BeingSoulful: Am I Expecting Too Much From my Husband

[Spartan]

I have been in the US for 2.5 yrs. I used to drive in India & an accident took a big toll on my mental stability to drive. I have not been driving here in the US. We could not afford a second car back in 2015 & DH was ok to pick/drop me from work. This has been going on since 2yrs.

Since last yr he has been insisting me on getting a license so we could look for second car option. I could get back to driving & it took sometime for me mentally be ready to drive however every time I drive with him, we end up fighting or I end up being upset with his rude comments. I know this is normal btw every couple. I took a few classes from an instructor, gave the test but could not clear the road test. He was just not supportive, he is a perfectionist and expects the same from others too. He was upset over the time & money spent for a failed test. This was a year ago. I agree I should have pursued driving more seriously/practiced & tried again. But with a hectic job, household chores and everything I just could not go back to driving.

Now DH blames me for all his failures at work & otherwise since he spends time to pick/drop me (an hr approx a day with pick up & drop). He has a hectic job too. I am 18 weeks pregnant, with extreme nausea & everything else possibly pregnancy could bring. We are still not certain of buying another car since we have a new home closing in Dec & with baby in March. Our finances might not allow a second car until end of next year. These days he has become extremely bitter, our mornings are not pleasant as he is cribbing over everything & ultimately everything comes down to me & me not driving.

I am already dealing with too much emotional chaos within myself with pregnancy, no friends, no family here or back home, absolute zero emotional support from in laws. With my mood flows & physical struggle it is getting harder to deal with him. I think I should not be forced to drive until we are sure of getting a second car. Am I expecting too much from him? He does help in chores at home when asked. Otherwise he is a caring husband. Do you think I should just get my license irrespective of getting the second car?

I am not confident yet on my driving. If I want to get my license I may have to get more classes and try again after a year almost.

NOTE: I have a learners permit expiring Jan 2019.

All your thoughts are appreciated. Thanks!

[panipoori]

Indusladies ah????

[Spartan]

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[panipoori]

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[k2s]

6 minutes ago, Spartan said:

I have been in the US for 2.5 yrs. I used to drive in India & an accident took a big toll on my mental stability to drive. I have not been driving here in the US. We could not afford a second car back in 2015 & DH was ok to pick/drop me from work. This has been going on since 2yrs.

Since last yr he has been insisting me on getting a license so we could look for second car option. I could get back to driving & it took sometime for me mentally be ready to drive however every time I drive with him, we end up fighting or I end up being upset with his rude comments. I know this is normal btw every couple. I took a few classes from an instructor, gave the test but could not clear the road test. He was just not supportive, he is a perfectionist and expects the same from others too. He was upset over the time & money spent for a failed test. This was a year ago. I agree I should have pursued driving more seriously/practiced & tried again. But with a hectic job, household chores and everything I just could not go back to driving.

Now DH blames me for all his failures at work & otherwise since he spends time to pick/drop me (an hr approx a day with pick up & drop). He has a hectic job too. I am 18 weeks pregnant, with extreme nausea & everything else possibly pregnancy could bring. We are still not certain of buying another car since we have a new home closing in Dec & with baby in March. Our finances might not allow a second car until end of next year. These days he has become extremely bitter, our mornings are not pleasant as he is cribbing over everything & ultimately everything comes down to me & me not driving.

I am already dealing with too much emotional chaos within myself with pregnancy, no friends, no family here or back home, absolute zero emotional support from in laws. With my mood flows & physical struggle it is getting harder to deal with him. I think I should not be forced to drive until we are sure of getting a second car. Am I expecting too much from him? He does help in chores at home when asked. Otherwise he is a caring husband. Do you think I should just get my license irrespective of getting the second car?

I am not confident yet on my driving. If I want to get my license I may have to get more classes and try again after a year almost.

NOTE: I have a learners permit expiring Jan 2019.

All your thoughts are appreciated. Thanks!

face it.. learn it and give the test again. be independent and be a woman.. 

[AndhraneedSCS]

Vammo.. Aunty emi chesina Drivin gmatram cheyyakudadhu ani fix ayinatlu undhi ga 

[Nellore Pedda reddy]

Ippudu pregnancy time lo Driving gola endi, anukuntam gani Indus Ladies complaints are valid 😕

[Rushabhi]

Lol intha godava driving gurincha? She is lucky she is fighting over this trivial thing.Naa friend kooda inthe drive cheyyamante tala noppi kadupu noppi neerasam ani edusthundi. She learns and then unlearns it and the tala noppi kadupu noppi cycle repeats

[MiryalgudaMaruthiRao]

@jajjanaka_jandri

summary pls 

[sam1234]

Your husband point is a valid one. If he is spending 1 hr of his time daily in drop/pickup, then I would suggest you to learn driving.

i know you have a past history with driving but things happen.

Doesnt mean that they will happen again.

You have to just be more careful.

also, since you said that you are pregnant, learning driving can be a little hectic now.

Talk to your husband pleasantly.tell him that you will learn after pregnancy in 3-4 months. Also, try to get a ride from your colleagues (if that's a possibility)

[psycopk]

Use uber/ lyft try to bother him less .. and yes it’s your fault too.. okade ennitki ani chastadu

[Heroin]

What ippudu @Spartan ee solutions anni indusladies lo post chestada andaru manchi serious ga suggestions istunaru lol😂 

[psycopk]

Just now, Heroin said:

What ippudu @Spartan ee solutions anni indusladies lo post chestada andaru manchi serious ga suggestions istunaru lol😂 

Ikkada follow aaiye ladies ki use avutai.. girls problems are similar in some cases

[The Warrior]

20 minutes ago, psycopk said:

Use uber/ lyft try to bother him less .. and yes it’s your fault too.. okade ennitki ani chastadu

Frustration peaks.. reality 

[jajjanaka_jandri]

10 hours ago, MiryalgudaMaruthiRao said:

@jajjanaka_jandri

summary pls 

G balsindaa ra bad cow. nannu summary adguthav endi bey, Jail lo unna neeku siggu raale