' marriage, especially when they are not from the rich class. They are bound to be much more dissatisfied with the process and outcome, than people who pick their own mates.

That is like your opinion lol. You are trying to define how others should think. A simple truth for you: most people will rely on their most basic instincts. What is it that they crave deep down and make decisions on how they feel. There is nothing wrong in that. That is how humans have survived for so long. You cannot go and tell them that this is what you should be like. You are also betting that people are smart- they aren’t. They will not find someone in their social circle or appreciate a girl for her derivations of Riemann Hypothesis. Anyone who wants to be smart has to put in some sort of effort. Survival though chooses the path of least resistance. 

Ever wondered why women are expected to be beautiful whereas men can be unfit? It is because over generations ugly women have been weeded our from the mating circle. Infact, the ratio of beautiful women to handsome and fit men is very high. If the guy is capable of taking care of a family or is rich then everything is fine. He doesn’t need to be Adonis to find someone. Those guys who can’t take care of a family are being ignored too and that is how it works. What is the point of even trying to tell people that you should not judge women based on their beauty? Even if you say it, they will follow their basic instincts anyway.

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1 minute ago, Staysafebro said:

That is like your opinion lol. You are trying to define how others should think. A simple truth for you: most people will rely on their most basic instincts. What is it that they crave deep down and make decisions on how they feel. There is nothing wrong in that. That is how humans have survived for so long. You cannot go and tell them that this is what you should be like. You are also betting that people are smart- they aren’t. They will not find someone in their social circle or appreciate a girl for her derivations of Riemann Hypothesis. Anyone who wants to be smart has to put in some sort of effort. Survival though chooses the path of least resistance. 

Ever wondered why women are expected to be beautiful whereas men can be unfit? It is because over generations ugly women have been weeded our from the mating circle. Infact, the ratio of beautiful women to handsome and fit men is very high. If the guy is capable of taking care of a family or is rich then everything is fine. He doesn’t need to be Adonis to find someone. Those guys who can’t take care of a family are being ignored too and that is how it works. What is the point of even trying to tell people that you should not judge women based on their beauty? Even if you say it, they will follow their basic instincts anyway.

Most people do rely on their basic instincts. where did I deny that? but what are those basic instincts? Its not the same for everyone, atleast as far as looking for mates go, inspite of what your bs evolutionary theories have to say on this subject.

What's your point in declaring that you want a beautiful girl> same point when someone says 'beauty' is overrated. They don't want pigsty assholes like you, muddying the dating pool and driving women/men away with some grade A bullshit theories on how men/women are wired to behave.

How they chose finally is upto them. They can chose beauty or personality, and they want to be able to choose from both options. Unlike you, who's so sure that declaring that the 'personality' doesn't matter will increase your chance of finding a mate. lol.

I'm not the one who's telling people how to think. You are.

 

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25 minutes ago, uttermost said:

Most people do rely on their basic instincts. where did I deny that? but what are those basic instincts? Its not the same for everyone, atleast as far as looking for mates go, inspite of what your bs evolutionary theories have to say on this subject.

What's your point in declaring that you want a beautiful girl> same point when someone says 'beauty' is overrated. They don't want pigsty assholes like you, muddying the dating pool and driving women/men away with some grade A bullshit theories on how men/women are wired to behave.

How they chose finally is upto them. They can chose beauty or personality, and they want to be able to choose from both options. Unlike you, who's so sure that declaring that the 'personality' doesn't matter will increase your chance of finding a mate. lol.

I'm not the one who's telling people how to think. You are.

 

It looks like you cannot comprehend what I wrote. It is not my opinion, but that is how things have worked so far and will continue to do so. You are the one who is saying that you should look for the outliers. I am stating facts and you are trying to put your opinion in. Most people will choose beauty over personality whether you like it or not. Just because you deny it doesn’t make it less true.

FYI: When people can’t put in a good argument, they resort to verbal abuse. It is a sign of lesser intelligence, but hey I am not surprised. I just accept it as your basic instinct. 

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7 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

It looks like you cannot comprehend what I wrote. It is not my opinion, but that is how things have worked so far and will continue to do so. You are the one who is saying that you should look for the outliers. I am stating facts and you are trying to put your opinion in. Most people will choose beauty over personality whether you like it or not. Just because you deny it doesn’t make it less true.

FYI: When people can’t put in a good argument, they resort to verbal abuse. It is a sign of lesser intelligence, but hey I am not surprised. I just accept it as your basic instinct. 

if you figured out everything like you claim to, you won't be crying about the things that don't work exactly the way you figured out they should work.

 

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20 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

FYI: When people can’t put in a good argument, they resort to verbal abuse. It is a sign of lesser intelligence, but hey I am not surprised. I just accept it as your basic instinct. 

whining already. lol.

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26 minutes ago, Staysafebro said:

Most people will choose beauty over personality whether you like it or not. Just because you deny it doesn’t make it less true.

i explicitly said that I don't deny that people may chose beauty over personality. Its their choice. There's no need to codify it into the edicts of human history like you seem to want to do, by classifying it as 'the' base instinct of a man.

and you accuse me of having comprehension issues. haha..

you are dumb and inarticulate, but want to pretend like you know what you are talking about. give it a rest, dickhead.

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